I had a vasectomy when I was 21. I never had any children. I am 42. I still feel it was the greatest thing I ever did. Every May I celebrate the anniversary of the greatest thing I ever did.
Getting a vasectomy was the best thing a man who likes sex as much as I do could ever consider. Now I have sexual freedom.
Almost 50% of the men in the USA who are over 40 have vasectomies. Therefore most of my friends do. I know of none with regrets.
Only people that have not had a vasectomy will tell you that you will regret it.Will my husband regret getting a vasectomy?
You have to continue birth control until your doctor tests you and confirms that there are no sperm in your ejaculate. After that, you're home free. Failure rate is only like 1 in 4000 last time I checked. We can't wait for ours. =P
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My friend only wanted one child, and ever since their daughter turned three years old, her daughter has asked every year for a baby sister or brother. Unfortunately, my friend tried to have another but couldn't get pregnant. Another child is not so much more trouble or expense than one. Another child can share the same room, and recycle from the oldest to the youngest child for toys, clothes, carseats, stroller, etc. Condoms and a diaphragm are much cheaper options if cost is a concern. But if you decide that you never want another child, then a vasectomy is a short recovery and cost is $350-$1000. However a vasectomy reversal operation is $6000-$13000 and results not guaranteed. I know some people who did later decide they wanted another child, but the cost of the reversal was an issue. If you are thinking that you might regret it, then wait until you feel more certain of your decision. If you did somehow miraculously get pregnant using a condom and diaphrgm, there are adoption lawyers and agencies that would typically cover all your living expenses during the pregnancy.
Better wait for some more time to give yourselves enough time to be really decided. Meanwhile, there are many other ways you can avoid having another child very soon. I have seen many couples doing this.
For a certain period of time, the woman is responsible for birth control
method. Then after that, for a change, the man is the one using the birth control method, mostly using condom. True, there are many
pros and cons with these birth control methods, but both have to give and take, make some little sacrifices, accommodate some inconveniences to achieve their goals. Talk it over before doing this vasectomy. Give yourselves enough time to think and decide.
There is no reason for him not to get a vasectomy if you are both 100% sure that you don't want anymore children. If you are not completely sure, you should look at other methods of contraception instead.
Even though it is possible to reverse a vasectomy there is a high failure rate and it should therefore be viewed as a permanent procedure. You should decide how you and your husband feel about future children and decide for yourselves, not do what others think is best for you.
I think you should yes. Only because it's gonna hurt like hell if he wants to get it reversed.
But because it's reversable you can do it, however it's going to be hard findinf a doctor that wil do it while he's that young and only has one kid.
Do it if you want, but note that you can still get pregnant even if he as a vesactomy. A vesectomy only lowers sperm count, it doesn't prevent you from getting pregnant. SO you will still need to be on birth control and doing everything you are doing now.
So is it worth the money?
If you don't want to have any more kids period then go get your tubes tied, but a vesectomy won't eliminate your chance at getting pregnant.
-Connor
I think you should wait. late twenties is still so young and you both really could end up regretting it later. I know men that did it and have no problems but they waited until well in there 30's you guys are so young you could still change your minds on children. I also think there is a way they can do i that can be reversed maybe you should look into that that way you get what you want but if you change your mind later it ok. Or maybe freeze some sperm Just in case.
Personally i'm fairly certain that a man in his late 20's will DEFINITELY regret a vasectomy.
I would probably tell him to wait on it, because later on down the line who knows, what happens if you guys become very intimate with the idea of more children?
I'd suggest just wearing a condom and maybe some birth control for the time being.
Although i think vasectomy's are reversible? so maybe if he wants to go through 2 surgeries later on down the line (1 to get it, 1 to get it undone) then maybe he wont regret it
He will if he develops post-vasectomy pain. Chronic genital pain that affects sexual function and quality of life is a catastrophic outcome for the affected men. Having pain with erection, orgasm, or after sex is the most distressing aspect. This outcome affects quality of life, yet it is rarely featured in the informed consent documents or pre-operative dialogue. Information on this issue should be presented at the time of vasectomy. Several studies have concluded that a discussion of chronic post-vasectomy testicular pain is imperative and should be included in the informed consent process (Morris et al 2002, Manikandan et al, 2004). The study by Choe and Kirkemo concluded that chronic scrotal pain was the most common post-vasectomy complication that can adversely affect quality of life (Choe and Kirkemo, 1996). Acute post-vasectomy problems with bleeding or infection have an incidence of approximately 2 to 5%. The incidence of chronic pain that can affect sexual enjoyment or function is also around 2 to 5%. Any vasectomy technique carries a risk of chronic testicular pain - see this reference. No technique has been proven to cause a lower incidence of chronic testicular or epididymal pain, although the ';no scalpel, open'; technique does seem to have fewer acute complications.
Read this:http://www.pubmedcentral.nih.gov/picrend鈥?/a>
Or read some of these post-vasectomy stories: http://www.vasectomy-information.com/sto鈥?/a>
Or read my fully referenced website: http://www.vasectomypain.org/home
I've done it. If you have the right doctor, the operation is trivial. You heal in no time and can be active the next day. It took me about 100 ejaculations to prove I was indeed infertile. Lowering sperm count is a myth. They thoroughly test you every two weeks to PROVE you are sterile. His sex drive WILL increase because 1) he will not be worried about pregnancy and 2) the hormones usually expelled will be re-absorbed.
But you're too young. Since you have had a baby, do an IUD for a while to make sure you really want him sterile. What it you won the lottery tomorrow. I wish now I had had one more!
Yes %26amp; No
Yes - he will regret it when his nuts blow up like a balloon cause his little boys cant get out.
No he wont regret it when he can bone you any where any time and not worry about getting you prego. (with your consent of coarse)
Well, they can always undo it, and that cost will be a lot less than raising a whole other child.
You have been together for 4 years and are in your ******* 20's lets say this doesn't work out then guess what next wife and he is ******! Dont get it this early in the relation ship AND in his life
I wouldn't recommend it.
yes becuase one day you will wake up and say i wish i could have anothr child but he cant
geez is it so hard to just wear a condom?
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yes it costs money too
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