How do you tell if your husband is being secretive becuase he is cheating or hiding something else?

My husband is very secretive about all his finances. He has taken out several loans with out my knowledge and now I found out that he has his bank statements sent to a PO Box just so I don't see where his money is going or how much money he has. He also has a bunch of text messages on his phone from family members of the ex-mistress. Is this all something to be concerned with.How do you tell if your husband is being secretive becuase he is cheating or hiding something else?
It's definitely something you should be concerned about. You need to let him know you know about it and he has some explaining to do. Catch him off guard so he doesn't have time to make up a lie. Watch how he stutters and tries to explain. Whenever your partner lies or hides something, 9 times out of 10 it's b/c he's having an affair. Let him know that you will not tolerate this and if it doesn't stop, you won't hesitate to leave him. Marriage is about sharing with your partner, not hiding things from your partner. Sounds like you married the wrong guy. I think he's living a double life %26amp; taking care of another woman(sugar-daddy)How do you tell if your husband is being secretive becuase he is cheating or hiding something else?
Secretive.....in this case, is very bad.





He has no reason to call a relative of his ex-mistress. He's hiding something from you. And going all the way to a PO Box to keep you in the dark is not acceptable either.





He's hiding something and going a long way to do it. Yes, be concerned. If he tells you that you're being paranoid, that's usually another sign that something is up.
He's supporting children you're not aware of.





ADD: If he was having an affair with her he would contact her directly. Because he's contacting family I say he has a child or children with her. This is serious. I hope you work and can support yourself. If I were you I would hire a private detective.
YES it is something to be concerned with....your HUSBAND is hiding financial information from you.......must have a child with this ex-mistress too; if you are in the USA and you are filing taxes you should be able to see how much money he's claiming he makes.....
yes, it is something i would definitely be telling him all about


and i wouldn't even listen to him without some proof, in black and white, about the finances...make him show you


if the roles were reversed, he'd be just as 'concerned', i'm sure
Wow, are you seriously so blind that you have to ask if you should be concerned about this? Marriage is about trust, respect and love, you are obviously missing some important elements.........
Um yes, be very concerned. This is coming from a married guy. I would never cheat in a million years, but if I was that would be a great way to mask it.
Of course,this is'nt a marriage if he has everything hidden behind your back..My daughters husband was also doing this and come this May they are finally divorced.
duh - if he defaults on teh loans, YOU are legally responsible if you are married. who gives a sh*t if he is cheating again when your credit is on the line??? You need to find out how to protect yourself.
Yes!


And you sound concerned... so that's good.





Now, what are you going to do about it???


You need to decide whether to be in denial, or deal with it.
yes there is cause to worry, either he is planning to leave, or he is supporting the mistress or has some unknown children.
Why'd he marry you? You a skinny, dumb blonde or what?





I'd guess I'd be concerned. He sure doesn't sound like he trusts you for nothing.
God yeah,that's so not right,you should be having words with him.Good luck.
You know what?


If I can't tell my wife about it


I shouldn't be doing it
ex mistress? I'd say that's a big 10-4.