Issue with him taking a co-worker to dinner. States it was business. Yet, she is the same level as him. I told him any business is to be discussed at work, not dinner. This was an arguement. He now has told her no. But, states that he didn't see anything wrong with it. I told him this is how things get started either physically or emotionally.
He states wouldn't happen, he knows himself. Yet, he can't love me the way christ loved the church, but he can avoid an emotional attachment to another women?????? How can this be??????How can a husband state to love his wife like God loved the church is a tall order, but?
He seems to believe that 'giving space' to another woman is no big deal, becuase it's not actually 'doing anything wrong.'
However, most adultury begins with the baby steps of 'giving space' (ie talking to someone of the opposite sex on the phone, letting themselvs think of someone else, just spending time with them at all), becuase it is easy for them to rationalize to themselvs that they are not doing anything wrong (';I'ts just talking!';) however these actions become bigger, and the person allows themselvs to do more, and they rationalize more and more things as ';well, we talked on the phone, what difference is it if we have a coffee together and talk?'; then ';well, we had a coffee together, how is it any different really if we have a coffee alone at their house?'; and they just keep lying to themselvs and taken one step closer to the edge.
Before they know it they have maken a grave mistake and destroyed all trust in their relationship, which even they actually regret, but thus is the steep, steep price of compramise.
Jesus helps prevent this when he says ';If you look upon a woman lustfully you have already commited adultary in your heart';, for even looking upon a woman to lust is already 'giving that space' and is a betrayl! You already have that intention in your heart to betray.
If you see these early signs in your relationship I suggest OPEN AND HONEST communication, ie TELL HIM EXACTLY how you feel.... It might be vulnrable and scary and you will worry that you will look bad, but if he is a true husband and man of God he will act only EVER to make his wife happy and take her insecuirtys away and do ANYTHING IT TAKES to ensure he is faithful FOREVER.
God is faithful...How can a husband state to love his wife like God loved the church is a tall order, but?
Is your husband a church goer, is he as devoted to this man christ as much as you think he is, or is he full of s*it like I suspect he really is?
Whether or not you want to believe it, christianity won't save your husband from being a cheat, only he can do that.
I don't believe in god, and I have no respect for religion, so do yourself a favour and put your faith in you gut and common sense!
If you think he's up to no good then he probably is, so use your head and get a bloody good lawyer, I'm sure your god wouldn't want you ro stay with a liar.
Matt. 19: 5
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
A friend of mine tried the same thing. He had a ';jogging friend'; that was female. He is now divorced, he has lost his family, his wife, and even his ';jogging friend.'; We strongly counseled him that he was playing with fire but he believed that this ';would never happen to him';. His wife ignorantly thought, ';I'll just trust him.'; She was also not wise.
Set boundaries together and help each other to keep them. All have a moment of weakness and fall however if you are never in a compromising situation then there will be no opportunity.
Wisdom: One that does not wish to fall from a cliff stays far away from the edge.
Perhaps if it truly was just business he bring you along??? If I have a meeting out of work with another man I'd bring my hubby. But let it be known he doesn't have to go to dinner with her to grow attached, this can all very easily happen in the hours at work. Maybe you guys shold pray together, or seek a little counseling, for those trust issues.
The situation you described is how things get started in adultery. If it is just a business dinner, tell him you would like to go along. Or if it were unavoidable that he must go, he should wait until you could go.
Women know when their husband is cheating. If you don't know it, don't accuse him of it.
If you know it, don't ask us. Just leave him.
God and prayer in the name of Jesus is always the answer to any of our problems or worries. Take this and all things to Christ.
take care.
All that is a little too deep for me.
Friday, April 30, 2010
What can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
New activities are a good way to bring back that connection.
Take a class together, travel, go skydiving, etc. Share new experiences.
After awhile we are so familiar with our partners that it seems there is nothing left to surprise us. Seeing them in a new situation reminds us what attracted us in the first place, and helps us appreciate them as a person, not just our partner.What can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
Love is not a feeling it is a choice
The question is does she still want to be in the marriage or if there is some one else.
My friend is celebrating his 30th something wedding anniversary next month. AMAZING!
And he says,
It is about you and your partner
And how important your vows are, your marriage is
Sometimes happy
Sometimes angry
BUT THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS PEOPLE SHOULD NOT DO
Don't spend the night else where
Don't leave out of anger
It is okay to sleep on the sofa,
It is okay to be angry for a month
But you both need to be committed to the marriage
All those happy pictures are the memories for the times you had to work through problems.
Otherwise people would have quit elementary school by the 3rd gradeWhat can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
Just leave without cheating and taking him to the cleaners. My wife cheated and then ran up a bunch of bills before she left with another guy. I'm stuck paying them off and that kind of thing is a monthly reminder that doesn't go away for a long time.
Counseling.
Or you can stop holding out.
Get drunk and f*ck his brains out and start from there.
Sometimes women think sex isn't a major part of a relationship, but that intimacy says a lot.(And then there is an oppourtunity for dialog..)
Give them a gift..the following book and tell them to read a chapter a night together and discuss it.
';The Five Love Languages'; by Gary Chapman
This book has actually brought 1000's of marriages back from the dead.
There is nothing you can do...Once that love is gone is it hard to recapture..He must have done something to kill that love...you don't just stop for no reason..You probably just need to move on and let it go and start over.
you need to go to a therapist and find out what is wrong with you it is not your husband it is you.you think it is greener on the other side i got news for you wrong.
It comes a time in a marriage where you will no longer experience romantic love, but just love.spots bloom-
Take a class together, travel, go skydiving, etc. Share new experiences.
After awhile we are so familiar with our partners that it seems there is nothing left to surprise us. Seeing them in a new situation reminds us what attracted us in the first place, and helps us appreciate them as a person, not just our partner.What can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
Love is not a feeling it is a choice
The question is does she still want to be in the marriage or if there is some one else.
My friend is celebrating his 30th something wedding anniversary next month. AMAZING!
And he says,
It is about you and your partner
And how important your vows are, your marriage is
Sometimes happy
Sometimes angry
BUT THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS PEOPLE SHOULD NOT DO
Don't spend the night else where
Don't leave out of anger
It is okay to sleep on the sofa,
It is okay to be angry for a month
But you both need to be committed to the marriage
All those happy pictures are the memories for the times you had to work through problems.
Otherwise people would have quit elementary school by the 3rd gradeWhat can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
Just leave without cheating and taking him to the cleaners. My wife cheated and then ran up a bunch of bills before she left with another guy. I'm stuck paying them off and that kind of thing is a monthly reminder that doesn't go away for a long time.
Counseling.
Or you can stop holding out.
Get drunk and f*ck his brains out and start from there.
Sometimes women think sex isn't a major part of a relationship, but that intimacy says a lot.(And then there is an oppourtunity for dialog..)
Give them a gift..the following book and tell them to read a chapter a night together and discuss it.
';The Five Love Languages'; by Gary Chapman
This book has actually brought 1000's of marriages back from the dead.
There is nothing you can do...Once that love is gone is it hard to recapture..He must have done something to kill that love...you don't just stop for no reason..You probably just need to move on and let it go and start over.
you need to go to a therapist and find out what is wrong with you it is not your husband it is you.you think it is greener on the other side i got news for you wrong.
It comes a time in a marriage where you will no longer experience romantic love, but just love.
Where is the husband/boyfriend of the 66 year old pregnant woman?
On the front page of yahoo,it says pregnant at 66.I just watched the video and it only showed the woman,where is the father of the baby?Where is the husband/boyfriend of the 66 year old pregnant woman?
Of course there's no father silly, that would mean that someone had morals and followed the laws of God. According to popular consensus these days, fathers and marriage are optional... quite frankly this attitude disgusts me as much as a doctor having the lack of morals to give a 66 year old woman IVF!! Hell in a hand basket, that's were this world is headed.Where is the husband/boyfriend of the 66 year old pregnant woman?
Hello?? A 66-year-old woman wouldn't be able to conceive naturally. Most women go through menopause in their 50's, some as early as their 40's. Which is why I believe that nobody should undergo IVF after they have gone through ';the change';. It shouldn't be allowed legally. Which is why this woman went to the Ukraine to do it, since they don't have laws against it as they do in US and UK (age 50 is the limit). She probably is single. On the news story I watched, it said she went through IVF.
Um, does it matter? People here are worried about their own pregnancies, not of some unknown father of a 66 year old pregnant woman.
She is divorced there is no man in her life, she got pregnant from a sperm donor using IVF.
shes single there is no father she concieved the child through IVF using a donor egg and sperm..
She had in vitro fertilization done in the Ukraine I believe. They don't age discriminate there.
does it matter no one will ever know it was a treatment through IVF look it up and do research!
Of course there's no father silly, that would mean that someone had morals and followed the laws of God. According to popular consensus these days, fathers and marriage are optional... quite frankly this attitude disgusts me as much as a doctor having the lack of morals to give a 66 year old woman IVF!! Hell in a hand basket, that's were this world is headed.Where is the husband/boyfriend of the 66 year old pregnant woman?
Hello?? A 66-year-old woman wouldn't be able to conceive naturally. Most women go through menopause in their 50's, some as early as their 40's. Which is why I believe that nobody should undergo IVF after they have gone through ';the change';. It shouldn't be allowed legally. Which is why this woman went to the Ukraine to do it, since they don't have laws against it as they do in US and UK (age 50 is the limit). She probably is single. On the news story I watched, it said she went through IVF.
Um, does it matter? People here are worried about their own pregnancies, not of some unknown father of a 66 year old pregnant woman.
She is divorced there is no man in her life, she got pregnant from a sperm donor using IVF.
shes single there is no father she concieved the child through IVF using a donor egg and sperm..
She had in vitro fertilization done in the Ukraine I believe. They don't age discriminate there.
does it matter no one will ever know it was a treatment through IVF look it up and do research!
What do I have to do to live with my husband in AIT?
My husband graduates from Fort Jackson in July and will be going to AIT for 9 months. (His MOS is EOD) I'm clueless as to who I get ahold of or talk to about living with him until I ship out to basic in October. Help! I wanna be able to spend a little time with him until I go to basic and AIT.What do I have to do to live with my husband in AIT?
Since his AIT is more than 6 months, he just needs to talk to the people in his chain of command. Fairly simple process, but he has to do it, not you.What do I have to do to live with my husband in AIT?
Kinda in the same situation but on a different level. My husband's AIT is over 21 weeks but now with the relocating they are doing with the bases they aren't allowing dependents to move unless it's over a 9 month AIT... Thankfully my husband got moved to another base for AIT and it happens to be one 45 minutes away, but he still isn't allowed to stay off base with us.
But he will have to be the one to contact his SGT and find out if you are on his AIT orders and allowed housing via the Army
you can move in with him when he gets to eglin afb
Since his AIT is more than 6 months, he just needs to talk to the people in his chain of command. Fairly simple process, but he has to do it, not you.What do I have to do to live with my husband in AIT?
Kinda in the same situation but on a different level. My husband's AIT is over 21 weeks but now with the relocating they are doing with the bases they aren't allowing dependents to move unless it's over a 9 month AIT... Thankfully my husband got moved to another base for AIT and it happens to be one 45 minutes away, but he still isn't allowed to stay off base with us.
But he will have to be the one to contact his SGT and find out if you are on his AIT orders and allowed housing via the Army
you can move in with him when he gets to eglin afb
A quiche my husband will like?
My husband in a meat and potatoes guy but I have to get rid of some things in the refrigerator...two of them being eggs and feta cheese. I thought some sort of quiche with feta in it would be great, but I am having trouble finding one that a ';meat and potatoes guy'; will like.
Does anyone have a good recipe or ideas?A quiche my husband will like?
My favorite website is epicurious.com - I believe that you will find some fantastic information on egg recipes and others as well. Peace!A quiche my husband will like?
Mile High Quiche
Pastry to fit bottom and side of a 9-inch springform pan ( I use Pet Ritz 9 inch deep dish pie crust)
1 pound sliced bacon
3 cups natural feta Cheese
6 whole eggs
1 egg yolk (save white to brush on crust)
1-1/4 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon nutmeg
1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
dash of cayenne pepper
3 cups light cream
2 green onions, chopped (optional)
Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Fit the pie crust into the springform pan. Brush the pie crust with the egg white. Fry the bacon until crisp; drain and crumble. Sprinkle the bacon and then the green onions over the bottom of the crust. Sprinkle the grated cheese over the bacon and onions. In a large bowl add the whole eggs, egg yolk, salt, nutmeg, pepper, cayenne, and beat mixture until well combined, but not frothy. Slowly, pour the mixture over the bacon and cheese in the pie shell. Bake 50-55 minutes, or until top is a golden brown and puffy and the center seems firm when it is gently pressed with fingertips. Remove to a wire rack and let cool 15 minutes. With a sharp knife, loosen edge of pastry from the side of the pan, and gently remove side of springform pan. Leave the bottom of pan in place and put on a serving plate to serve. Serve warm.
this isn't quiche but it's darn good! we call it bunch for brunch soufle take like a 6 eggs whip them up cut up a few slices of bread pick a type of breakfast meat or we've even made it with steak %26amp; liked it more! then chop it up into bite sized pieces add whatever cheese you want add some milk some seasonings whatever you normally like on your eggs peel %26amp; chop some poatatoes %26amp; you just mix it all up with the eggs %26amp; put it in a baking dish then put it in the fridge for at least 2 hours then bake it at 375 for like 40 minutes or until it's done i've also gone so far as to puree veggies %26amp; mix them in %26amp; nobody could tell the difference....but if he doesn't mind veggies you can just chop them up too
crumble up about 1/2 lb sausage and fry to remove grease, while the sausage is frying, peel and shred/grate about 3 potatoes. drain sausage. get your eggs beaten. layer potatoes, sausage, cheese and eggs in crust follow rest of your favorite quiche recipe for cooking time
par bake your crust( I use store bought)for 5 mins at 350
remove and let cool...line the bottom of your crust with feta ....top with thinly sliced onions(leeks are great to)...set a side
add 4 eggs%26amp; 3/4 Cup milk 1/2 tsp salt 1/4 tsp pepper to your blender or food pro.blend well...then pour over cheese and onions...bake at 350 for 45 mins or until puffed and brown.
for your quiche, get some artichoke hearts , green olives, and prosciutto for your base mix and add the feta on top before you bake. when i have left over eggs and cheese i like to make popovers. put the cheese in as soon as they are done baking.
Bacon and asparagus quiche.
Superb.
There are none.
Real men don't eat quiche. LOL
bacon and um something else in the fridge
Does anyone have a good recipe or ideas?A quiche my husband will like?
My favorite website is epicurious.com - I believe that you will find some fantastic information on egg recipes and others as well. Peace!A quiche my husband will like?
Mile High Quiche
Pastry to fit bottom and side of a 9-inch springform pan ( I use Pet Ritz 9 inch deep dish pie crust)
1 pound sliced bacon
3 cups natural feta Cheese
6 whole eggs
1 egg yolk (save white to brush on crust)
1-1/4 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon nutmeg
1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
dash of cayenne pepper
3 cups light cream
2 green onions, chopped (optional)
Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Fit the pie crust into the springform pan. Brush the pie crust with the egg white. Fry the bacon until crisp; drain and crumble. Sprinkle the bacon and then the green onions over the bottom of the crust. Sprinkle the grated cheese over the bacon and onions. In a large bowl add the whole eggs, egg yolk, salt, nutmeg, pepper, cayenne, and beat mixture until well combined, but not frothy. Slowly, pour the mixture over the bacon and cheese in the pie shell. Bake 50-55 minutes, or until top is a golden brown and puffy and the center seems firm when it is gently pressed with fingertips. Remove to a wire rack and let cool 15 minutes. With a sharp knife, loosen edge of pastry from the side of the pan, and gently remove side of springform pan. Leave the bottom of pan in place and put on a serving plate to serve. Serve warm.
this isn't quiche but it's darn good! we call it bunch for brunch soufle take like a 6 eggs whip them up cut up a few slices of bread pick a type of breakfast meat or we've even made it with steak %26amp; liked it more! then chop it up into bite sized pieces add whatever cheese you want add some milk some seasonings whatever you normally like on your eggs peel %26amp; chop some poatatoes %26amp; you just mix it all up with the eggs %26amp; put it in a baking dish then put it in the fridge for at least 2 hours then bake it at 375 for like 40 minutes or until it's done i've also gone so far as to puree veggies %26amp; mix them in %26amp; nobody could tell the difference....but if he doesn't mind veggies you can just chop them up too
crumble up about 1/2 lb sausage and fry to remove grease, while the sausage is frying, peel and shred/grate about 3 potatoes. drain sausage. get your eggs beaten. layer potatoes, sausage, cheese and eggs in crust follow rest of your favorite quiche recipe for cooking time
par bake your crust( I use store bought)for 5 mins at 350
remove and let cool...line the bottom of your crust with feta ....top with thinly sliced onions(leeks are great to)...set a side
add 4 eggs%26amp; 3/4 Cup milk 1/2 tsp salt 1/4 tsp pepper to your blender or food pro.blend well...then pour over cheese and onions...bake at 350 for 45 mins or until puffed and brown.
for your quiche, get some artichoke hearts , green olives, and prosciutto for your base mix and add the feta on top before you bake. when i have left over eggs and cheese i like to make popovers. put the cheese in as soon as they are done baking.
Bacon and asparagus quiche.
Superb.
There are none.
Real men don't eat quiche. LOL
bacon and um something else in the fridge
How many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
Although I am not fat, never been fat and I have a nice body, i still notice stretch marks on my hips. I really hate them!
What do your husband/ boyfriend think of your stretch marks?
And what do you do to make them go away?
Now, I am starting to use apple cider vinegar and cocoa butter
hope it helps.
Please share your story lol
And guys also can participate if you have stretch marks like us lolHow many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
I am skinny and have strech marks on my hips. I talked about that to my bf, who is very open about these conversations and he said and I quote: ';Hun, men don't care about cellulite and strech marks, it's the overall picture that matters, not the details';. And he proved me right. He is not the first man to give me this answer.How many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
I'm only thirteen an i have stretch marks, bought i use vitamin E , any moisturizers that have it are a bit of help, apply it when ever you want i guess, but the more often the better its going to work, cocoa butter also works well.
but just because you have stretch marks does not mean your fat, I'm not fat at all.
you can get them from just growing to fast for your boy, like when you hit puberty an your hips widen, if it happens to fast stretch marks will come.
but its also from being fat but if you say your not its probably not that reason.
they are there for the long haul unless you can afford plastic surgery. he loves them because he says they are part of me and the show that i have children.
What do your husband/ boyfriend think of your stretch marks?
And what do you do to make them go away?
Now, I am starting to use apple cider vinegar and cocoa butter
hope it helps.
Please share your story lol
And guys also can participate if you have stretch marks like us lolHow many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
I am skinny and have strech marks on my hips. I talked about that to my bf, who is very open about these conversations and he said and I quote: ';Hun, men don't care about cellulite and strech marks, it's the overall picture that matters, not the details';. And he proved me right. He is not the first man to give me this answer.How many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
I'm only thirteen an i have stretch marks, bought i use vitamin E , any moisturizers that have it are a bit of help, apply it when ever you want i guess, but the more often the better its going to work, cocoa butter also works well.
but just because you have stretch marks does not mean your fat, I'm not fat at all.
you can get them from just growing to fast for your boy, like when you hit puberty an your hips widen, if it happens to fast stretch marks will come.
but its also from being fat but if you say your not its probably not that reason.
they are there for the long haul unless you can afford plastic surgery. he loves them because he says they are part of me and the show that i have children.
Why does my husband say I have a problem?
My husband says I have a problem with my spending, but we have a budget and I stick to it. Generally, I save a couple hundred a month! Anyways he gets all weird when I buy something for myself, usually under $100.00, and complains for days. Is there something wrong with buying something nice for myself every now and again when I manage our finances so well? And no I do not work outside of the home. Am I weird or is he stingy?Why does my husband say I have a problem?
My wife just spends....I do the finances and have to juggle the checkbook. I would be OVERJOYED if she would ONLY spend a couple hundred a month......
He needs a case of reality. It sounds like you're doing a great job!Why does my husband say I have a problem?
We only hear your side of the story; you don't share his viewpoint. So, my response is...it depends.
Do you ever buy him something with the money you save?
Are you you buying lower quality items in one area in order to have money to purchase gifts for yourself?
Do you ever use the money for something you two can enjoy together: a getaway, home improvement, etc.?
Perhaps he feels that just because you have a few extra dollars now, that doesn't mean you should spend it. The economy is in a very unpredictable state. In fact, it's likely to get worse before it gets better. Perhaps these little niceties you buy for yourself aren't the wisest investment these days.
No there is nothing wrong as long as you are not in debt. If you have debt you should pay it off and save as much as you can.
If you dont have much or any debt then there is no problem buying yourself stuff. Clearly you married a penny pincher, a cheapskate, a man who will get upset about any money you spend for no reason. My ex was like that, glad I didnt marry him. My ex would be upset when I would buy 12 dollars worth of yarn to make a blanket!
Next time whenever you buy something nice for you, buy similar thing for him as well. Watch %26amp; enjoy the reaction.
if he is one who make money so he knows better about his job situation. but if in reality you don't need anything necessary for yourself then if he is saying don't buy then you don't.
He's way out of line on this attitude.
Im going to guess at this one!! I bet you dont have a job? He feels like he is being taking advatage of!
My wife just spends....I do the finances and have to juggle the checkbook. I would be OVERJOYED if she would ONLY spend a couple hundred a month......
He needs a case of reality. It sounds like you're doing a great job!Why does my husband say I have a problem?
We only hear your side of the story; you don't share his viewpoint. So, my response is...it depends.
Do you ever buy him something with the money you save?
Are you you buying lower quality items in one area in order to have money to purchase gifts for yourself?
Do you ever use the money for something you two can enjoy together: a getaway, home improvement, etc.?
Perhaps he feels that just because you have a few extra dollars now, that doesn't mean you should spend it. The economy is in a very unpredictable state. In fact, it's likely to get worse before it gets better. Perhaps these little niceties you buy for yourself aren't the wisest investment these days.
No there is nothing wrong as long as you are not in debt. If you have debt you should pay it off and save as much as you can.
If you dont have much or any debt then there is no problem buying yourself stuff. Clearly you married a penny pincher, a cheapskate, a man who will get upset about any money you spend for no reason. My ex was like that, glad I didnt marry him. My ex would be upset when I would buy 12 dollars worth of yarn to make a blanket!
Next time whenever you buy something nice for you, buy similar thing for him as well. Watch %26amp; enjoy the reaction.
if he is one who make money so he knows better about his job situation. but if in reality you don't need anything necessary for yourself then if he is saying don't buy then you don't.
He's way out of line on this attitude.
Im going to guess at this one!! I bet you dont have a job? He feels like he is being taking advatage of!
What would the council give me if i left my husband?
Im planning on leaving my husband, i have 3 children 12 boy,6 boy ,2 yr old girl.I cant afford the mortgage on my own,the morgage is in his name, so ill have to leave.If the council eventually offered me somewhere would it be 2 bedrooms etc?What would the council give me if i left my husband?
what council...... the divorce courts.... determine what you get...
you determine where you live.What would the council give me if i left my husband?
You need legal advice. If you are divorcing then the odds are in your favour that you and the children can remain in the family home because of the ages of the children.
If you just up and leave the council may consider that you have made yourself intentionally homeless and therefor they are not obliged to house you and the children.
You really should investigate what your options are before just up and leaving.
Try Citizens Advice Bureau or a fixed fee interview with a solicitor before you do anything.
If all of the children are his and you have lived there since you were married (hopefully for 13 or more years) you may get enough child support to afford the house, however, remember that your oldest only has 6 years left, unless he goes to college. But even if you could afford it at that point, could you afford the utilities, food and other items on top of it? Find out what you can expect on child support and then go from there. Start looking at places around where you want to live and find out what the rent would be. You will probably need a 3 BR place. Also, if you have to sell the home, your husband will have to buy you out if he plans to keep it, so that will give you some money. Also, get a good lawyer and don't forget about his pension/retirement. After all you have been married for over 10 years, right?
You don't have to leave the house, you are the main child carer right? It doesn't matter if the mortgage is in his name or joint names. If you are married, you are entitled to half. Even if you are not married, you would be considered common law and entitled to half. Were you planning on telling your husband you want out of the relationship? If you just leave, you will be making yourself deliberately homeless and the council won't help. I think you would have to prove physical abuse before they would help you that way. You will need to tell your husband you want out probably. Consult a lawyer for advice - there are lots that do a free first session - look in your local paper. Definitely get legal advice though even if it means hiding a little money away every week for a month so you can afford the fee if you can't find a free one. Don't rush into anything, that would be a mistake and you may find the council don't want to know. Your hubbie is still required to support you and the kids if you break up you know. Good luck
It doesn't matter whether the house is in his name or not, he would have to give you at least 50% of the equity. You would also be eligible to occupy the house until the youngest child is 18. Therefore the council wouldn't be very helpful as you would quite low down on their list.
I think you are probably in a difficult situation as the mortgage in his name but in divorce settlement he has to give you half.This means you would have money and therefore would not be in a needy case for a council property...its all very complicated.
depends where you are you will get a 3 bed as you haue 2 boys and a girl some places you bid on places so you can chose where you want to live bid means you put a ref in so you can see if you get the place you want their is a wait i do wish u luck
You need to speak to a lawyer right away and explain your circumstance. It could take a long time to get offered a council house.
Please wait until you speak to a divorce lawyer.
get a good lawyer it my cast a lot but it will be worth it in the end she/he will take everything from ur husband money, house, etc
the council will offer you something in an area no one else wants. A three bed-roomed house I would imagine
He would have to leave the house.
The council? Where do you live?spots bloom-
what council...... the divorce courts.... determine what you get...
you determine where you live.What would the council give me if i left my husband?
You need legal advice. If you are divorcing then the odds are in your favour that you and the children can remain in the family home because of the ages of the children.
If you just up and leave the council may consider that you have made yourself intentionally homeless and therefor they are not obliged to house you and the children.
You really should investigate what your options are before just up and leaving.
Try Citizens Advice Bureau or a fixed fee interview with a solicitor before you do anything.
If all of the children are his and you have lived there since you were married (hopefully for 13 or more years) you may get enough child support to afford the house, however, remember that your oldest only has 6 years left, unless he goes to college. But even if you could afford it at that point, could you afford the utilities, food and other items on top of it? Find out what you can expect on child support and then go from there. Start looking at places around where you want to live and find out what the rent would be. You will probably need a 3 BR place. Also, if you have to sell the home, your husband will have to buy you out if he plans to keep it, so that will give you some money. Also, get a good lawyer and don't forget about his pension/retirement. After all you have been married for over 10 years, right?
You don't have to leave the house, you are the main child carer right? It doesn't matter if the mortgage is in his name or joint names. If you are married, you are entitled to half. Even if you are not married, you would be considered common law and entitled to half. Were you planning on telling your husband you want out of the relationship? If you just leave, you will be making yourself deliberately homeless and the council won't help. I think you would have to prove physical abuse before they would help you that way. You will need to tell your husband you want out probably. Consult a lawyer for advice - there are lots that do a free first session - look in your local paper. Definitely get legal advice though even if it means hiding a little money away every week for a month so you can afford the fee if you can't find a free one. Don't rush into anything, that would be a mistake and you may find the council don't want to know. Your hubbie is still required to support you and the kids if you break up you know. Good luck
It doesn't matter whether the house is in his name or not, he would have to give you at least 50% of the equity. You would also be eligible to occupy the house until the youngest child is 18. Therefore the council wouldn't be very helpful as you would quite low down on their list.
I think you are probably in a difficult situation as the mortgage in his name but in divorce settlement he has to give you half.This means you would have money and therefore would not be in a needy case for a council property...its all very complicated.
depends where you are you will get a 3 bed as you haue 2 boys and a girl some places you bid on places so you can chose where you want to live bid means you put a ref in so you can see if you get the place you want their is a wait i do wish u luck
You need to speak to a lawyer right away and explain your circumstance. It could take a long time to get offered a council house.
Please wait until you speak to a divorce lawyer.
get a good lawyer it my cast a lot but it will be worth it in the end she/he will take everything from ur husband money, house, etc
the council will offer you something in an area no one else wants. A three bed-roomed house I would imagine
He would have to leave the house.
The council? Where do you live?
How can a widow ask for claims from her 2nd husband's estate when she is taking benefits on account of her 1st?
If a woman continues to take widow benefit w.r.t to her 1st husband in India from the govt in the form of pension, compensatory job and a house, is she still eligible to ask for claims from property of her 2nd husband? Is it not asking for widow benefit twice? How can a widow ask for claims from her 2nd husband's estate when she is taking benefits on account of her 1st?
Its probably best to call up your local government agency for some advice.How can a widow ask for claims from her 2nd husband's estate when she is taking benefits on account of her 1st?
property and pension are two different things.
YOU CANT !
Its probably best to call up your local government agency for some advice.How can a widow ask for claims from her 2nd husband's estate when she is taking benefits on account of her 1st?
property and pension are two different things.
YOU CANT !
Am I a first time hone buyer? I divorced my husband 2 yrs ago and was Et ux on the loan?
I bought out his interest in the home in 2-09 with some cash loaned to me by a friend. I want to refinance the house to pay him back or should I try to get a new loan?Am I a first time hone buyer? I divorced my husband 2 yrs ago and was Et ux on the loan?
A refinance is a new loan.
You do not qualify for first time home buyer credit.Am I a first time hone buyer? I divorced my husband 2 yrs ago and was Et ux on the loan?
Refinancing is getting a new loan.
A refinance is a new loan.
You do not qualify for first time home buyer credit.Am I a first time hone buyer? I divorced my husband 2 yrs ago and was Et ux on the loan?
Refinancing is getting a new loan.
How can my husband raise his credit score quickly?
He needs to raise his score a little in order for us to refinance our mortgage. He only has one credit card in his name which he doesn't use, he only pays off. Would it beneficial if I added him to my credit card (as a secondary cardholder) which I use frequently and pay off monthly? What else can we do??How can my husband raise his credit score quickly?
He might try simple credit repair to remove any negative items or errors. He could get a 40 point bump or more in 45 days or less.How can my husband raise his credit score quickly?
I don't think it's a quick process. One thing he can do is use his credit card more often, but the important thing is to have the money on hand first.
Don't pay things off completely. If you spend 100 dollars, pay 50 dollars for the next two months. Credit is basically a history of someone responsibly paying for credit debt on time. If you payed the 100 dollars before you get the bill, its like it never even happened.
You will have to pay interest but its a small price to pay to help get good credit.
I'm not sure about putting him on your card unless you're in debt with that card and he can help pay it off on time or something..
He might try simple credit repair to remove any negative items or errors. He could get a 40 point bump or more in 45 days or less.How can my husband raise his credit score quickly?
I don't think it's a quick process. One thing he can do is use his credit card more often, but the important thing is to have the money on hand first.
Don't pay things off completely. If you spend 100 dollars, pay 50 dollars for the next two months. Credit is basically a history of someone responsibly paying for credit debt on time. If you payed the 100 dollars before you get the bill, its like it never even happened.
You will have to pay interest but its a small price to pay to help get good credit.
I'm not sure about putting him on your card unless you're in debt with that card and he can help pay it off on time or something..
Do I have a right to get angry if my husband is writing to exgirlfriends?
A few months ago my husbands college girlfriend contacted him on myspace. This is a girl he lived with for a year and was in love with. They only split up because she went to another college. They wrote back and forth a few times before he told me about it. His excuse was he was not sure what she was going to say and he did not want me to get mad if she still wanted them to be together. I was a bit upset but allowed it to happen and said that he needed to remain honest with me about her intentions. They have been writing for a few months now. Then last week he was contacted by his highschool sweetheart. Yet another girl he spent time with and said I love you to. He found out she has had a few kids and is now divorced, but he did not tell me. I heard him telling his mother about things that were going on in her life. His mother still has a picture of the two of them hanging on her wall and really like that girl., but doesnt really care for me. He says I have no right to be upset. DO I?Do I have a right to get angry if my husband is writing to exgirlfriends?
You are upset about it so of course you have a right to feel that way. Really what this comes down to, however, is how secure you are in your relationship with him. Do you think he would cheat on you or leave you for one of these women? He is obviously being secretive about his conversations with them. Perhaps you need to have a conversation informing him that you are uncomfortable with his continued talks with them, mostly because he is not telling you about them and ask him how he would like you to approach the issue and remind him how he might feel in your place.Do I have a right to get angry if my husband is writing to exgirlfriends?
You have the right to be concerned, but if they are just talking as friends and catching up you shouldn't worry too much.
you have a right to feel whatever itis you are feeling.
however feelings are not realities. that is not to say feelings are not real..... it means that if you feel your husband is doing something wrong that doesnt mean he is...
yes ! would he be upset or mad if you wrote your old boyfriends? what goes around comes around
girl, it would bother me. sure. out of respect for you - he should keep the contact at a minimum and let them know why.
i have an ex that i keep in touch with but she knows i have a new love and have no intention of screwing around on her. we talk periodically. live in different states, and my current partner does get a little jeleous. i understand. i get secretly jeleous too when my partners ex lovers come around or call. mostly because they are psycho and have weird boundaries. like they want to borrow the lawn mower or something.... like i cant see right thru that.
but then again i know two of my lovers ex's whom i get along with well and see no reason to question them. they have clearly moved on. its when they dont and are fishing for your husbands attention that its out of line. dont be afraid to speak your mind to him. let him know it bothers you.
I would cut if off right now, one way or the other. He's married to you and she should stay out of your lives and how dare he open the door for her.
I'd tell him to choose right this minute and if he chooses you, he should let you talk to that woman to tell her to move along.
If he chooses her, you haven't lost anything but a hemorrhoid.
If he says he needs time, or he's not sure, then YOU decide and toss his *** out on the street. Maybe she'll pick up his homeless no good ***.
i dont think u should be upset to soon...i think u should make sure u know wat they are writing to eachother about and if some of the letters are seriouse...then u can be angry...but just keep and eye on the letters
and about the other girl...just make sure nothing gets to seriouse between them...keep them away from eachother and make sure u get his mother to like u
Tell him this makes you uncomfortable. If he really understands, he will stop or try to involve you in the communications and be less secretive to aliviate your suspicions. Try asking him to share about them so you know they arent a threat. If you trust him and nothing is going on, he should have no problems being open. If there is something to worry about, be will be deffencive. Just be careful NOT to ask him to stop talking to them. Its his choice to make and if you ask, he might blame you for the loss of freindship and be upset.
Unless he's willing to include you in the friendship, there's something not quite right there. I have a male friend or two who reoccur out of my past. I would never see any of them without my husband present, and I'd never as much as email them or talk on the phone with them without mentioning it to my husband.
Your feelings are yours and yours alone. NO ONE has the right to tell you that your feelings are wrong or inappropriate or misplaced.
I'd feel more hurt than upset at your situation. Your mother in law sounds like she's insensitive to your feelings and your husband needs to re-focus on you. Start ';dating'; again and create some new memories as well as and jog his memory as to why he fell in love and married YOU!! :-) His ex's need to get a life and show some respect toward you - lamers!! I'm so on YOUR side on this one!!!!!!!!
yes u have the right to be. tell him it is then if he still disagrees walk out file for divorice then take 50% of everything really show him how it all GOES DOWN!
Of coarse you have a right to feel upset. You are human and entitled to feelings.
I would want to no what he is gaining by this.
Sweety you have the right to be upset because the sun goes down, or the c o c k crows at 5 am or anything else that is unsettling. ........ anyone that hides conversations with ex's is not trustworthy...and you really oughta evaluate the relationship....may be time for a new adventure of your own.
Well if u ask GOD for help, i can assure u that he will show u in good time.
damn straight, you have a right to be upset! I'd be downright PISSED!
He has no right to keep things from you because he thinks you'll be mad. Of course you would get mad if she wanted to get back together with him! He's your husband! You're SUPPOSED to get mad if he's having a relationship (and yes, it's a relationship, even if they're just penpals) with someone who would like to see your marriage end.
You have a right to know who is in your husband's life, whether it's by email or any other means. He's making excuses for his secretive behavior, and trying to make you out to be the bad guy. Don't let him get away with that!!!
You do but, those women want you to get in a fight so you could leave him.Let them know that you know and have no problem with it. He was honest with you isn't that what counts. I am sure he could of done this without you knowing but he told you. If you were uncomfortable with this you should of said something since the beginning. Don't fight over something that you think might happen
You are upset about it so of course you have a right to feel that way. Really what this comes down to, however, is how secure you are in your relationship with him. Do you think he would cheat on you or leave you for one of these women? He is obviously being secretive about his conversations with them. Perhaps you need to have a conversation informing him that you are uncomfortable with his continued talks with them, mostly because he is not telling you about them and ask him how he would like you to approach the issue and remind him how he might feel in your place.Do I have a right to get angry if my husband is writing to exgirlfriends?
You have the right to be concerned, but if they are just talking as friends and catching up you shouldn't worry too much.
you have a right to feel whatever itis you are feeling.
however feelings are not realities. that is not to say feelings are not real..... it means that if you feel your husband is doing something wrong that doesnt mean he is...
yes ! would he be upset or mad if you wrote your old boyfriends? what goes around comes around
girl, it would bother me. sure. out of respect for you - he should keep the contact at a minimum and let them know why.
i have an ex that i keep in touch with but she knows i have a new love and have no intention of screwing around on her. we talk periodically. live in different states, and my current partner does get a little jeleous. i understand. i get secretly jeleous too when my partners ex lovers come around or call. mostly because they are psycho and have weird boundaries. like they want to borrow the lawn mower or something.... like i cant see right thru that.
but then again i know two of my lovers ex's whom i get along with well and see no reason to question them. they have clearly moved on. its when they dont and are fishing for your husbands attention that its out of line. dont be afraid to speak your mind to him. let him know it bothers you.
I would cut if off right now, one way or the other. He's married to you and she should stay out of your lives and how dare he open the door for her.
I'd tell him to choose right this minute and if he chooses you, he should let you talk to that woman to tell her to move along.
If he chooses her, you haven't lost anything but a hemorrhoid.
If he says he needs time, or he's not sure, then YOU decide and toss his *** out on the street. Maybe she'll pick up his homeless no good ***.
i dont think u should be upset to soon...i think u should make sure u know wat they are writing to eachother about and if some of the letters are seriouse...then u can be angry...but just keep and eye on the letters
and about the other girl...just make sure nothing gets to seriouse between them...keep them away from eachother and make sure u get his mother to like u
Tell him this makes you uncomfortable. If he really understands, he will stop or try to involve you in the communications and be less secretive to aliviate your suspicions. Try asking him to share about them so you know they arent a threat. If you trust him and nothing is going on, he should have no problems being open. If there is something to worry about, be will be deffencive. Just be careful NOT to ask him to stop talking to them. Its his choice to make and if you ask, he might blame you for the loss of freindship and be upset.
Unless he's willing to include you in the friendship, there's something not quite right there. I have a male friend or two who reoccur out of my past. I would never see any of them without my husband present, and I'd never as much as email them or talk on the phone with them without mentioning it to my husband.
Your feelings are yours and yours alone. NO ONE has the right to tell you that your feelings are wrong or inappropriate or misplaced.
I'd feel more hurt than upset at your situation. Your mother in law sounds like she's insensitive to your feelings and your husband needs to re-focus on you. Start ';dating'; again and create some new memories as well as and jog his memory as to why he fell in love and married YOU!! :-) His ex's need to get a life and show some respect toward you - lamers!! I'm so on YOUR side on this one!!!!!!!!
yes u have the right to be. tell him it is then if he still disagrees walk out file for divorice then take 50% of everything really show him how it all GOES DOWN!
Of coarse you have a right to feel upset. You are human and entitled to feelings.
I would want to no what he is gaining by this.
Sweety you have the right to be upset because the sun goes down, or the c o c k crows at 5 am or anything else that is unsettling. ........ anyone that hides conversations with ex's is not trustworthy...and you really oughta evaluate the relationship....may be time for a new adventure of your own.
Well if u ask GOD for help, i can assure u that he will show u in good time.
damn straight, you have a right to be upset! I'd be downright PISSED!
He has no right to keep things from you because he thinks you'll be mad. Of course you would get mad if she wanted to get back together with him! He's your husband! You're SUPPOSED to get mad if he's having a relationship (and yes, it's a relationship, even if they're just penpals) with someone who would like to see your marriage end.
You have a right to know who is in your husband's life, whether it's by email or any other means. He's making excuses for his secretive behavior, and trying to make you out to be the bad guy. Don't let him get away with that!!!
You do but, those women want you to get in a fight so you could leave him.Let them know that you know and have no problem with it. He was honest with you isn't that what counts. I am sure he could of done this without you knowing but he told you. If you were uncomfortable with this you should of said something since the beginning. Don't fight over something that you think might happen
How do you think a Mormon wife feels when her husband brings home a new wife?
She thinks 'I'd better set another place for dinner then'How do you think a Mormon wife feels when her husband brings home a new wife?
If she's a real Mormon wife then she should feel happy because it shows her husband has a certain status, and therefore this means as the Prime Wife she has a certain higher status too.
If she's only converted because he's a Mormon, then she's probably totally gutted and hoped it would never happen.How do you think a Mormon wife feels when her husband brings home a new wife?
Well, you'd have to go back in time by a few hundred years and ask the Mormon women who were alive when polygamy was still practiced. I'm afraid that Mormon women today can't answer this question.
Seriously, though, Mormons aren't polygamists. Any Mormon man caught practicing polygamy is immediately excommunicated and then turned over to the law. It's illegal.
they probably wouldn't feel anything.
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Wow, Saturday evening R%26amp;S really has a theme going today! Conspiracy theories and ignorance!
sad her husband is going to be excommunicated.
Probably happy that she now has someone to help her with her 12 kids.
um he wouldn't cuz he is only allowed 1 wife.
P!$$ED OFF!
kinky
threesome
If she's a real Mormon wife then she should feel happy because it shows her husband has a certain status, and therefore this means as the Prime Wife she has a certain higher status too.
If she's only converted because he's a Mormon, then she's probably totally gutted and hoped it would never happen.How do you think a Mormon wife feels when her husband brings home a new wife?
Well, you'd have to go back in time by a few hundred years and ask the Mormon women who were alive when polygamy was still practiced. I'm afraid that Mormon women today can't answer this question.
Seriously, though, Mormons aren't polygamists. Any Mormon man caught practicing polygamy is immediately excommunicated and then turned over to the law. It's illegal.
they probably wouldn't feel anything.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?…
Wow, Saturday evening R%26amp;S really has a theme going today! Conspiracy theories and ignorance!
sad her husband is going to be excommunicated.
Probably happy that she now has someone to help her with her 12 kids.
um he wouldn't cuz he is only allowed 1 wife.
P!$$ED OFF!
kinky
threesome
How much does it take for me to get my husband llegal through immigration ?
Im 13 and i live with my mum nd her husband. I dont want to live here can i go live with my dad? Can i choose?
My stepdad looses his temper alot and i dont know when he will next and im scared. I want to live with my dad. Can i choose? Im 13 years old. My parents dont have joint custordy cos they werent married when i was born.Im 13 and i live with my mum nd her husband. I dont want to live here can i go live with my dad? Can i choose?
In the US, when you turn 14 (at least in Massachusetts), you can chose which parent to live with.
Since you're 13, I suggest talking to your school guidance counselor. Have him or her then direct you to a Social Worker or if your school has an SAP or School Psychologist, go there. Talk to them about how you would like to live with your dad.
Also, let your dad know. Don't just show up at his door with your bags.
Don't runaway- PLEASE.
If you aren't safe, TALK TO SOMEONE. Immediately.
Try talking to your mum and your step-dad about his temper, perhaps? Also, obviously talk to them about your want to go live with your dad.
A good idea: Since summer is coming, try a trial run with your dad. Maybe stay with him for the summer, see how it goes, and then if you really still want to, look to him for moving in.Im 13 and i live with my mum nd her husband. I dont want to live here can i go live with my dad? Can i choose?
in the United States you can. I am sure you can where you are. call your Dad right now, and tell him everything, leave nothing out. you should not live in an environment where you are scared.
**KittySue above me** how could you begin a sentence like that to a scared child you are heartless and cold. I gave you thumbs down.
**to Guacamole below** not true. my niece was 11 and choose to live with her dad.
The question is, does your father want you to live with him? Depending on your state, you might be old enough to make the decision as to which parent you want to live with, but of course your father would have to want you to live with him.
Talk to both of your parents. Leave your step dad out of it. Tell them your concerns and what the man is like. Also how do you treat him?
Sit down with your mom and explain why you want to live with him.
That what I did, I now lived with my dad and see my mom every Sunday.
In the US, when you turn 14 (at least in Massachusetts), you can chose which parent to live with.
Since you're 13, I suggest talking to your school guidance counselor. Have him or her then direct you to a Social Worker or if your school has an SAP or School Psychologist, go there. Talk to them about how you would like to live with your dad.
Also, let your dad know. Don't just show up at his door with your bags.
Don't runaway- PLEASE.
If you aren't safe, TALK TO SOMEONE. Immediately.
Try talking to your mum and your step-dad about his temper, perhaps? Also, obviously talk to them about your want to go live with your dad.
A good idea: Since summer is coming, try a trial run with your dad. Maybe stay with him for the summer, see how it goes, and then if you really still want to, look to him for moving in.Im 13 and i live with my mum nd her husband. I dont want to live here can i go live with my dad? Can i choose?
in the United States you can. I am sure you can where you are. call your Dad right now, and tell him everything, leave nothing out. you should not live in an environment where you are scared.
**KittySue above me** how could you begin a sentence like that to a scared child you are heartless and cold. I gave you thumbs down.
**to Guacamole below** not true. my niece was 11 and choose to live with her dad.
The question is, does your father want you to live with him? Depending on your state, you might be old enough to make the decision as to which parent you want to live with, but of course your father would have to want you to live with him.
Talk to both of your parents. Leave your step dad out of it. Tell them your concerns and what the man is like. Also how do you treat him?
Sit down with your mom and explain why you want to live with him.
That what I did, I now lived with my dad and see my mom every Sunday.
Does anyone elses husband snoring drive them crazy now that they are pregnant?
I never used to mind his snoring, its not even that loud. But I am 33 weeks pregnant and I cant seem to fall asleep if he starts snoring before im asleep. Its driving me nuts because i end up staying awake until 1am. Any ideas? I have tried ear plugs and he has tried the breath right strips.Does anyone elses husband snoring drive them crazy now that they are pregnant?
Sleeping on your own is the best way to get any sleep during a pregnancy, especially towards the end.Does anyone elses husband snoring drive them crazy now that they are pregnant?
LOL. I wish I could say I don't know what to do about this problem but I do.
I was born deaf. I had a cochlear implant surgery several years ago. My BF snores and if I'm wearing my CI at night time his snoring will keep me up! A year ago I had taken an EMT basic course and one of the things I learned was what to do when someone you sleep with snores. Adjust their airway!
In my case, all I have to do is take my Cochlear Implant out and I'm deaf again!! So lucky I know....
Good Luck to you...
Pretty much everything seems to be driving me crazy while pregnant, I am so moody and annoyed by everything! My Husband snoring is driving me nutso! I had to buy earplugs last week because of it. But the earplugs seem to come out in the middle of the night on there own?? I have tried putting a extra pillow on my head too.. I just kick the bed now when he does it.
Sharp elbows. They're my lifesaver when my husband snores.
YESSSSSSSSS....he usually snores more if he's been drinking though... and LOUDER.....than we fight in the middle of the night cuz i'm telling him to move over, and he's like thinking i'm his dream and yelling at me...anyway....so if he's drinking I try try try to send him to another room...otherwise I make sure he falls asleep on his side not facing me.
I've gotten up and went to another room a couple times as well....It does, it drives me fricking insane....I'm like i'm already uncomfy as hell, and now this crap!! Grrrrrrrrrrr!
my husbands snoring drives me nuts all the time but i have found if i make him sleep on his side he doesn't snore...maybe that will help yours
try a pillow. yes a pillow right in the chops when he starts snoring it stop my boyfriend. LOL! i can't sleep at all when he starts snoring. and when our daughter is in bed with us its even worse cuz she starts waking up them i'm ready to kill. cuz i'm a stay at home mom and he works so that means night duty is always mine. but on a more serious note you could have him try sleeping on his side if he doesn't already usually back sleep causes people to snore. or if you really want it to stop they say hypnosis works. but that would be costly. though this is the last time you'll be able to sleep ever again it seems lol.
totally with you on this....my husband snores loud and before i got pregnant it never woke me up or kept me up.....now if he snores I can not get back to sleep....it is driving me crazy....now both of us are getting no sleep because I give him a poke to get him to stop snoring.....one of us moves to the couch or to one of the spare rooms so we can get some sleep
Drove me crazy when I was pregnant - still does, 33 years later!
Yeah, I've got the same problem. I've started going to bed at least an hour before him so I'm fast asleep and it doesn't bother me. Unfortunately I'm always getting up to pee, so his snoring is always bothering me.
It's gotten so bad that I've literally kicked him out of bed, and he didn't wake up until he hit the floor!!
Maybe try buying him those snoring strips? they might work?
Sleeping on your own is the best way to get any sleep during a pregnancy, especially towards the end.Does anyone elses husband snoring drive them crazy now that they are pregnant?
LOL. I wish I could say I don't know what to do about this problem but I do.
I was born deaf. I had a cochlear implant surgery several years ago. My BF snores and if I'm wearing my CI at night time his snoring will keep me up! A year ago I had taken an EMT basic course and one of the things I learned was what to do when someone you sleep with snores. Adjust their airway!
In my case, all I have to do is take my Cochlear Implant out and I'm deaf again!! So lucky I know....
Good Luck to you...
Pretty much everything seems to be driving me crazy while pregnant, I am so moody and annoyed by everything! My Husband snoring is driving me nutso! I had to buy earplugs last week because of it. But the earplugs seem to come out in the middle of the night on there own?? I have tried putting a extra pillow on my head too.. I just kick the bed now when he does it.
Sharp elbows. They're my lifesaver when my husband snores.
YESSSSSSSSS....he usually snores more if he's been drinking though... and LOUDER.....than we fight in the middle of the night cuz i'm telling him to move over, and he's like thinking i'm his dream and yelling at me...anyway....so if he's drinking I try try try to send him to another room...otherwise I make sure he falls asleep on his side not facing me.
I've gotten up and went to another room a couple times as well....It does, it drives me fricking insane....I'm like i'm already uncomfy as hell, and now this crap!! Grrrrrrrrrrr!
my husbands snoring drives me nuts all the time but i have found if i make him sleep on his side he doesn't snore...maybe that will help yours
try a pillow. yes a pillow right in the chops when he starts snoring it stop my boyfriend. LOL! i can't sleep at all when he starts snoring. and when our daughter is in bed with us its even worse cuz she starts waking up them i'm ready to kill. cuz i'm a stay at home mom and he works so that means night duty is always mine. but on a more serious note you could have him try sleeping on his side if he doesn't already usually back sleep causes people to snore. or if you really want it to stop they say hypnosis works. but that would be costly. though this is the last time you'll be able to sleep ever again it seems lol.
totally with you on this....my husband snores loud and before i got pregnant it never woke me up or kept me up.....now if he snores I can not get back to sleep....it is driving me crazy....now both of us are getting no sleep because I give him a poke to get him to stop snoring.....one of us moves to the couch or to one of the spare rooms so we can get some sleep
Drove me crazy when I was pregnant - still does, 33 years later!
Yeah, I've got the same problem. I've started going to bed at least an hour before him so I'm fast asleep and it doesn't bother me. Unfortunately I'm always getting up to pee, so his snoring is always bothering me.
It's gotten so bad that I've literally kicked him out of bed, and he didn't wake up until he hit the floor!!
Maybe try buying him those snoring strips? they might work?
New policy for tax rebates: def of working couple? My husband works as a waiter not making much.I am a student
I am wondering if we are going to recieve 600 or 1200 back. I have not worked this year. I may get a W-2 for a small job I did for less than 1000. Other than that, he will get a W-2; I will not.New policy for tax rebates: def of working couple? My husband works as a waiter not making much.I am a student
I would also love to know this answer. I'm a stay at home mom, my husband makes $65k a year...we have 2 kids, will we get $1800 or $1200?
I would also love to know this answer. I'm a stay at home mom, my husband makes $65k a year...we have 2 kids, will we get $1800 or $1200?
Am I cheater if I hide a friendship from my husband, one where we trade the deepest intimacies?
There's a spark between us, always was. I invite her over and we are alone, and I am usually drinking/drunk. I know she wants me, but I don't initiate, but have submitted to some touch. Have I been in an affair with her?Am I cheater if I hide a friendship from my husband, one where we trade the deepest intimacies?
By asking this question, I think you already know the answer. If you are hiding it from your husband there is a reason. It is not yet consumated so its not a physical affair but it definately sounds like an emotional affair. It also sounds like you are using the ';drunk card'; as a built in excuse if something does happen which I think you know will if this relationship continues. If you do not want to have problems with your husband, you need to either cut off the friendship or you need to make it an open friendship which your husband knows about and you are hanging out with as a couple. It sounds like the two of you, one on one, is asking for trouble.Am I cheater if I hide a friendship from my husband, one where we trade the deepest intimacies?
Yes, it's an emotional affair at this point at a minimum.
WTF are you thinking anyway? Drunk is always a bad idea and in this case doubly so. If you keep putting yourself in that situation it's only a matter of time. Then are you going to use the excuse I was drunk?
EDIT - I just read it again. It's another woman? Well I think it's perfectly normal for women to share their deepest intimacies with each other. Ummmm but if you're thinking of getting physical with this girl then you ought to discuss it with your hubby first. Maybe approach the concept indirectly and see how he feels about the subject. He might not mind so much. I mean for me it wouldn't be quite the same thing as her getting involved with another guy. Maybe if she's cute we could...Never mind.
well if its girl on girl action then i would say no,
But for some reason i have a feeling this is a messed up question.. I think you tried saying you were a girl and then in the rest of the story you say i know she wants me. Just a little confused i guess
It's all about your INTENT. If your friends with this girl in hopes that you might become more then friends someday, then technically you're playing with fire. Only you know if you're doing something wrong or not, you've got to trust your gut and not us.
You are both emotionally involved with each other. It's only a matter of time before you end up having sex with each other. YES it is cheating and that is wrong! And being drunk is NOT AN EXCUSE.
People have forgotten that cheating / affairs are not determined by actions but by thoughts. If you are having thoughts of infidelity, then yes you are cheating. End or fix the marriage now.
YES you are cheating. Doing those kind of things should be done ONLY with your spouse. You should have a strong relationship where you can share those ';deepest intimacies';.
It's called an emotional affair. Unfortunately it is cheating.
yes its already an affair, and u have already crossed the line.
Right now you sound drunk sleeping with people when you drunk
can lead to HIV and it not cool.you need help now
Yes, you are cheating on your marriage.
yes you are cheating and you need to tell your husband about this.
YES.....YOU ARE A CHEATER!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your on your way.
You are well on your way!
What are you talking about?
u r bordeline dude and u know u r playing with fire. dont use your drinking as an excuse...
By asking this question, I think you already know the answer. If you are hiding it from your husband there is a reason. It is not yet consumated so its not a physical affair but it definately sounds like an emotional affair. It also sounds like you are using the ';drunk card'; as a built in excuse if something does happen which I think you know will if this relationship continues. If you do not want to have problems with your husband, you need to either cut off the friendship or you need to make it an open friendship which your husband knows about and you are hanging out with as a couple. It sounds like the two of you, one on one, is asking for trouble.Am I cheater if I hide a friendship from my husband, one where we trade the deepest intimacies?
Yes, it's an emotional affair at this point at a minimum.
WTF are you thinking anyway? Drunk is always a bad idea and in this case doubly so. If you keep putting yourself in that situation it's only a matter of time. Then are you going to use the excuse I was drunk?
EDIT - I just read it again. It's another woman? Well I think it's perfectly normal for women to share their deepest intimacies with each other. Ummmm but if you're thinking of getting physical with this girl then you ought to discuss it with your hubby first. Maybe approach the concept indirectly and see how he feels about the subject. He might not mind so much. I mean for me it wouldn't be quite the same thing as her getting involved with another guy. Maybe if she's cute we could...Never mind.
well if its girl on girl action then i would say no,
But for some reason i have a feeling this is a messed up question.. I think you tried saying you were a girl and then in the rest of the story you say i know she wants me. Just a little confused i guess
It's all about your INTENT. If your friends with this girl in hopes that you might become more then friends someday, then technically you're playing with fire. Only you know if you're doing something wrong or not, you've got to trust your gut and not us.
You are both emotionally involved with each other. It's only a matter of time before you end up having sex with each other. YES it is cheating and that is wrong! And being drunk is NOT AN EXCUSE.
People have forgotten that cheating / affairs are not determined by actions but by thoughts. If you are having thoughts of infidelity, then yes you are cheating. End or fix the marriage now.
YES you are cheating. Doing those kind of things should be done ONLY with your spouse. You should have a strong relationship where you can share those ';deepest intimacies';.
It's called an emotional affair. Unfortunately it is cheating.
yes its already an affair, and u have already crossed the line.
Right now you sound drunk sleeping with people when you drunk
can lead to HIV and it not cool.you need help now
Yes, you are cheating on your marriage.
yes you are cheating and you need to tell your husband about this.
YES.....YOU ARE A CHEATER!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your on your way.
You are well on your way!
What are you talking about?
u r bordeline dude and u know u r playing with fire. dont use your drinking as an excuse...
I petioned my husband from Nicaragua and filed an I-130, how long until I hear if I was approved?
I got married in Nov. 15th and have submitted petition under I-130, how long does Immigration take to answer on average. What are my next steps. How long until he can come to be with me?I petioned my husband from Nicaragua and filed an I-130, how long until I hear if I was approved?
How did you mail out your petition? was it priority mail etc.?
I mailed an application Form I-130 for my parents via priority mail on October 15th and got a reply after 1 week, Notice of Action Form-797 confirming that they have received the application on October 20th and a receipt of payment for the application fee that they've cashed.
It depends on the location of the Service Center that received your application. California Service Center has a timeframe of 6 months in approving the Form I-130.
After the Form I-130 approval they will forward the approved application to the National Visa Center to schedule for the embassy interview of the beneficiary (your husband). And they will send you additional forms to fill-out (Form I-864) and send back before they can proceed in setting a schedule for your husband's interview.
When it's an immediate relative the whole petition process:
(receipt of petition up to final step-interview, if he passed the interview he should enter the US within 6 months from the interview date)
takes from 8 months to a year. This depends on how efficient you are and your husband in providing to them the documents needed, going to the scheduled biometrics and the processing time of the Service Center in charge.
Goodluck!I petioned my husband from Nicaragua and filed an I-130, how long until I hear if I was approved?
Probably when they Deny it...
He will not be allowed into the USA...
They are not allowing many ';Marriage Visa's';
as they have found out over 80% are Frauds.
He is there and you are here...
How did you get Married ???
If you are not making 125% above the US Poverty line
and can't prove that you were making that for the last
three years via W-2's...no visa.
Must be able to prove that you and he were
friends/met with him for two years.
Present national average processing time is 7.3 months.
Congratulations!
That's fantastic news. I think it would probably be best asking immigration directly though.
All the best to you and your new husband!
How did you mail out your petition? was it priority mail etc.?
I mailed an application Form I-130 for my parents via priority mail on October 15th and got a reply after 1 week, Notice of Action Form-797 confirming that they have received the application on October 20th and a receipt of payment for the application fee that they've cashed.
It depends on the location of the Service Center that received your application. California Service Center has a timeframe of 6 months in approving the Form I-130.
After the Form I-130 approval they will forward the approved application to the National Visa Center to schedule for the embassy interview of the beneficiary (your husband). And they will send you additional forms to fill-out (Form I-864) and send back before they can proceed in setting a schedule for your husband's interview.
When it's an immediate relative the whole petition process:
(receipt of petition up to final step-interview, if he passed the interview he should enter the US within 6 months from the interview date)
takes from 8 months to a year. This depends on how efficient you are and your husband in providing to them the documents needed, going to the scheduled biometrics and the processing time of the Service Center in charge.
Goodluck!I petioned my husband from Nicaragua and filed an I-130, how long until I hear if I was approved?
Probably when they Deny it...
He will not be allowed into the USA...
They are not allowing many ';Marriage Visa's';
as they have found out over 80% are Frauds.
He is there and you are here...
How did you get Married ???
If you are not making 125% above the US Poverty line
and can't prove that you were making that for the last
three years via W-2's...no visa.
Must be able to prove that you and he were
friends/met with him for two years.
Present national average processing time is 7.3 months.
Congratulations!
That's fantastic news. I think it would probably be best asking immigration directly though.
All the best to you and your new husband!
Found out my husband keeps Viagra in his drawer at home and in his briefcase is that?
normal. He doesn't know that I know he still has them in his briefcase. He said he could have an affair with or without the pills.Found out my husband keeps Viagra in his drawer at home and in his briefcase is that?
Maybe he just does not want to disappoint you. Try talking to him - dialog should help. ask him why he is using it and see what he says.
Cheers,
MartinFound out my husband keeps Viagra in his drawer at home and in his briefcase is that?
I think you have asked this question a lot. Do you know if he uses them with you? Perhaps he is just really embarrassed about needing them. THen again, perhaps he is cheating.
He never leaves home without them because he is either bragging to his friends by showing them off or he is actually having an affair. Hire a PI.
What are peoples major malfunctions, that they have this sick need to keep re-posting the same crap over and over again. Get a freaking life.
He doesn't need to carry them around with him. Why not remove them and keep them until he is with you. That way he wont be able to use them should he be cheating on you.
so u also buy la eat together...
Get rid of him. What a guy.
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Maybe he just does not want to disappoint you. Try talking to him - dialog should help. ask him why he is using it and see what he says.
Cheers,
MartinFound out my husband keeps Viagra in his drawer at home and in his briefcase is that?
I think you have asked this question a lot. Do you know if he uses them with you? Perhaps he is just really embarrassed about needing them. THen again, perhaps he is cheating.
He never leaves home without them because he is either bragging to his friends by showing them off or he is actually having an affair. Hire a PI.
What are peoples major malfunctions, that they have this sick need to keep re-posting the same crap over and over again. Get a freaking life.
He doesn't need to carry them around with him. Why not remove them and keep them until he is with you. That way he wont be able to use them should he be cheating on you.
so u also buy la eat together...
Get rid of him. What a guy.
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What should my husband be for Halloween?
I am going to be Rainbow Brite. We don't need to match or anything, I just need a costume that is easy to make or cheap to buy for a 30 year old man.What should my husband be for Halloween?
Hello. -
American Flag Costume
Andy Warhol %26amp; Two Of His Paintings Costume
Black Cat Costume
Blues Clues Costume
Butterfly Costume
Cereal Killer Costume
Chance of Rain Costume
Coloring Crayon Costume
Dalmatian Costume
Easy Ghost Costume
Elephant Costume
Flower Costume
Flower Garden Costume
Frog Costume
Glow-in-the-Dark Skeleton Costume
Gum Under the Chair Costume
Mummy Costume
Ninja Turtle Costume
Pile of Leaves Costume
Pumpkin Costume
Road Costume
Skunk Costume
Snowman Costume
Speed Bump Costume
Spider Costume
Static Cling Costume
Traffic Light Costume
Tree Costume
Unicorn Costume
Winnie the Pooh Costume
Angel-Princess Costume
Artist Costume
Bag of Jelly Beans Costume
Basket Of Laundry Costume
Beanie Baby Costume
Bumble Bee Costume
Charlie Brown Costume
Christmas Tree Costume
Cousin It Costume
Fire Truck Costume
Funny Old Lady Costume
Ghost Costume
Gingerbread Boy Costume
Glamour Ghost Costume
Glamorous Zombie Costume
Harry Potter Costume
Hillbilly Costume
Hula Dancer Costume
Judge Judy Costume
Lady Liberty Costume
Ladybug Costume
Lego Costume
Lizzy Borden Costume
Magician Costume
Miss America Costume
Mr or Mrs Potato Head Costume
Moose Costume
Mother Nature Costume
Nerd Costume
Old Man or Woman Costume
Outer Spacers
Pair of Blue Jeans Costume
Pair of Dice Costume
Pencil Face Costume
Pets For Sale Costume
Pizza Costume
Playing Card Costume
Popcorn Box Costume
Race Car and Driver Costume
Scarecrow Costume
SpongeBob Squarepants Costume
Super Baby Costume
Three Muskateers Costume
Tourist Costume
Train Costume
Witchy Poo Costume
Wolf-Werewolf Costume
Have a nice day. :)What should my husband be for Halloween?
Hello Donnamspeirs. - Thank You And Have a Super Fun Halloween! :D
for funny a girl
scary- a zombie, frankenstien, mummy, vampire, hobo
a zombie, all you need to do is make his face up, a bit of green and bown. he can wear his own clothes
he could be Lieutenant Jim Dangle from Reno 911
with the really high shorts and everything
lol
A GIRL!
vampire, wizard. CARDBOARD BOX, present
A Vampire!!
how about a farmer or a rock star :)
I'm making my husband a hick redneck trucker. I'm going to be a farmer gal.
Make him into something that's totally different from his real life.
Humbert Humbert
Indiana Jones
Itsy Bitsy Spider would be Funny.
Or a pot of Bling, if you want him to match your costume.
Have him go as Ricky Bobby.
Santa Clause!
No one ever does that!
Everyone would get a real kick out of it.
Have fun!
What about a housewife for 1 day.
Casanova........ the pig can go... but the animal we'll keep!
my mum n dad went to a fancy dress once as a cop n robber...i know you have a custume but he could still go as a cop or robber good luck
Hello. -
American Flag Costume
Andy Warhol %26amp; Two Of His Paintings Costume
Black Cat Costume
Blues Clues Costume
Butterfly Costume
Cereal Killer Costume
Chance of Rain Costume
Coloring Crayon Costume
Dalmatian Costume
Easy Ghost Costume
Elephant Costume
Flower Costume
Flower Garden Costume
Frog Costume
Glow-in-the-Dark Skeleton Costume
Gum Under the Chair Costume
Mummy Costume
Ninja Turtle Costume
Pile of Leaves Costume
Pumpkin Costume
Road Costume
Skunk Costume
Snowman Costume
Speed Bump Costume
Spider Costume
Static Cling Costume
Traffic Light Costume
Tree Costume
Unicorn Costume
Winnie the Pooh Costume
Angel-Princess Costume
Artist Costume
Bag of Jelly Beans Costume
Basket Of Laundry Costume
Beanie Baby Costume
Bumble Bee Costume
Charlie Brown Costume
Christmas Tree Costume
Cousin It Costume
Fire Truck Costume
Funny Old Lady Costume
Ghost Costume
Gingerbread Boy Costume
Glamour Ghost Costume
Glamorous Zombie Costume
Harry Potter Costume
Hillbilly Costume
Hula Dancer Costume
Judge Judy Costume
Lady Liberty Costume
Ladybug Costume
Lego Costume
Lizzy Borden Costume
Magician Costume
Miss America Costume
Mr or Mrs Potato Head Costume
Moose Costume
Mother Nature Costume
Nerd Costume
Old Man or Woman Costume
Outer Spacers
Pair of Blue Jeans Costume
Pair of Dice Costume
Pencil Face Costume
Pets For Sale Costume
Pizza Costume
Playing Card Costume
Popcorn Box Costume
Race Car and Driver Costume
Scarecrow Costume
SpongeBob Squarepants Costume
Super Baby Costume
Three Muskateers Costume
Tourist Costume
Train Costume
Witchy Poo Costume
Wolf-Werewolf Costume
Have a nice day. :)What should my husband be for Halloween?
Hello Donnamspeirs. - Thank You And Have a Super Fun Halloween! :D
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for funny a girl
scary- a zombie, frankenstien, mummy, vampire, hobo
a zombie, all you need to do is make his face up, a bit of green and bown. he can wear his own clothes
he could be Lieutenant Jim Dangle from Reno 911
with the really high shorts and everything
lol
A GIRL!
vampire, wizard. CARDBOARD BOX, present
A Vampire!!
how about a farmer or a rock star :)
I'm making my husband a hick redneck trucker. I'm going to be a farmer gal.
Make him into something that's totally different from his real life.
Humbert Humbert
Indiana Jones
Itsy Bitsy Spider would be Funny.
Or a pot of Bling, if you want him to match your costume.
Have him go as Ricky Bobby.
Santa Clause!
No one ever does that!
Everyone would get a real kick out of it.
Have fun!
What about a housewife for 1 day.
Casanova........ the pig can go... but the animal we'll keep!
my mum n dad went to a fancy dress once as a cop n robber...i know you have a custume but he could still go as a cop or robber good luck
What stocking stuffers can I get for my computer nerd husband?
he has an xbox, a PC, an ipod, he is a multimedia specialist...
please help a techno illiterate wife!What stocking stuffers can I get for my computer nerd husband?
Go to %26lt;thinkgeek.com%26gt; they have tons of really cool geeky stuff. I'm sure you'll be able to find something he'll appreciate. Including shirts, really neat little gizmos...etc. Have fun!!What stocking stuffers can I get for my computer nerd husband?
nerd - sounds like you been watching to much happy days.
a modern design wireless laser keyboard/mouse
http://www.compusa.com/products/product_鈥?/a>
a bag of Flaming Hot Cheetos. it's so good.
a game for his xbox, new software for his PC, and and ITunes gift card for his ipod. Im no expert either so do ur research and find out whats new and hot!!
Nerds always love cool pens!!!!
I'm a nerd so I know what I'm talking about.
well, if he likes computers just get him a computer game that he doesn't have
Pocket Protectors
please help a techno illiterate wife!What stocking stuffers can I get for my computer nerd husband?
Go to %26lt;thinkgeek.com%26gt; they have tons of really cool geeky stuff. I'm sure you'll be able to find something he'll appreciate. Including shirts, really neat little gizmos...etc. Have fun!!What stocking stuffers can I get for my computer nerd husband?
nerd - sounds like you been watching to much happy days.
a modern design wireless laser keyboard/mouse
http://www.compusa.com/products/product_鈥?/a>
a bag of Flaming Hot Cheetos. it's so good.
a game for his xbox, new software for his PC, and and ITunes gift card for his ipod. Im no expert either so do ur research and find out whats new and hot!!
Nerds always love cool pens!!!!
I'm a nerd so I know what I'm talking about.
well, if he likes computers just get him a computer game that he doesn't have
Pocket Protectors
Why is my husband searching craigslist for woman?
Me and my husband are working different shifts and he is on the computer when im at work, so i was curious one day and looked at the history to see what he looks at. A little fantasy football, checking his email, but 98% of the history is personal adds of naked and half naked girls from craigslist. Most of them are from other states but there is a lot of them. Should I be concerned? Is this normal? I haven't said anything to him about me knowing that he is looking at these postings. Is he cheating? HELP!!!!Why is my husband searching craigslist for woman?
Sometimes looking is just harmless.. I found myself looking at the personals one day and it was interesting to see who lists there and some even add pictures..lol
I would never consider calling a number though.. for me it was just being nosey so don't read to far into it.Why is my husband searching craigslist for woman?
Looking at other naked/half naked woman that are actually alive that he talks to through personal ads I would say that follows the lines of cheating ,you dnt think he masturbates looking at those naked pictures? yea im sure he does.
I would throw his clothes into garbage bags and leave them outside with a note on them for him,
tell him that he can look at all the naked pics he want and talk to any woman he wants but not on ur working hours, your not busting ur butt so he can have time to be sneaking around, tell him u want a divorce
if ur succuessful this will more be a threat for you because then hell be kissing ur *** and wanting you back you choose if u want that slim ball back with you
Should you be concerned? YES
Is this normal? NOT FOR MARRIED PEOPLE
You haven't said anything to him? WHY
Is he cheating? Maybe. If not yet, it appears that is his intention.
Once you break the trust, its takes a long time to recover. If he wouldn't do it with you standing it in the room, or looking over his shoulder - then yes, it's cheating!!
I look at craigs list often, different sections of it. I have looked at the hookers there just for entertainment value. It is a little out there. But they are call girls. Check his sent mail and see if he has sent anyone anything.
Maybe he's in the mood to get an STD....
The internet is for Porn, these ads are a division of porn, enjoying looking at them is very normal...unless he is a priest...
If he does act on those ads then I would call it cheating...really I don't know how will I ever give the freedom of looking at such stuff if I ever get married...
my fiance looks at them ALL the time, i think he likes to look at those more than porn. i like to look at them too. they are entertaining. talk to him about it to make sure its harmless looking and nothing more. if it's not 'normal' for you then tell him. either u trust him or don't ya know
Have you ever looked at the craigslist personals? If you need a good laugh, you should. I will send the super ridiculous links to my single MIL (jokingly) for prospective husbands.
Other states or no, I would be extremely pissed and suspicious if I found my husband looking at those kind of personal ads. I would definitely suspect cheating immediately and start doing some digging.
he would certainly like to meet them, if he meets a local he might go for it. talk to him, my husband cheated because of a dating site. plentyoffish.
You married a pretty dim bulb if he doesn't know how to clear his history after his searches.
I think you two ought to change jobs and get on the same shift.
Clearly, not sleeping with his wife is having an effect on him.
Good Luck!
It's free and cheap (emphasis on ';cheap';) porn...
why not confront him about it and ask?
Sometimes looking is just harmless.. I found myself looking at the personals one day and it was interesting to see who lists there and some even add pictures..lol
I would never consider calling a number though.. for me it was just being nosey so don't read to far into it.Why is my husband searching craigslist for woman?
Looking at other naked/half naked woman that are actually alive that he talks to through personal ads I would say that follows the lines of cheating ,you dnt think he masturbates looking at those naked pictures? yea im sure he does.
I would throw his clothes into garbage bags and leave them outside with a note on them for him,
tell him that he can look at all the naked pics he want and talk to any woman he wants but not on ur working hours, your not busting ur butt so he can have time to be sneaking around, tell him u want a divorce
if ur succuessful this will more be a threat for you because then hell be kissing ur *** and wanting you back you choose if u want that slim ball back with you
Should you be concerned? YES
Is this normal? NOT FOR MARRIED PEOPLE
You haven't said anything to him? WHY
Is he cheating? Maybe. If not yet, it appears that is his intention.
Once you break the trust, its takes a long time to recover. If he wouldn't do it with you standing it in the room, or looking over his shoulder - then yes, it's cheating!!
I look at craigs list often, different sections of it. I have looked at the hookers there just for entertainment value. It is a little out there. But they are call girls. Check his sent mail and see if he has sent anyone anything.
Maybe he's in the mood to get an STD....
The internet is for Porn, these ads are a division of porn, enjoying looking at them is very normal...unless he is a priest...
If he does act on those ads then I would call it cheating...really I don't know how will I ever give the freedom of looking at such stuff if I ever get married...
my fiance looks at them ALL the time, i think he likes to look at those more than porn. i like to look at them too. they are entertaining. talk to him about it to make sure its harmless looking and nothing more. if it's not 'normal' for you then tell him. either u trust him or don't ya know
Have you ever looked at the craigslist personals? If you need a good laugh, you should. I will send the super ridiculous links to my single MIL (jokingly) for prospective husbands.
Other states or no, I would be extremely pissed and suspicious if I found my husband looking at those kind of personal ads. I would definitely suspect cheating immediately and start doing some digging.
he would certainly like to meet them, if he meets a local he might go for it. talk to him, my husband cheated because of a dating site. plentyoffish.
You married a pretty dim bulb if he doesn't know how to clear his history after his searches.
I think you two ought to change jobs and get on the same shift.
Clearly, not sleeping with his wife is having an effect on him.
Good Luck!
It's free and cheap (emphasis on ';cheap';) porn...
why not confront him about it and ask?
When I get ready to have another baby with my husband, how long should a woman be off birth control?
When my hsband and I get ready to have a 2nd baby, how long should a woman be off birth control?When I get ready to have another baby with my husband, how long should a woman be off birth control?
I have heard at least 6 months to let your body clear up any extra hormones- with my daughter I was only off for a month, but nothing is wrong with her. haha come to think of it though, that might be why she is a girl and not a boy, lol, that Y chromoson wasnt able to kick in with all my xtra estrogen. just joking.. dont take that seriouslyWhen I get ready to have another baby with my husband, how long should a woman be off birth control?
umm it depends how long did and how much miracle whip you ate if you ate about a 50 pound to a year your good in about 2 seconds you stop
I went off the pill, and was pregnant 4 weeks later! I was on the birth control for over 5 years.
it varies in different woman. some have gotten pregnant right away (ie a few months 1-3) others it could take a year or more
I have heard at least 6 months to let your body clear up any extra hormones- with my daughter I was only off for a month, but nothing is wrong with her. haha come to think of it though, that might be why she is a girl and not a boy, lol, that Y chromoson wasnt able to kick in with all my xtra estrogen. just joking.. dont take that seriouslyWhen I get ready to have another baby with my husband, how long should a woman be off birth control?
umm it depends how long did and how much miracle whip you ate if you ate about a 50 pound to a year your good in about 2 seconds you stop
I went off the pill, and was pregnant 4 weeks later! I was on the birth control for over 5 years.
it varies in different woman. some have gotten pregnant right away (ie a few months 1-3) others it could take a year or more
Do I have to show up to testify against my husband if i was supeana?
Its for a domestic violence case. i was wondering if i could be arrested if i didn't show?Do I have to show up to testify against my husband if i was supeana?
If you don't respond to a subpoena the court can have the sheriff come and pick you up. Do I have to show up to testify against my husband if i was supeana?
If you don't show up, this man will go free because there will be no one to claim he did the domestic violence. This means he is free to go and do it again, either to you or someone else. You don't say why you don't want to go, but talk to the prosecutor in the case and let them know your fears (if any) and any possible way to help.
You may be able to give a statement (deposition) that could be used in court or possibly a video taped deposition. Either way good luck.
Depending upon which state you live, you may not be able to claim the right of spousal privilege, which gives you the option to testify or not.
Why wouldn't you want to testify? If someone has abused you, they will more than likely continue.....even if they have promised they won't. Please consider the circumstances carefully, it may be the opportunity that you need to begin to build your self esteem. You are worth it.
All the Best!
Supeana means you have to show up or take the risk of being arrested yourself. and not showing up will probably make the judge throw out the case. Why would you not want to show up if it was domestic violence.
Yes, you must show up and yes, if you don't, or send a lawyer with a very good excuse, you can get arrested.
Duh, yes. If you didn't want to testify, then why press charges?
yes, good luck babe, be strong
If you don't respond to a subpoena the court can have the sheriff come and pick you up. Do I have to show up to testify against my husband if i was supeana?
If you don't show up, this man will go free because there will be no one to claim he did the domestic violence. This means he is free to go and do it again, either to you or someone else. You don't say why you don't want to go, but talk to the prosecutor in the case and let them know your fears (if any) and any possible way to help.
You may be able to give a statement (deposition) that could be used in court or possibly a video taped deposition. Either way good luck.
Depending upon which state you live, you may not be able to claim the right of spousal privilege, which gives you the option to testify or not.
Why wouldn't you want to testify? If someone has abused you, they will more than likely continue.....even if they have promised they won't. Please consider the circumstances carefully, it may be the opportunity that you need to begin to build your self esteem. You are worth it.
All the Best!
Supeana means you have to show up or take the risk of being arrested yourself. and not showing up will probably make the judge throw out the case. Why would you not want to show up if it was domestic violence.
Yes, you must show up and yes, if you don't, or send a lawyer with a very good excuse, you can get arrested.
Duh, yes. If you didn't want to testify, then why press charges?
yes, good luck babe, be strong
Where will my husband most likely have his duty stationed?
My husband just rejoined the army, he is in AIT at Ft. Sill. His MOS is 13M. From what we are hearing there isnt very many options for this MOS and he will likely be stationed in Ft. Sill or Korea. or if you have any other information you could give that would be great!Where will my husband most likely have his duty stationed?
Iraq or Afghanistan?!Where will my husband most likely have his duty stationed?
He can go anywhere there is a need for Division Artillery (MLRS). Although most MLRS are in Korea or Ft Sill, they are also at Ft Hood, TX.
Looks to me, as far as overseas duty, it would be Korea or Germany.
i really have no idea but i wish the best of luck to u ur husband and ur familyspots bloom-
Iraq or Afghanistan?!Where will my husband most likely have his duty stationed?
He can go anywhere there is a need for Division Artillery (MLRS). Although most MLRS are in Korea or Ft Sill, they are also at Ft Hood, TX.
Looks to me, as far as overseas duty, it would be Korea or Germany.
i really have no idea but i wish the best of luck to u ur husband and ur family
How does my husband claiming his self and me and our daughter benefit us?
my husband went to file his taxes and the book keeper told him that he would claim his self me and our daughter. what will the difference be if he just claimed me and our daughter. im a stay at home with our 3 month old and he made 21000 last year and i think had 1700 took out for taxes. im just trying to figure out what we will get back. i do know they told him we get the earned income credit as well. any helps is appreciated thanksHow does my husband claiming his self and me and our daughter benefit us?
Judy is correct.
You should get a very nice refund!
Your husband, unless he can be claimed by someone else, will always claim himself. And as a married couple w/a dependent, he'll get another exemption fpr you and your daughter. Which would give you 3 exemptions.
He's not claiming himself as a dependent.
Also a spouse is never considered a dependent.
You can always use a tax refund calculator to estimate your refund. H %26amp; R Block offers one and is quite accurate.How does my husband claiming his self and me and our daughter benefit us?
The best way is for you and he to file a joint return, and claim your daughter.
You'd get back whatever was taken out for federal income tax, the number in box 2 of his w-2. Your EIC would be around $2272 if you have one child.
It benefits you guys because you being marked as dependants will result in a bigger tax return.
Judy is correct.
You should get a very nice refund!
Your husband, unless he can be claimed by someone else, will always claim himself. And as a married couple w/a dependent, he'll get another exemption fpr you and your daughter. Which would give you 3 exemptions.
He's not claiming himself as a dependent.
Also a spouse is never considered a dependent.
You can always use a tax refund calculator to estimate your refund. H %26amp; R Block offers one and is quite accurate.How does my husband claiming his self and me and our daughter benefit us?
The best way is for you and he to file a joint return, and claim your daughter.
You'd get back whatever was taken out for federal income tax, the number in box 2 of his w-2. Your EIC would be around $2272 if you have one child.
It benefits you guys because you being marked as dependants will result in a bigger tax return.
Sometimes when my husband is laying down?
I see either his jugular vein pulsing (like a double wave, kind of) or maybe it's his carotid. Is this bad?? What does this mean?Sometimes when my husband is laying down?
Maybe, maybe not. Arteries normally pulse and in the right position, I'm sure this would be noticible. But, with high blood pressure, the pulsing would be more pronounced. Check his bp.Sometimes when my husband is laying down?
It is his carotid artery. You cannot diagnose a heart arrythymia from visually looking at the carotids. An EKG is needed and his doctor can listen to his heart and his carotids for possible arrythymias or heart murmurs. If he is agreeable, please get him to be checked out. Most likely: nothing is wrong. It's easy for us to let our minds race over rather simple things. I know; I've done it. good luck.
sometimes that happens to me i think that it is just that he is so still you can see it like if you sit really quiet you can hear your heart beat so if your really worried about it have him see a doctor
Maybe, maybe not. Arteries normally pulse and in the right position, I'm sure this would be noticible. But, with high blood pressure, the pulsing would be more pronounced. Check his bp.Sometimes when my husband is laying down?
It is his carotid artery. You cannot diagnose a heart arrythymia from visually looking at the carotids. An EKG is needed and his doctor can listen to his heart and his carotids for possible arrythymias or heart murmurs. If he is agreeable, please get him to be checked out. Most likely: nothing is wrong. It's easy for us to let our minds race over rather simple things. I know; I've done it. good luck.
sometimes that happens to me i think that it is just that he is so still you can see it like if you sit really quiet you can hear your heart beat so if your really worried about it have him see a doctor
Any ideas for husband and wife Halloween costumes?
We are 26 years old and trying to think of funny Halloween costumes for a husband and wife. We don't mind being a little ';distasteful';, however, aren't looking for anything TOO extreme, as long as it is funny. Anybody have any ideas?Any ideas for husband and wife Halloween costumes?
Cross-dress, be each other? lolAny ideas for husband and wife Halloween costumes?
sid and nancy... mickey and mallory knox... al and peg bundy..
SORRY SPELLING IS NOT MY THING
a prince %26amp; Princess
Ketchup %26amp; mustard
Peanut Butter %26amp; Jelly
Mickey %26amp; Mini
Donald %26amp; Dasiy
Budwiswer %26amp; Bud Lite
Pimp %26amp; Ho ( or Reverse the Roles and you be the Pimp And he be your Gigalo) LOL!
Jail Mate %26amp; Guard
2 Super Heros
Sex Slave %26amp; Owner (Him Being your Slave would be better received most likely)
Kitty %26amp; Puppy
Elvis %26amp; Marilyn Monroe
Football Player (of your Favorite Team) %26amp; Cheerleader
or both of you Football players or Cheerleaders
a Sexy French Maid %26amp; a Buttler
A French Maid %26amp; a Rich Horny Dude ( fake money coming out of his pocketsand your costume)
Red Ridding Hood %26amp; a Big Bad Woof
Pebbles %26amp; Bam-Bam [both of my kids nick names growning up}
Doctor (of some sort) %26amp; Nurse
Statue of Liberty %26amp; a Army Guy (I did this one with my kids a while back. Everyone Loved it)
2 Pirates
King %26amp; Queen
2 devils
Senorita and a Latin Gutarist
Cave Girl %26amp; Cave Man
Frog %26amp; Princess
Washer %26amp; Dryer
Tweety %26amp; Syvester the Cat
Indian %26amp; Cowboy
Cowgirl %26amp; Indian
Hope this helps have fun
bonny and clyde ( a 20's gangsta version)
Homer and Marge Simpson
she could be a prostitute and you could be a pimp
Cross-dress, be each other? lolAny ideas for husband and wife Halloween costumes?
sid and nancy... mickey and mallory knox... al and peg bundy..
SORRY SPELLING IS NOT MY THING
a prince %26amp; Princess
Ketchup %26amp; mustard
Peanut Butter %26amp; Jelly
Mickey %26amp; Mini
Donald %26amp; Dasiy
Budwiswer %26amp; Bud Lite
Pimp %26amp; Ho ( or Reverse the Roles and you be the Pimp And he be your Gigalo) LOL!
Jail Mate %26amp; Guard
2 Super Heros
Sex Slave %26amp; Owner (Him Being your Slave would be better received most likely)
Kitty %26amp; Puppy
Elvis %26amp; Marilyn Monroe
Football Player (of your Favorite Team) %26amp; Cheerleader
or both of you Football players or Cheerleaders
a Sexy French Maid %26amp; a Buttler
A French Maid %26amp; a Rich Horny Dude ( fake money coming out of his pocketsand your costume)
Red Ridding Hood %26amp; a Big Bad Woof
Pebbles %26amp; Bam-Bam [both of my kids nick names growning up}
Doctor (of some sort) %26amp; Nurse
Statue of Liberty %26amp; a Army Guy (I did this one with my kids a while back. Everyone Loved it)
2 Pirates
King %26amp; Queen
2 devils
Senorita and a Latin Gutarist
Cave Girl %26amp; Cave Man
Frog %26amp; Princess
Washer %26amp; Dryer
Tweety %26amp; Syvester the Cat
Indian %26amp; Cowboy
Cowgirl %26amp; Indian
Hope this helps have fun
bonny and clyde ( a 20's gangsta version)
Homer and Marge Simpson
she could be a prostitute and you could be a pimp
What should I do if anything? My husband has a pic of himself and ex in his bedside stand.?
She is dressed like a hoochie mama. We have been married 10 months and they have been divorced/separated several years.What should I do if anything? My husband has a pic of himself and ex in his bedside stand.?
That's a slap in the face and a total lack of respect.
If she's an ex, she should not be displayed in your house. That needs to be taken down immediately.
If he doesn't take it down, tell him he needs to go live in the picture with her, because you can't live here with that in the house.What should I do if anything? My husband has a pic of himself and ex in his bedside stand.?
What do you mean ';what should I do IF ANYTHING';??? Are you sure you're yourself around him? Because it sounds like you don't say what's on your mind...like you don't want to make waves. Don't start your marriage off like that. You don't have to be rude, just tell him how you feel. Always be honest about your feelings.
LOL is this a trick question?!!!
my exboyfriend had a wife as well and he had a picture of me and him my phone number saved in his cell under ';wifey'; he would call me behind her back telling me how much he missed me and loved me, and would break up with her if i take him back, does this answer your question?!!!!!!!
its different if you guys were just dating but married !!!!!!!!!!!
its just a picture it doesnt mean that he wants her back or still cares for her let it go
That is disrespectful to you and completely inappropriate. Marriage is based on respect and sometimes you need to demand it and show your serious about it.
Throw the picture out and tell him not put anymore up that are similar or they will get tossed out as well.
Old photos of ex partners that want to be kept should be put in a storage area out of reach of the current family and not spoken about.
The photo on the nightstand should be of you and him.
omg omg wtf why does he have a picture of her!!!!!!
Ha it has got to go no freaking way would it be in my house anywhere, people say ohhhhh it don't mean anything well if it doesn't why does he have it. If he likes how he looks on the picture then cut her off as i did with some of mine. Several years and he is still keeping her picture for what ? the next time the two of you go to bed get in just before him looking sexy and have her picture right in the middle of the two of you, and when he say what the blank is going on ? tell him its where it is when its in your drawer between the two of you. It has come between the two of us because it bothers me. When he say it don't mean anything then say GOOD then you should have no problem in getting it the hell out of my house. Not many women would put up with this, not many men either its not right nor respectful to you..
If you don't want the picture then remove it yourself and tear it up. If your husband asks about it then tell him that you know nothing about the picture.
That picture would have been the first thing to go. Why is her picture not yours there. Maybe he hadn't thought about it, but I would have placed my picture there without saying a word. You need to take action...
yeah...you should of put a stop to that chit long ago....it's one thing if he keeps mementos from his past in a shoe box in the back of his closet....but on his nightstand....that is RUDE to you! I would tell him it needs to go...how would he feel if you kept something special from one of your ex's in your everyday life?
Take matters into your own hands and put it in the cat box (that's what I did! ha ha ha ha ha), the toilet, a dartboard, or other various places that could trash the thing. If he gets pissed, divorce the douche! Sounds to me like he may not be over it...
Tell him to get rid of it! It's disrespectful to you and you marriage and starting y'all off on a bad foot if he carries on this way.
Stay strong.
girl please! i agree with the 2nd answer that should of been fixed before you got married but lets just say you both forgot it was there or something. 1..confront him about it now if he says he didn't know it was in there ok fine but make it clear that you will be throwing it away because it is not acceptable. if he has a problem with you throwing it away then you have a problem...yes its just a pic but what would he want to keep a memory of him and his ex for? kwim...good luck
Replace it with a photo of you and him.
Move the picture and see if he notices. If he notices he keeps it there for a reason! If he does not notice he probably just left it there and forgot about it!!
don't be a jealous idiot. if its sitting in a drawer what harm is it causing you? NOTHING. its just part of his past.
i agree
i have pictures of my ex's
but not in plain sight
they are in boxes in storage
i have a picture of us current
not ex's
tell him to clear it
or you will leave him
there is no room for negotiationn on this one
it is simple respect for you
the guy is an idiot if he did not know this
and why would you marry that?
I would have fixed that before getting married. Any man of mine should not have pictures of other women around. Especially on his bedside table. Just plain strange.
Yeah, this situation sounds really familiar to me except I was the chick in the photo. I wouldn't do anything. A woman's first response is to get all defensive but think about it for a moment. The two of them shared good times. The two of them were friends above all else. The pic represents a memory. We all have them but society believes a situation such as this is taboo. It's disrespectful and so on. Not true. I personally wouldn't mind. I would realize that the pic is a memory. A part of his past. You are his present, his future. It all boils down to your own insecurities. If you were confident in the solidity of your relationship then this would not be an issue.
put a picture of you and your ex by the bed side or a pic of your ex boyfriend see how he reacts. :)
well that proves he still has feelings for her
That's a slap in the face and a total lack of respect.
If she's an ex, she should not be displayed in your house. That needs to be taken down immediately.
If he doesn't take it down, tell him he needs to go live in the picture with her, because you can't live here with that in the house.What should I do if anything? My husband has a pic of himself and ex in his bedside stand.?
What do you mean ';what should I do IF ANYTHING';??? Are you sure you're yourself around him? Because it sounds like you don't say what's on your mind...like you don't want to make waves. Don't start your marriage off like that. You don't have to be rude, just tell him how you feel. Always be honest about your feelings.
LOL is this a trick question?!!!
my exboyfriend had a wife as well and he had a picture of me and him my phone number saved in his cell under ';wifey'; he would call me behind her back telling me how much he missed me and loved me, and would break up with her if i take him back, does this answer your question?!!!!!!!
its different if you guys were just dating but married !!!!!!!!!!!
its just a picture it doesnt mean that he wants her back or still cares for her let it go
That is disrespectful to you and completely inappropriate. Marriage is based on respect and sometimes you need to demand it and show your serious about it.
Throw the picture out and tell him not put anymore up that are similar or they will get tossed out as well.
Old photos of ex partners that want to be kept should be put in a storage area out of reach of the current family and not spoken about.
The photo on the nightstand should be of you and him.
omg omg wtf why does he have a picture of her!!!!!!
Ha it has got to go no freaking way would it be in my house anywhere, people say ohhhhh it don't mean anything well if it doesn't why does he have it. If he likes how he looks on the picture then cut her off as i did with some of mine. Several years and he is still keeping her picture for what ? the next time the two of you go to bed get in just before him looking sexy and have her picture right in the middle of the two of you, and when he say what the blank is going on ? tell him its where it is when its in your drawer between the two of you. It has come between the two of us because it bothers me. When he say it don't mean anything then say GOOD then you should have no problem in getting it the hell out of my house. Not many women would put up with this, not many men either its not right nor respectful to you..
If you don't want the picture then remove it yourself and tear it up. If your husband asks about it then tell him that you know nothing about the picture.
That picture would have been the first thing to go. Why is her picture not yours there. Maybe he hadn't thought about it, but I would have placed my picture there without saying a word. You need to take action...
yeah...you should of put a stop to that chit long ago....it's one thing if he keeps mementos from his past in a shoe box in the back of his closet....but on his nightstand....that is RUDE to you! I would tell him it needs to go...how would he feel if you kept something special from one of your ex's in your everyday life?
Take matters into your own hands and put it in the cat box (that's what I did! ha ha ha ha ha), the toilet, a dartboard, or other various places that could trash the thing. If he gets pissed, divorce the douche! Sounds to me like he may not be over it...
Tell him to get rid of it! It's disrespectful to you and you marriage and starting y'all off on a bad foot if he carries on this way.
Stay strong.
girl please! i agree with the 2nd answer that should of been fixed before you got married but lets just say you both forgot it was there or something. 1..confront him about it now if he says he didn't know it was in there ok fine but make it clear that you will be throwing it away because it is not acceptable. if he has a problem with you throwing it away then you have a problem...yes its just a pic but what would he want to keep a memory of him and his ex for? kwim...good luck
Replace it with a photo of you and him.
Move the picture and see if he notices. If he notices he keeps it there for a reason! If he does not notice he probably just left it there and forgot about it!!
don't be a jealous idiot. if its sitting in a drawer what harm is it causing you? NOTHING. its just part of his past.
i agree
i have pictures of my ex's
but not in plain sight
they are in boxes in storage
i have a picture of us current
not ex's
tell him to clear it
or you will leave him
there is no room for negotiationn on this one
it is simple respect for you
the guy is an idiot if he did not know this
and why would you marry that?
I would have fixed that before getting married. Any man of mine should not have pictures of other women around. Especially on his bedside table. Just plain strange.
Yeah, this situation sounds really familiar to me except I was the chick in the photo. I wouldn't do anything. A woman's first response is to get all defensive but think about it for a moment. The two of them shared good times. The two of them were friends above all else. The pic represents a memory. We all have them but society believes a situation such as this is taboo. It's disrespectful and so on. Not true. I personally wouldn't mind. I would realize that the pic is a memory. A part of his past. You are his present, his future. It all boils down to your own insecurities. If you were confident in the solidity of your relationship then this would not be an issue.
put a picture of you and your ex by the bed side or a pic of your ex boyfriend see how he reacts. :)
well that proves he still has feelings for her
What do you do if someone you care about is being brainwashed by her abusive husband?
I am scared for my friend. She is scared to do anything to leave.
Their kids look down on her because of him and she fears losing them if she doesn't stay.What do you do if someone you care about is being brainwashed by her abusive husband?
You have no power. Just let her know how you feel and release it. I've had a relative involved in a similar situation. And we found that the best thing to do is to let the professionals handle it. They have the training, the perspective, and the emotional detachment needed to help her.
Give her the phone number for your local battered women's shelter. Hand it to her every time you get a chance. Hopefully, when she's ready, it will be in her purse or pocket. Other than that, all you can do is pray.
By the way, most women come in and out of the shelter several times before they leave for good. Be patient.What do you do if someone you care about is being brainwashed by her abusive husband?
Pray for them. I feel only God can fit what ever going on with their marriage. If you truly love her pray for her and then pray for him. Good luck.
Get her to a therapist.
Their kids look down on her because of him and she fears losing them if she doesn't stay.What do you do if someone you care about is being brainwashed by her abusive husband?
You have no power. Just let her know how you feel and release it. I've had a relative involved in a similar situation. And we found that the best thing to do is to let the professionals handle it. They have the training, the perspective, and the emotional detachment needed to help her.
Give her the phone number for your local battered women's shelter. Hand it to her every time you get a chance. Hopefully, when she's ready, it will be in her purse or pocket. Other than that, all you can do is pray.
By the way, most women come in and out of the shelter several times before they leave for good. Be patient.What do you do if someone you care about is being brainwashed by her abusive husband?
Pray for them. I feel only God can fit what ever going on with their marriage. If you truly love her pray for her and then pray for him. Good luck.
Get her to a therapist.
I have the opportunity to receive pension funds from a former employee of my late husband.?
I'm only 53, so I'm considering taking the lesser amount rather then waiting 16 years to get a small percentage more. They are asking me to choose if I want to take it with or without COLA. I know that this means cost of living adjustment, but don't understand how it applies to this. Anyone able to help me understand this and decide which I should choose? Thank you.I have the opportunity to receive pension funds from a former employee of my late husband.?
Take all of the money now ! COLA should only apply if you choose to leave the money with them, but either way choose the option that gets you the most money today and then take that money and go to the track ;) kidding.. find a quality investment advisor who can place the money into a safe environment for you until you are ready to retire or have a need for the money. The USD is very low now as the previous poster mentioned this means US assets are on sale and it is a very good time to be investing in American companies. I'm not saying this because I'm a hyper patriot either, I'm actually a Canadian.
Best of LuckI have the opportunity to receive pension funds from a former employee of my late husband.?
Take everything you can get in a lump sum. Inflation and cost of living will eat up a lot over a 16 year period. If it is a substantial amount, trade it in for euros because the dollar is losing value.
Talk to an accountant who can show you what option is better or talk to the pension manager of the company to find out more information.spots bloom-
Take all of the money now ! COLA should only apply if you choose to leave the money with them, but either way choose the option that gets you the most money today and then take that money and go to the track ;) kidding.. find a quality investment advisor who can place the money into a safe environment for you until you are ready to retire or have a need for the money. The USD is very low now as the previous poster mentioned this means US assets are on sale and it is a very good time to be investing in American companies. I'm not saying this because I'm a hyper patriot either, I'm actually a Canadian.
Best of LuckI have the opportunity to receive pension funds from a former employee of my late husband.?
Take everything you can get in a lump sum. Inflation and cost of living will eat up a lot over a 16 year period. If it is a substantial amount, trade it in for euros because the dollar is losing value.
Talk to an accountant who can show you what option is better or talk to the pension manager of the company to find out more information.
Is it wrong to cheat on my husband on my birthday?
but it's my birthday, people have free pass to do whatever they want on their birthdays right?Is it wrong to cheat on my husband on my birthday?
If you want to cheat on your husband, then you should tell him that you want a divorce. That's probably the best b-day present you can give yourself right now.Is it wrong to cheat on my husband on my birthday?
Is it okay for your husband to cheat on you on his birthday? Maybe you both better play a good game of checkers and see who is the best cheater. Scrabble is an easy game to cheat in if you have the wood grains memorized on the back of the letter.
Are you serious?
This is disgusting.
No, you can't do that on your birthday.
How would you like it if your husband did that on his birthday?
This is probably the most depressing and sickening question I have ever seen on here.
u made a commitment to be faithful to your man on your wedding day. Just because its ur birthday it doesnt give you the right to bend that.
So no. why would you anyway.?
would u like it if he is like,
'; Honey i will be back later i am going to bang some chick cause its my birthday and I can';
not right. sorry.
If you knew it was right, would you be asking this question? I don't think you would. Just think about how hurt you would be if your husband cheated on you. Cheating is not right, on any day.
you.......are.......in so many ways........wrong in the head.....to think tht...........you could cheat..........on your husband...........
..............i rly rly rly do............feel sorry for him right now.
Well, Happy Birthday! Hope everything works out.
DUH ITZ WRONG ANYDAY
sure and you are going to let your husband cheat on his birthday also, right.
its wrong to cheat on your husband anytime during your marriage.
Correction: it is NEVER okay to cheat on your husband.
Well,I guess you have the suit for it. Ya' know,Birthday Suit? Geez,never mind.
Do you wanna be lonely for your next birthday? lol
Cheers =)
its very wrong
happy birthday
No. lol..Its the one day of the year you get to roam free/do whatever pleases you me-lady. haha.. Enjoy!
Not according to the laws of birthday no
it's OK as long as you ';come twice';
don't you do it every year anyway, why ask
It's not wrong. GO FOR IT. ;D
dumbass
Wrong, people have free passes to do whatever they want on their death beds only ...♣
It's OK if it's with someone named Angus.
It's not cheating, if you don't get caught
(Homer Simpson)
It's wrong any day, but why not? If he's anything like my husband, good for you.
It's wrong! even if it was christmas!!!!!!
no that's just a flat out skanky scrubber. By that I mean you!
you're married...
haha no.. it's wrong to cheat on your husband on any day..
Only if he doesn't get you a present.
wrong.
psh, it's YOUR birthday
If you want to cheat on your husband, then you should tell him that you want a divorce. That's probably the best b-day present you can give yourself right now.Is it wrong to cheat on my husband on my birthday?
Is it okay for your husband to cheat on you on his birthday? Maybe you both better play a good game of checkers and see who is the best cheater. Scrabble is an easy game to cheat in if you have the wood grains memorized on the back of the letter.
Are you serious?
This is disgusting.
No, you can't do that on your birthday.
How would you like it if your husband did that on his birthday?
This is probably the most depressing and sickening question I have ever seen on here.
u made a commitment to be faithful to your man on your wedding day. Just because its ur birthday it doesnt give you the right to bend that.
So no. why would you anyway.?
would u like it if he is like,
'; Honey i will be back later i am going to bang some chick cause its my birthday and I can';
not right. sorry.
If you knew it was right, would you be asking this question? I don't think you would. Just think about how hurt you would be if your husband cheated on you. Cheating is not right, on any day.
you.......are.......in so many ways........wrong in the head.....to think tht...........you could cheat..........on your husband...........
..............i rly rly rly do............feel sorry for him right now.
Well, Happy Birthday! Hope everything works out.
DUH ITZ WRONG ANYDAY
sure and you are going to let your husband cheat on his birthday also, right.
its wrong to cheat on your husband anytime during your marriage.
Correction: it is NEVER okay to cheat on your husband.
Well,I guess you have the suit for it. Ya' know,Birthday Suit? Geez,never mind.
Do you wanna be lonely for your next birthday? lol
Cheers =)
its very wrong
happy birthday
No. lol..Its the one day of the year you get to roam free/do whatever pleases you me-lady. haha.. Enjoy!
Not according to the laws of birthday no
it's OK as long as you ';come twice';
don't you do it every year anyway, why ask
It's not wrong. GO FOR IT. ;D
dumbass
Wrong, people have free passes to do whatever they want on their death beds only ...♣
It's OK if it's with someone named Angus.
It's not cheating, if you don't get caught
(Homer Simpson)
It's wrong any day, but why not? If he's anything like my husband, good for you.
It's wrong! even if it was christmas!!!!!!
no that's just a flat out skanky scrubber. By that I mean you!
you're married...
haha no.. it's wrong to cheat on your husband on any day..
Only if he doesn't get you a present.
wrong.
psh, it's YOUR birthday
Husband is Americn Indian, what do I do to register my kids?
My husband is 1/2 american indian, his father was born and raised on the reservation. I asked my husband about the registry and he doesn't want anything to do with it. I know my kids would qualify for their benefits. How do I start this process?Husband is Americn Indian, what do I do to register my kids?
Call the tribe. ask them for an ';enrollment packet'; Inside there will be a ';Family Tree'; to fill out. Most ask for a ';ROLL NUMBER'; You WILL have to prove a direct link. If grampa is willing to give you his roll number, you'll only have to prove a link to HIM, via birth cert. Each tribe is different, they either go by blood quantum, or lineage. If you need a contact list, the BIA has a website with a PDF of tribal contacts. Most nations have websites today. If you need any help, email me. I've helped more then a few 'back home'.Husband is Americn Indian, what do I do to register my kids?
Go to the nearest reservation and ask for the local sherriff
or official and ask them. They should know.. Or you can Google search Department of Indian affairs. That may help you.
They are just American. I am half Irish, but I don't call myself an Irish-American. I am simply an American with a proud Irish heritage.
Calling your children American will not take away from their proud Native heritage. And calling them Native American just to get benefits will not instill in them the drive to work hard to get ahead. They will just rely on their NA status and be lazy.
Contact the Tribal Office on the reservation. They will help you.
it would be best to go to the nations local field office....they will have all the applications and will be able to tell you more accurately than i can but i know with one of my former boyfriends they had to go get proof of his lineage. so you will probably have to consult with your husbands father and other relatives for that information. but if your husband has a CDIB card which is certificate of degree of indian blood or something like that your children will be able to use his number until they are 18 and then they will be required to get their own number. but its alot easier to just get it done now. with a CDIB the benefits vary from tribe to tribe. some have funds set up that will assist in college tuition, medical and dental insurance, various programs like the one where i live they have different sports camps and projects during the summer which the kids attend for free and everything is provided. they always have outings planned for the kids and many many many other great benefits. good luck to you.
american indian! register them as american indian!
there are SOOOO many benefits they can get if they are registered as AI...
plus it will teach them to be proud of their heritage!
go to the local courthouse and tell them you want to register your children as AI
Blanca you need the grandfather's registration number and you can get this by some geneology work or by inquiring to his tribe. From there your children can be registered. Is there any specific reason he doesn't want to register them? That sounds a bit odd concidering that he is doing them a disservice for not registering them. Go to the Guillon-Miller Roll or the Dawes Roll to look for his past relatives and from there you can also obtain their enrollement information.
Call the tribe. ask them for an ';enrollment packet'; Inside there will be a ';Family Tree'; to fill out. Most ask for a ';ROLL NUMBER'; You WILL have to prove a direct link. If grampa is willing to give you his roll number, you'll only have to prove a link to HIM, via birth cert. Each tribe is different, they either go by blood quantum, or lineage. If you need a contact list, the BIA has a website with a PDF of tribal contacts. Most nations have websites today. If you need any help, email me. I've helped more then a few 'back home'.Husband is Americn Indian, what do I do to register my kids?
Go to the nearest reservation and ask for the local sherriff
or official and ask them. They should know.. Or you can Google search Department of Indian affairs. That may help you.
They are just American. I am half Irish, but I don't call myself an Irish-American. I am simply an American with a proud Irish heritage.
Calling your children American will not take away from their proud Native heritage. And calling them Native American just to get benefits will not instill in them the drive to work hard to get ahead. They will just rely on their NA status and be lazy.
Contact the Tribal Office on the reservation. They will help you.
it would be best to go to the nations local field office....they will have all the applications and will be able to tell you more accurately than i can but i know with one of my former boyfriends they had to go get proof of his lineage. so you will probably have to consult with your husbands father and other relatives for that information. but if your husband has a CDIB card which is certificate of degree of indian blood or something like that your children will be able to use his number until they are 18 and then they will be required to get their own number. but its alot easier to just get it done now. with a CDIB the benefits vary from tribe to tribe. some have funds set up that will assist in college tuition, medical and dental insurance, various programs like the one where i live they have different sports camps and projects during the summer which the kids attend for free and everything is provided. they always have outings planned for the kids and many many many other great benefits. good luck to you.
american indian! register them as american indian!
there are SOOOO many benefits they can get if they are registered as AI...
plus it will teach them to be proud of their heritage!
go to the local courthouse and tell them you want to register your children as AI
Blanca you need the grandfather's registration number and you can get this by some geneology work or by inquiring to his tribe. From there your children can be registered. Is there any specific reason he doesn't want to register them? That sounds a bit odd concidering that he is doing them a disservice for not registering them. Go to the Guillon-Miller Roll or the Dawes Roll to look for his past relatives and from there you can also obtain their enrollement information.
Would you call it cheating if your husband or wife dances with other men at a club?
Well I seen my friend at a club which is a male and he is married and I know his wife. I seen him dancing with another women but he was not touching or feeling on her. Would anyone consider this cheating? I would be upset if my hubby danced with other women at a club when I am not around or there. The same for me he would have a fit if I danced with another man.Would you call it cheating if your husband or wife dances with other men at a club?
NOPEWould you call it cheating if your husband or wife dances with other men at a club?
I would think that as long as you know the person that he is dancing with that should be OK but if you were to see somebody you know dancing with somebody you have never seen before then yes a red flag should go up especially if he or she is dancing with that person several times in the night. I would say something to the spouse who is not there and unaware of what is going on. I know it's not right to be a whistle blower but cheating is definitely terribly wrong so lets do what is right and possibly save a marriage.
depends, if the other spouse is there and okay's it then its alright. And i think it also depends on who the dance partner is. if it was a mutual friend who wasn't getting touchy feely i wouldn't care but if he was dancing with some B**** who was grinding him i would not be OK with it. Same goes the other way around if he doesn't feel like dancing and i do he is cool with me dancing with his friends or my guy friends but i never dance up on them, that would be disrespectful to him and me.
Dancing. We're talking about dancing.
Dancing in a club.
DANCING.
Not even touching.
Not even touching much less swapping spit.
Really now, not cheating.
The question you must ask yourself is whether his wife is dancing deprived. After all, it is possible his wife does not like to dance so he dances without her.
Look, you really must grow up a bit.
Cheating, real infidelity, starts when there is some exchange of body fluids.
There are a lot of factors that could sway the answer either way.
1. Did he share one dance with her or did they dance all night?
2. Were they all over each other or was he just being polite?
3. What are the mutual rules in his relationship?
4. Would he hide something like this from his wife?
Usually the general rule is if you wouldn't do it while they were there, then you shouldn't do it while they're not. So it really leaves it open to what the couple is okay with each other doing.
First, how well do you know the wife? If not too well, then mind your own business. And, how well do you know the guy? I guess it comes down to that unless you know these people well, then don't go and create a potentially serious situation needlessly. Don't start s*%26amp;t when there ain't none!
i think it really depends on THEIR relationship, i mean if he wasn't touching her. no i wouldn't be very happy, but maybe she knows and is ok with it. if he was touching and all over her yes, i think that is the same as cheating.
Yes I would be mad but that is why neither one of us go to clubs. Sports bars but not clubs. And my husband hates if another man even touches me so I know he would be upset.But that's us maybe his wife doesn't mind. Ask him how would his wife feel about it?
Dancing is hardly cheating but I would be uncomfortable knowing my husband was out dancing with other women. Going to a sports bar with buddies and hanging out is one thing but going clubbing and dancing with women could lead to trouble.
I wouldn't consider it cheating. The no# 1 thing in a healthy marriage is trust. I think he was just enjoying his self. Now if he would've left with this female, I would say something then, but just dancing is harmless.
i wouldn't consider it cheating..that's way to harsh but it was definitely inappropriate !..i would be really annoyed and i think it would be the same the other way round
Dancing is a form of foreplay, my ex just ';had to take line dance lessons';. She danced her azz into a divorce due to her infidelity.
No its not cheating just to people having a good time! Relax; they weren't touching just dancing.
no not at all
i don't feel that way, there is nothing wrong in dancing with another woman if he is married as long u know what he is doing
Yeah.
No
NOPEWould you call it cheating if your husband or wife dances with other men at a club?
I would think that as long as you know the person that he is dancing with that should be OK but if you were to see somebody you know dancing with somebody you have never seen before then yes a red flag should go up especially if he or she is dancing with that person several times in the night. I would say something to the spouse who is not there and unaware of what is going on. I know it's not right to be a whistle blower but cheating is definitely terribly wrong so lets do what is right and possibly save a marriage.
depends, if the other spouse is there and okay's it then its alright. And i think it also depends on who the dance partner is. if it was a mutual friend who wasn't getting touchy feely i wouldn't care but if he was dancing with some B**** who was grinding him i would not be OK with it. Same goes the other way around if he doesn't feel like dancing and i do he is cool with me dancing with his friends or my guy friends but i never dance up on them, that would be disrespectful to him and me.
Dancing. We're talking about dancing.
Dancing in a club.
DANCING.
Not even touching.
Not even touching much less swapping spit.
Really now, not cheating.
The question you must ask yourself is whether his wife is dancing deprived. After all, it is possible his wife does not like to dance so he dances without her.
Look, you really must grow up a bit.
Cheating, real infidelity, starts when there is some exchange of body fluids.
There are a lot of factors that could sway the answer either way.
1. Did he share one dance with her or did they dance all night?
2. Were they all over each other or was he just being polite?
3. What are the mutual rules in his relationship?
4. Would he hide something like this from his wife?
Usually the general rule is if you wouldn't do it while they were there, then you shouldn't do it while they're not. So it really leaves it open to what the couple is okay with each other doing.
First, how well do you know the wife? If not too well, then mind your own business. And, how well do you know the guy? I guess it comes down to that unless you know these people well, then don't go and create a potentially serious situation needlessly. Don't start s*%26amp;t when there ain't none!
i think it really depends on THEIR relationship, i mean if he wasn't touching her. no i wouldn't be very happy, but maybe she knows and is ok with it. if he was touching and all over her yes, i think that is the same as cheating.
Yes I would be mad but that is why neither one of us go to clubs. Sports bars but not clubs. And my husband hates if another man even touches me so I know he would be upset.But that's us maybe his wife doesn't mind. Ask him how would his wife feel about it?
Dancing is hardly cheating but I would be uncomfortable knowing my husband was out dancing with other women. Going to a sports bar with buddies and hanging out is one thing but going clubbing and dancing with women could lead to trouble.
I wouldn't consider it cheating. The no# 1 thing in a healthy marriage is trust. I think he was just enjoying his self. Now if he would've left with this female, I would say something then, but just dancing is harmless.
i wouldn't consider it cheating..that's way to harsh but it was definitely inappropriate !..i would be really annoyed and i think it would be the same the other way round
Dancing is a form of foreplay, my ex just ';had to take line dance lessons';. She danced her azz into a divorce due to her infidelity.
No its not cheating just to people having a good time! Relax; they weren't touching just dancing.
no not at all
i don't feel that way, there is nothing wrong in dancing with another woman if he is married as long u know what he is doing
Yeah.
No
I seem to be waiting for my husband to get better when its not going to happen.How do I get over this feeling?
Almost 5 years ago he sustained a tramitic brain injury. He is now permantly disabled. I am his caregiver. I'm in a perpetual waiting pattern which causes me to get very little done with my life. How do I break this cycle. I see my 18 year old son doing the same thing. We just keep waiting for dad to come back. He never will. ( I have tried support groups but they just depress me more) What is the magic secret?I seem to be waiting for my husband to get better when its not going to happen.How do I get over this feeling?
Take this for a grain of salt.
You're longing for what is no longer here. We hold on to things, especially one another. But we are very fragile, and we break easily. But for some reason we always assume that everything will go well, and are shocked when it doesn't. You're problem is reconciling the facts with your internal concept of the way things should be.
Not to sound stupid, but remember Forrest Gump and his box of chocolates? It's kinda like that. And sometimes the chocolate we take is not what we wanted.
I think that you are probably in a very sad situation, and your life has been permanently disrupted, and this is what's causing you the most heartache. You need to take care of you just as much as you take care of him. JUST AS MUCH! If that means going away on a vacation by yourself or with friends, then so be it. Also, find others in your community that may help you with the burden. You have to find a release for yourself.
Good luck.I seem to be waiting for my husband to get better when its not going to happen.How do I get over this feeling?
this is your fate and destiny, accept it , the sooner your accept it, the ease you will feel and brighten you will be to handle day to day routine
There is no one right answer to this question. Everyone is different. I myself am not terribly religious, but I think in this situation having the support of a congregation would definitely help. I know that growing up members of our church volunteered to help families like yours even if just for a few hours a week so that you could have a little me time.
He did not ask to be in the situation, but at the same time neither did you and I am sure that it is difficult not to be resentful at times.
I wish you happiness.
THERE IS NO MAGIC SECRET.............. TIME IS SUPPOSED TO HEAL ALL WOUNDS
You clearly need a good therapist. Go out and find one, because you definitely have a lot of stuff that you need to talk about.
Take this for a grain of salt.
You're longing for what is no longer here. We hold on to things, especially one another. But we are very fragile, and we break easily. But for some reason we always assume that everything will go well, and are shocked when it doesn't. You're problem is reconciling the facts with your internal concept of the way things should be.
Not to sound stupid, but remember Forrest Gump and his box of chocolates? It's kinda like that. And sometimes the chocolate we take is not what we wanted.
I think that you are probably in a very sad situation, and your life has been permanently disrupted, and this is what's causing you the most heartache. You need to take care of you just as much as you take care of him. JUST AS MUCH! If that means going away on a vacation by yourself or with friends, then so be it. Also, find others in your community that may help you with the burden. You have to find a release for yourself.
Good luck.I seem to be waiting for my husband to get better when its not going to happen.How do I get over this feeling?
this is your fate and destiny, accept it , the sooner your accept it, the ease you will feel and brighten you will be to handle day to day routine
There is no one right answer to this question. Everyone is different. I myself am not terribly religious, but I think in this situation having the support of a congregation would definitely help. I know that growing up members of our church volunteered to help families like yours even if just for a few hours a week so that you could have a little me time.
He did not ask to be in the situation, but at the same time neither did you and I am sure that it is difficult not to be resentful at times.
I wish you happiness.
THERE IS NO MAGIC SECRET.............. TIME IS SUPPOSED TO HEAL ALL WOUNDS
You clearly need a good therapist. Go out and find one, because you definitely have a lot of stuff that you need to talk about.
What can I do to prevent my husband from becoming an ';educated bum.';?
My husband recently obtained a B.S. degree and he refuses to apply to NYU Stern. He doesn't want to go to Columbia either. He can definitely get in to either of these institutions but, he wants to go to this unknown school just because its cheap. What the heck am I supposed to do to push him towards excellence? Help!!!What can I do to prevent my husband from becoming an ';educated bum.';?
firstly give him your full love ,spend a time with him and try to get why he wants cheap,coz he wants money save for your life or just by habit.
say him if he will join a best insti today he will get more money tomorrow then he is goin to save just by avoiding it.I think he will think of it. Every man is himself aware of carrer.
firstly give him your full love ,spend a time with him and try to get why he wants cheap,coz he wants money save for your life or just by habit.
say him if he will join a best insti today he will get more money tomorrow then he is goin to save just by avoiding it.I think he will think of it. Every man is himself aware of carrer.
Why do women resent giving part of their income to the husband, while husbands do not ? When a wife works and?
the husband does not work, with very very few excetptions, she is deeply unhappy, however when it is the other way around, the husband thinks nothing of supporting wifey. Why is that ?Why do women resent giving part of their income to the husband, while husbands do not ? When a wife works and?
Fereshte:
';If these numbers are to be believed, it means there must be a great deal of women (the mothers) who are willing to support the fathers financially.';
How did you arrive at that conclusion? How is that statistics have any external validity? Men are SAHP coz of the economy. Pray what was the number 2 years ago?
And you have missed the point the questioner is making:
men don't think twice about being the sole bread winner, because they don't consider that as ';SUPPORTING'; their wives. They think its but obvious.
What he is asking is, why the same mentality doesn't exist in women, yet? And there are no statistics out measuring women's mentality.
The only indicator of such is the fact that 80% of divorces are initiated by women and financial problems are the most important factor.Why do women resent giving part of their income to the husband, while husbands do not ? When a wife works and?
I agree. No one thinks twice about a male physician married to a women who works part time as a secretary or is a stay at home Mom. A female physician will usually marry a male physician, and if one were to marry a part time retail worker people would look askance at it.
I think it is because for years the it was expected that men of a certain class would support their spouse and ';bring home the bacon';. Women learned to evaluate men based on their job, since back then they had few career options themselves.
Since then a lot of effort has been expended to get people to accept the notion of women working outside of the home in traditional ';male'; occupations. No one has really fought for acceptance of men who do NOT work outside of the home. Women never really changed how they evaluated men when women's lib began.
This is, in my opinion, a big weakness of the feminist movement. Super ambitious career men often have the advantage of ';stay at home mom'; spouses who handle child care and put their careers second. This lets the man focus on work. Women tend not to respect men who are not career focused. This means they marry a man with an equivalent career, and have to either make time for child care or not have kids.
1) that's not necessarily true. some men do resent having to work, and some wives don't.
2) if we're going to generalize anyhow, maybe it's because when still do stuff when they aren't working--like cleaning the house, raising the kids, running errands, etc, and men only sit around playing video games. (hey, if we're gonna do gross generalizations, why not go all the way, eh??)
edit: so what's your source that this is how the majority are? scientific studies or personal experience? just curious. cuz if we're doing personal experience, and assuming that makes something a majority in the rest of the world and not just one's individual world, then see #2 because that's my personal experience...
Okay since you experience memory loss- my hubby was a mere law student when we first got married. That was his job (along with basic care taking of our apartment building). I provided the income while he was working toward a goal. It wasn't a problem. However, if he had been home playing video games while I worked it would have been.
You seem to be asserting that men today don't care if their wives work or stay home. That is not true. With 85% of women %26lt;65 years whose children are grown, are in the workforce. Some 70% of women with children %26lt;12 years are also in the workforce. I am sure these men would not want these women to quit their jobs on a whim.
hahahaha....I think you must have split personality with where your questions come from. Clearly we have never seen questions on here from men complaining about giving women money or them being ';gold diggers'; if they don't work. I have no problem supporting my husband financially in a time of need and would not resent him as long as he was doing something with his life and that is how it would work if I was unemployed as well. We both believe in being productive citizens.
Maybe he is squandering her income?
If he is staying at home and taking care of the house, kids, meals, etc. then he should get an allowance to be able to care for all of those things plus have a little for himself, you know to get his hair done and maybe to get some sexy pj's. :)
you my dear of all people jsut stated that we should except the differences in genders... lol I dont agree with what the truth brings or how society has made men and women but no body can deny the truth... why is it that way? well I believe that women wan to be taken care of... most anyways... not the other way around. I love doing dishes and laundry, and even get upset when my guy does it for me... lol that is my role... and he would be sad if ever he thought i didn't think he could provide for us... so my money remains mine and his laundry is also mine lol... men are just as head strong as us ladies!
I didn't resent the fact that I was giving him money... I resented the fact that he wasn't even looking for a job, and I can support myself, I can't support him... Plus, he had major anger issues about it.
I don't know any women who feel that way.
I am and will perfectly happy to work outside the home with a work at home or stay at home husband!
Ok, where are you getting your information? Evidence, please. Or at least a little back up details. More and more men are feeling they can be Stay at Home Dads. Right now, almost 20% of fathers are SAHDs. ( http://www.rebeldad.com/stats.htm ). And some 37-49% of men have considered it. (scroll down on link given.) If these numbers are to be believed, it means there must be a great deal of women (the mothers) who are willing to support the fathers financially.
As a career woman, I have already discussed with my man the possibility of him being a SAHD. If I make enough money, he says he's willing. In return, I would be eternally grateful as I don't have the fortitude to be a SAHM. I would NOT be ';deeply unhappy.'; Would I miss that time with my children? Sure. But so does a father when he leaves.
You argument is null and void in a rapidly changing environment where men are given more and more social freedoms. Welcome to the new world.
BratRich--Did you look at the link? Those numbers, many of them, ARE from more than 2 years ago. Go back and clink on the links for each set of numbers and actually READ the freaking articles instead of making assumptions.
Fereshte:
';If these numbers are to be believed, it means there must be a great deal of women (the mothers) who are willing to support the fathers financially.';
How did you arrive at that conclusion? How is that statistics have any external validity? Men are SAHP coz of the economy. Pray what was the number 2 years ago?
And you have missed the point the questioner is making:
men don't think twice about being the sole bread winner, because they don't consider that as ';SUPPORTING'; their wives. They think its but obvious.
What he is asking is, why the same mentality doesn't exist in women, yet? And there are no statistics out measuring women's mentality.
The only indicator of such is the fact that 80% of divorces are initiated by women and financial problems are the most important factor.Why do women resent giving part of their income to the husband, while husbands do not ? When a wife works and?
I agree. No one thinks twice about a male physician married to a women who works part time as a secretary or is a stay at home Mom. A female physician will usually marry a male physician, and if one were to marry a part time retail worker people would look askance at it.
I think it is because for years the it was expected that men of a certain class would support their spouse and ';bring home the bacon';. Women learned to evaluate men based on their job, since back then they had few career options themselves.
Since then a lot of effort has been expended to get people to accept the notion of women working outside of the home in traditional ';male'; occupations. No one has really fought for acceptance of men who do NOT work outside of the home. Women never really changed how they evaluated men when women's lib began.
This is, in my opinion, a big weakness of the feminist movement. Super ambitious career men often have the advantage of ';stay at home mom'; spouses who handle child care and put their careers second. This lets the man focus on work. Women tend not to respect men who are not career focused. This means they marry a man with an equivalent career, and have to either make time for child care or not have kids.
1) that's not necessarily true. some men do resent having to work, and some wives don't.
2) if we're going to generalize anyhow, maybe it's because when still do stuff when they aren't working--like cleaning the house, raising the kids, running errands, etc, and men only sit around playing video games. (hey, if we're gonna do gross generalizations, why not go all the way, eh??)
edit: so what's your source that this is how the majority are? scientific studies or personal experience? just curious. cuz if we're doing personal experience, and assuming that makes something a majority in the rest of the world and not just one's individual world, then see #2 because that's my personal experience...
Okay since you experience memory loss- my hubby was a mere law student when we first got married. That was his job (along with basic care taking of our apartment building). I provided the income while he was working toward a goal. It wasn't a problem. However, if he had been home playing video games while I worked it would have been.
You seem to be asserting that men today don't care if their wives work or stay home. That is not true. With 85% of women %26lt;65 years whose children are grown, are in the workforce. Some 70% of women with children %26lt;12 years are also in the workforce. I am sure these men would not want these women to quit their jobs on a whim.
hahahaha....I think you must have split personality with where your questions come from. Clearly we have never seen questions on here from men complaining about giving women money or them being ';gold diggers'; if they don't work. I have no problem supporting my husband financially in a time of need and would not resent him as long as he was doing something with his life and that is how it would work if I was unemployed as well. We both believe in being productive citizens.
Maybe he is squandering her income?
If he is staying at home and taking care of the house, kids, meals, etc. then he should get an allowance to be able to care for all of those things plus have a little for himself, you know to get his hair done and maybe to get some sexy pj's. :)
you my dear of all people jsut stated that we should except the differences in genders... lol I dont agree with what the truth brings or how society has made men and women but no body can deny the truth... why is it that way? well I believe that women wan to be taken care of... most anyways... not the other way around. I love doing dishes and laundry, and even get upset when my guy does it for me... lol that is my role... and he would be sad if ever he thought i didn't think he could provide for us... so my money remains mine and his laundry is also mine lol... men are just as head strong as us ladies!
I didn't resent the fact that I was giving him money... I resented the fact that he wasn't even looking for a job, and I can support myself, I can't support him... Plus, he had major anger issues about it.
I don't know any women who feel that way.
I am and will perfectly happy to work outside the home with a work at home or stay at home husband!
Ok, where are you getting your information? Evidence, please. Or at least a little back up details. More and more men are feeling they can be Stay at Home Dads. Right now, almost 20% of fathers are SAHDs. ( http://www.rebeldad.com/stats.htm ). And some 37-49% of men have considered it. (scroll down on link given.) If these numbers are to be believed, it means there must be a great deal of women (the mothers) who are willing to support the fathers financially.
As a career woman, I have already discussed with my man the possibility of him being a SAHD. If I make enough money, he says he's willing. In return, I would be eternally grateful as I don't have the fortitude to be a SAHM. I would NOT be ';deeply unhappy.'; Would I miss that time with my children? Sure. But so does a father when he leaves.
You argument is null and void in a rapidly changing environment where men are given more and more social freedoms. Welcome to the new world.
BratRich--Did you look at the link? Those numbers, many of them, ARE from more than 2 years ago. Go back and clink on the links for each set of numbers and actually READ the freaking articles instead of making assumptions.
I am looking for a song to give to my husband in a picture collage from his daughters.?
I do this every year: I have used Butterfly Kisses, In my daughters eyes, and am looking for something special this year. Any ideas times running out?I am looking for a song to give to my husband in a picture collage from his daughters.?
how about cinderella by steven curtis chapman... that song makes me cry
and it even made my dad cry
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fus鈥?/a>I am looking for a song to give to my husband in a picture collage from his daughters.?
what a wonderful world by louis armstrong. i did this once with a family video, and i still cry everytime i watch it. :)
does it have to be a song? can it be a poem?
i made fathers day card this year using my daughter's handprints done in paint.... and found some cool poems on the net (i think i googled handprint poem). the one i used was
';This is my hand, my hand will do,
A thousand loving things with you
And you will remember when i am tall
That once my hand was just this small';
How about thew song ';Daddy's Hands'; by Holly Dunn??
I remember daddy's hands
folded silently in prayer.
And reachin' out to hold me,
when I had a nightmare.
You could read quite a story
in the callous' and lines.
Years of work and worry
had left their mark behind.
I remember daddy's hands
how they held my mama tight.
And patted my back
for something done right.
There are things that I'd forgotten
that I loved about the man.
But I'll always remember
the love in daddy's hands.
Daddy's hands were soft and kind
when I was cryin'.
Daddy's hands were hard as steel
when I'd done wrong.
Daddy's hands weren't always gentle
but I've come to understand.
There was always love in daddy's hands.
I remember daddy's hands
workin' 'til they bled.
Sacrificed unselfishly
just to keep us all fed.
If I could do things over,
I'd live my life again.
And never take for granted
the love in daddy's hands.
- Holly Dunn
Isn't She Lovely by Stevie Wonder or
Ready Set Don't Go by Billy Ray Cyrus.
My Little Girl by Tim McGraw
Ready get set dont go by billy ray cyrus hope i helped
You are so beautiful to me, Joe Cocker
You are the sunshine of my life, Stevie Wonder
Sunshine, Bob Denver
Yeah, I know, they're 30+ years old, but they're still great.
You Are So Beautiful by Joe Cocker
how about cinderella by steven curtis chapman... that song makes me cry
and it even made my dad cry
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fus鈥?/a>I am looking for a song to give to my husband in a picture collage from his daughters.?
what a wonderful world by louis armstrong. i did this once with a family video, and i still cry everytime i watch it. :)
does it have to be a song? can it be a poem?
i made fathers day card this year using my daughter's handprints done in paint.... and found some cool poems on the net (i think i googled handprint poem). the one i used was
';This is my hand, my hand will do,
A thousand loving things with you
And you will remember when i am tall
That once my hand was just this small';
How about thew song ';Daddy's Hands'; by Holly Dunn??
I remember daddy's hands
folded silently in prayer.
And reachin' out to hold me,
when I had a nightmare.
You could read quite a story
in the callous' and lines.
Years of work and worry
had left their mark behind.
I remember daddy's hands
how they held my mama tight.
And patted my back
for something done right.
There are things that I'd forgotten
that I loved about the man.
But I'll always remember
the love in daddy's hands.
Daddy's hands were soft and kind
when I was cryin'.
Daddy's hands were hard as steel
when I'd done wrong.
Daddy's hands weren't always gentle
but I've come to understand.
There was always love in daddy's hands.
I remember daddy's hands
workin' 'til they bled.
Sacrificed unselfishly
just to keep us all fed.
If I could do things over,
I'd live my life again.
And never take for granted
the love in daddy's hands.
- Holly Dunn
Isn't She Lovely by Stevie Wonder or
Ready Set Don't Go by Billy Ray Cyrus.
My Little Girl by Tim McGraw
Ready get set dont go by billy ray cyrus hope i helped
You are so beautiful to me, Joe Cocker
You are the sunshine of my life, Stevie Wonder
Sunshine, Bob Denver
Yeah, I know, they're 30+ years old, but they're still great.
You Are So Beautiful by Joe Cocker
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