How can a husband state to love his wife like God loved the church is a tall order, but?

Issue with him taking a co-worker to dinner. States it was business. Yet, she is the same level as him. I told him any business is to be discussed at work, not dinner. This was an arguement. He now has told her no. But, states that he didn't see anything wrong with it. I told him this is how things get started either physically or emotionally.


He states wouldn't happen, he knows himself. Yet, he can't love me the way christ loved the church, but he can avoid an emotional attachment to another women?????? How can this be??????How can a husband state to love his wife like God loved the church is a tall order, but?
He seems to believe that 'giving space' to another woman is no big deal, becuase it's not actually 'doing anything wrong.'





However, most adultury begins with the baby steps of 'giving space' (ie talking to someone of the opposite sex on the phone, letting themselvs think of someone else, just spending time with them at all), becuase it is easy for them to rationalize to themselvs that they are not doing anything wrong (';I'ts just talking!';) however these actions become bigger, and the person allows themselvs to do more, and they rationalize more and more things as ';well, we talked on the phone, what difference is it if we have a coffee together and talk?'; then ';well, we had a coffee together, how is it any different really if we have a coffee alone at their house?'; and they just keep lying to themselvs and taken one step closer to the edge.





Before they know it they have maken a grave mistake and destroyed all trust in their relationship, which even they actually regret, but thus is the steep, steep price of compramise.





Jesus helps prevent this when he says ';If you look upon a woman lustfully you have already commited adultary in your heart';, for even looking upon a woman to lust is already 'giving that space' and is a betrayl! You already have that intention in your heart to betray.





If you see these early signs in your relationship I suggest OPEN AND HONEST communication, ie TELL HIM EXACTLY how you feel.... It might be vulnrable and scary and you will worry that you will look bad, but if he is a true husband and man of God he will act only EVER to make his wife happy and take her insecuirtys away and do ANYTHING IT TAKES to ensure he is faithful FOREVER.





God is faithful...How can a husband state to love his wife like God loved the church is a tall order, but?
Is your husband a church goer, is he as devoted to this man christ as much as you think he is, or is he full of s*it like I suspect he really is?


Whether or not you want to believe it, christianity won't save your husband from being a cheat, only he can do that.


I don't believe in god, and I have no respect for religion, so do yourself a favour and put your faith in you gut and common sense!


If you think he's up to no good then he probably is, so use your head and get a bloody good lawyer, I'm sure your god wouldn't want you ro stay with a liar.
Matt. 19: 5


5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?





A friend of mine tried the same thing. He had a ';jogging friend'; that was female. He is now divorced, he has lost his family, his wife, and even his ';jogging friend.'; We strongly counseled him that he was playing with fire but he believed that this ';would never happen to him';. His wife ignorantly thought, ';I'll just trust him.'; She was also not wise.





Set boundaries together and help each other to keep them. All have a moment of weakness and fall however if you are never in a compromising situation then there will be no opportunity.





Wisdom: One that does not wish to fall from a cliff stays far away from the edge.
Perhaps if it truly was just business he bring you along??? If I have a meeting out of work with another man I'd bring my hubby. But let it be known he doesn't have to go to dinner with her to grow attached, this can all very easily happen in the hours at work. Maybe you guys shold pray together, or seek a little counseling, for those trust issues.
The situation you described is how things get started in adultery. If it is just a business dinner, tell him you would like to go along. Or if it were unavoidable that he must go, he should wait until you could go.
Women know when their husband is cheating. If you don't know it, don't accuse him of it.





If you know it, don't ask us. Just leave him.
God and prayer in the name of Jesus is always the answer to any of our problems or worries. Take this and all things to Christ.


take care.
All that is a little too deep for me.