Im looking for books for my husband who is a marine and is being deployed. I would like him to read in between the hours he'll spend playing video games so I need books that will capture his attention. I don't want it to be something about the war or marines because i want it to take him away from it. What do you have in mind?Im looking for a couple of good books for my husband?
It depends on what type of books he is interested in. Here are some recommendations for several genres:
Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer (Biography)
Angels and Demons %26amp;
The Di Vinci Code by Dan Brown (Mystery/Religion) They are not religious they just explain a lot about it.
The Wheel of Time Series by Robert Jordan (Fantasy/Science Fiction) Really long
A Game of Thrones Series by George RR Martin (Fantasy/Sci Fi) Guys seems to like this more than Jordan
Silence of the Lambs by Thomas Harris (Thriller)
The Shining by Stephen King (Horror)
You don't want to get him anything too heavy. My husband deployed last September and he isn't much of a reader but I got him audiobooks. he could just put them on his ipod and listen all day. If he wants to do that then go to the library and get as many as you can on his computer before he leaves. But if he does like to read and goes through books quickly maybe you should invest in a Kindle. 7 out of 10 times where they go will have internet and he can download books in less then a minute. Hope this helps and good luck. It will go by quickly!Im looking for a couple of good books for my husband?
';The Redemption of Althalus'; by David Eddings. Its a fantasy novel about a thief taken in hand by a goddess and who changes the world. I couldn't put it down!
twilight
My dad reads books by Sidney Sheldon. I don't know what they are like, but he reads them a lot.
He'd probably like ';Kite Runner'; if he's in the army
Saturday, January 9, 2010
How does my husband get checked to see if he can have children?
I want my husband and I to both get checked to see if we can have children, I know I can probably go to my gyno, but where does my husband go? Can he go with me or do we need to see a different kind of doctor??How does my husband get checked to see if he can have children?
Ask your gyno. Many can either check it themselves or order a lab test for it.How does my husband get checked to see if he can have children?
both go and see a doctor (gp)! tell them your having probloems (if this is the case) and ask them if they could do some tests to find out!
YOU ARE ON
GOD'S MOST
WANTED LIST
Have him contact his doctor's office and they will typically either refer him to a urologist or directly to a lab that does this.
Ask your gyno. Many can either check it themselves or order a lab test for it.How does my husband get checked to see if he can have children?
both go and see a doctor (gp)! tell them your having probloems (if this is the case) and ask them if they could do some tests to find out!
YOU ARE ON
GOD'S MOST
WANTED LIST
Have him contact his doctor's office and they will typically either refer him to a urologist or directly to a lab that does this.
What are some good ideas for gifts to give your husband on Valentine's Day?
This is our first one as husband and wife, so I'd really like to find something special, but also something that he'd like, considering Valentine's Day seems more like it's for men to give to women. What do you think?What are some good ideas for gifts to give your husband on Valentine's Day?
Top Ten:
1. something he likes
3. Heart-oriented novelties
4. chocolates
5. a romantic dinner
6. a kiss
7. jewelry that you two share
8. just being together
9. something you two can share
10. Love!What are some good ideas for gifts to give your husband on Valentine's Day?
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if you go out to dinner DON'T go on February 14th! They charge more money and it takes longer to get served.
Pick another day you two can celebrate in comfort and peace!
A special date, the two of you. Why don't you buy some new lingerie, fix up a nice dinner, and light candles. Make the atmosphore romantic. That way you will get something as will he.
procreate!
maybe, not. it isn't nice to have another mouth to feed if he's the one earning a living!
safe sex.
Top Ten:
1. something he likes
3. Heart-oriented novelties
4. chocolates
5. a romantic dinner
6. a kiss
7. jewelry that you two share
8. just being together
9. something you two can share
10. Love!What are some good ideas for gifts to give your husband on Valentine's Day?
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go 2 the spa togerther
if you go out to dinner DON'T go on February 14th! They charge more money and it takes longer to get served.
Pick another day you two can celebrate in comfort and peace!
A special date, the two of you. Why don't you buy some new lingerie, fix up a nice dinner, and light candles. Make the atmosphore romantic. That way you will get something as will he.
procreate!
maybe, not. it isn't nice to have another mouth to feed if he's the one earning a living!
safe sex.
What are some good ideas for gifts to give your husband on Valentine's Day?
This is our first one as husband and wife, so I'd really like to find something special, but also something that he'd like, considering Valentine's Day seems more like it's for men to give to women. What do you think?What are some good ideas for gifts to give your husband on Valentine's Day?
Top Ten:
1. something he likes
3. Heart-oriented novelties
4. chocolates
5. a romantic dinner
6. a kiss
7. jewelry that you two share
8. just being together
9. something you two can share
10. Love!What are some good ideas for gifts to give your husband on Valentine's Day?
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go 2 the spa togerther
if you go out to dinner DON'T go on February 14th! They charge more money and it takes longer to get served.
Pick another day you two can celebrate in comfort and peace!
A special date, the two of you. Why don't you buy some new lingerie, fix up a nice dinner, and light candles. Make the atmosphore romantic. That way you will get something as will he.
procreate!
maybe, not. it isn't nice to have another mouth to feed if he's the one earning a living!
safe sex.id bare minerals eye brush
Top Ten:
1. something he likes
3. Heart-oriented novelties
4. chocolates
5. a romantic dinner
6. a kiss
7. jewelry that you two share
8. just being together
9. something you two can share
10. Love!What are some good ideas for gifts to give your husband on Valentine's Day?
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go 2 the spa togerther
if you go out to dinner DON'T go on February 14th! They charge more money and it takes longer to get served.
Pick another day you two can celebrate in comfort and peace!
A special date, the two of you. Why don't you buy some new lingerie, fix up a nice dinner, and light candles. Make the atmosphore romantic. That way you will get something as will he.
procreate!
maybe, not. it isn't nice to have another mouth to feed if he's the one earning a living!
safe sex.
Im looking for a couple of good books for my husband?
Im looking for books for my husband who is a marine and is being deployed. I would like him to read in between the hours he'll spend playing video games so I need books that will capture his attention. I don't want it to be something about the war or marines because i want it to take him away from it. What do you have in mind?Im looking for a couple of good books for my husband?
It depends on what type of books he is interested in. Here are some recommendations for several genres:
Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer (Biography)
Angels and Demons %26amp;
The Di Vinci Code by Dan Brown (Mystery/Religion) They are not religious they just explain a lot about it.
The Wheel of Time Series by Robert Jordan (Fantasy/Science Fiction) Really long
A Game of Thrones Series by George RR Martin (Fantasy/Sci Fi) Guys seems to like this more than Jordan
Silence of the Lambs by Thomas Harris (Thriller)
The Shining by Stephen King (Horror)
You don't want to get him anything too heavy. My husband deployed last September and he isn't much of a reader but I got him audiobooks. he could just put them on his ipod and listen all day. If he wants to do that then go to the library and get as many as you can on his computer before he leaves. But if he does like to read and goes through books quickly maybe you should invest in a Kindle. 7 out of 10 times where they go will have internet and he can download books in less then a minute. Hope this helps and good luck. It will go by quickly!Im looking for a couple of good books for my husband?
';The Redemption of Althalus'; by David Eddings. Its a fantasy novel about a thief taken in hand by a goddess and who changes the world. I couldn't put it down!
twilight
My dad reads books by Sidney Sheldon. I don't know what they are like, but he reads them a lot.
He'd probably like ';Kite Runner'; if he's in the army
It depends on what type of books he is interested in. Here are some recommendations for several genres:
Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer (Biography)
Angels and Demons %26amp;
The Di Vinci Code by Dan Brown (Mystery/Religion) They are not religious they just explain a lot about it.
The Wheel of Time Series by Robert Jordan (Fantasy/Science Fiction) Really long
A Game of Thrones Series by George RR Martin (Fantasy/Sci Fi) Guys seems to like this more than Jordan
Silence of the Lambs by Thomas Harris (Thriller)
The Shining by Stephen King (Horror)
You don't want to get him anything too heavy. My husband deployed last September and he isn't much of a reader but I got him audiobooks. he could just put them on his ipod and listen all day. If he wants to do that then go to the library and get as many as you can on his computer before he leaves. But if he does like to read and goes through books quickly maybe you should invest in a Kindle. 7 out of 10 times where they go will have internet and he can download books in less then a minute. Hope this helps and good luck. It will go by quickly!Im looking for a couple of good books for my husband?
';The Redemption of Althalus'; by David Eddings. Its a fantasy novel about a thief taken in hand by a goddess and who changes the world. I couldn't put it down!
twilight
My dad reads books by Sidney Sheldon. I don't know what they are like, but he reads them a lot.
He'd probably like ';Kite Runner'; if he's in the army
Ladies if your husband or boy friend got into a fight and was losing would you help him?
Would you jump in the fight to protect your better half?Ladies if your husband or boy friend got into a fight and was losing would you help him?
heck yes! im stronger then most girls, id jump in there and kick the other *******'s ***!Ladies if your husband or boy friend got into a fight and was losing would you help him?
yeah i sure would
although to beat my boy ud have to be a monster... he is 5'6'; and been in army training almost 8 weeks and still has A LOT of training left.. and my cousin actually just got home from b.t. and can lug a full grown man 15 km plus 130lb back pack and dig a hole and fill it back up in 1.5 hours.. so i can imagine what my babe is gonna be like when he gets home.... but id risk it for him
It may make things worse but I'd jump right in to help without a doubt....LOL
Hmm. I think I'd probably pull the other dude off him and I'd make my guy walk away with me.
Yes!
YES!!! Of course.
No i'd pull him outta there before he got hurt!
heck yes! im stronger then most girls, id jump in there and kick the other *******'s ***!Ladies if your husband or boy friend got into a fight and was losing would you help him?
yeah i sure would
although to beat my boy ud have to be a monster... he is 5'6'; and been in army training almost 8 weeks and still has A LOT of training left.. and my cousin actually just got home from b.t. and can lug a full grown man 15 km plus 130lb back pack and dig a hole and fill it back up in 1.5 hours.. so i can imagine what my babe is gonna be like when he gets home.... but id risk it for him
It may make things worse but I'd jump right in to help without a doubt....LOL
Hmm. I think I'd probably pull the other dude off him and I'd make my guy walk away with me.
Yes!
YES!!! Of course.
No i'd pull him outta there before he got hurt!
Ladies, what would be your reaction if your BF or Husband told you that he wanted a sex change?
I probably would end the relationship and stay friends. You can't just stop loving someone for physical changes that's superficial.Ladies, what would be your reaction if your BF or Husband told you that he wanted a sex change?
Hmm.. well I'd definitely still be friends with him, but as far as an intimate relationship..? Nope!
I am not at all attracted to male-to-female individuals and I couldn't be 'into' it enough to even be intimate with him any longer.
I like masculine men -- the dominant, self-controlled, strong, intelligent yummy kind! ~ Not feminine guys.. =/
We could be best friends! And I'd even go shopping with him and give him a makeover if he wanted.. but no more sex or anything like that.
~ OH! And just so you know, I am so open-minded that I would KNOW if a guy was this way WAY BEFORE I even thought about marrying him.
I dig deep into a guy's psyche when dating.. trust meee... =)
Good luck!Ladies, what would be your reaction if your BF or Husband told you that he wanted a sex change?
This is not hypothetical this happens constantly. Sadly, the majority of the posters here emulate the average reaction to someone beginning a gender transition.
First off a person who is a real transsexual person is dealing with a very real and medically accepted congenital birth defect. Therefore leaving someone who transitions is leaving them for correcting a lifelong and painful birth defect. Am I not correct in that most wedding vows include the term, ';In sickness and in health';? These people never did mean that line.
Why is this? Love is not part of their true makeup. They prefer fear and ignorance to loving someone who is trying to become whole.
My partner just had her GRS last week and I am proud to be her mate. She is a wonderful person who is more loving than anyone I have ever known in life. That is what these sad sack posters want to throw away. I feel sorry for them and they should be ashamed of themselves.
Sharon
The answers shown here in part demonstrate the sickness that is becoming America. Tolerance is allowing sickness to fester. And most of the answers are the further demonstration that the sickness is no Self Esteem. Not that we should hate that person.. But, we should get them the help they need. Cutting off God's work is the wrong thing to do. Most of these people were abused when they were young. It's not Hypo-anything, Just pathetic. Reed~%26lt;%26gt;%26lt;
hm,
i wouldn't be able to do it, personally.
i would remain good friends with you,
and maybe try to make it work, but i doubt i could.
another girl could, i'm sure.
it just depends.
but that'd be too wierd for me,
walking around holding a girl's hand,
and having sex with a girl, when i'm straight.
it just wouldn't work.
but don't worry about what others think.
do what makes you happy!
if you feel that becoming a woman will make you happier,
then get that dick chopped off!
life is too short to be anything but happy, baby.
do it for you.
good luck (:
Wow, I would be shocked at first. Ten talk threw it with him.
If he really wanted to do so , I would tell him look aound him his kids if he has any needs him ad his parents want im just the wayhe is and sometimes in life selfishness can harm people who love you.
if he still insists ill wish him luck and let go. I will still be in touch with him tho but just to seehow hes doing thats all.
wrong section
but i mean i would be hurt because the man i love wants to be a woman
and ill probably want to still be with her/him even tho it'll be weird but i still know its the same person
so maybe ill still try to be with the person male or female
My friends husband had his bit removed and now he fancies woman. She divorced him but my goodness she cant let go of him. I suppose he is now a lesbian. I don't know or do I care im just glad i wasn't married to him.
I would end it. I've seen this happen and I don't think it should even be legal. It leads to depression because it is permanent and most people realize that it's not what they really want.
Id ask him 2 get me the garden sheers while i packed my stuff
Id leave the fraud/liar that i married
Den snip snip, all our photos, den snip snip all his clothes, den snip snip.......
I'd end it immediatly. That would just be tooooooo weird.
haha thats a funny question btw !!!!!!
';Oh, not again!';
I would run away.
I think I could make it work; they would still be the same person. Well, inside at least.
whack him across the head
then leg it!
Well, first...... I would ask him if he's mental.......then i don't know what i'd do.
id say wtf and end it !
hokay so, up my bum hole
Hmm.. well I'd definitely still be friends with him, but as far as an intimate relationship..? Nope!
I am not at all attracted to male-to-female individuals and I couldn't be 'into' it enough to even be intimate with him any longer.
I like masculine men -- the dominant, self-controlled, strong, intelligent yummy kind! ~ Not feminine guys.. =/
We could be best friends! And I'd even go shopping with him and give him a makeover if he wanted.. but no more sex or anything like that.
~ OH! And just so you know, I am so open-minded that I would KNOW if a guy was this way WAY BEFORE I even thought about marrying him.
I dig deep into a guy's psyche when dating.. trust meee... =)
Good luck!Ladies, what would be your reaction if your BF or Husband told you that he wanted a sex change?
This is not hypothetical this happens constantly. Sadly, the majority of the posters here emulate the average reaction to someone beginning a gender transition.
First off a person who is a real transsexual person is dealing with a very real and medically accepted congenital birth defect. Therefore leaving someone who transitions is leaving them for correcting a lifelong and painful birth defect. Am I not correct in that most wedding vows include the term, ';In sickness and in health';? These people never did mean that line.
Why is this? Love is not part of their true makeup. They prefer fear and ignorance to loving someone who is trying to become whole.
My partner just had her GRS last week and I am proud to be her mate. She is a wonderful person who is more loving than anyone I have ever known in life. That is what these sad sack posters want to throw away. I feel sorry for them and they should be ashamed of themselves.
Sharon
The answers shown here in part demonstrate the sickness that is becoming America. Tolerance is allowing sickness to fester. And most of the answers are the further demonstration that the sickness is no Self Esteem. Not that we should hate that person.. But, we should get them the help they need. Cutting off God's work is the wrong thing to do. Most of these people were abused when they were young. It's not Hypo-anything, Just pathetic. Reed~%26lt;%26gt;%26lt;
hm,
i wouldn't be able to do it, personally.
i would remain good friends with you,
and maybe try to make it work, but i doubt i could.
another girl could, i'm sure.
it just depends.
but that'd be too wierd for me,
walking around holding a girl's hand,
and having sex with a girl, when i'm straight.
it just wouldn't work.
but don't worry about what others think.
do what makes you happy!
if you feel that becoming a woman will make you happier,
then get that dick chopped off!
life is too short to be anything but happy, baby.
do it for you.
good luck (:
Wow, I would be shocked at first. Ten talk threw it with him.
If he really wanted to do so , I would tell him look aound him his kids if he has any needs him ad his parents want im just the wayhe is and sometimes in life selfishness can harm people who love you.
if he still insists ill wish him luck and let go. I will still be in touch with him tho but just to seehow hes doing thats all.
wrong section
but i mean i would be hurt because the man i love wants to be a woman
and ill probably want to still be with her/him even tho it'll be weird but i still know its the same person
so maybe ill still try to be with the person male or female
My friends husband had his bit removed and now he fancies woman. She divorced him but my goodness she cant let go of him. I suppose he is now a lesbian. I don't know or do I care im just glad i wasn't married to him.
I would end it. I've seen this happen and I don't think it should even be legal. It leads to depression because it is permanent and most people realize that it's not what they really want.
Id ask him 2 get me the garden sheers while i packed my stuff
Id leave the fraud/liar that i married
Den snip snip, all our photos, den snip snip all his clothes, den snip snip.......
I'd end it immediatly. That would just be tooooooo weird.
haha thats a funny question btw !!!!!!
';Oh, not again!';
I would run away.
I think I could make it work; they would still be the same person. Well, inside at least.
whack him across the head
then leg it!
Well, first...... I would ask him if he's mental.......then i don't know what i'd do.
id say wtf and end it !
hokay so, up my bum hole
How does my husband get checked to see if he can have children?
I want my husband and I to both get checked to see if we can have children, I know I can probably go to my gyno, but where does my husband go? Can he go with me or do we need to see a different kind of doctor??How does my husband get checked to see if he can have children?
Ask your gyno. Many can either check it themselves or order a lab test for it.How does my husband get checked to see if he can have children?
both go and see a doctor (gp)! tell them your having probloems (if this is the case) and ask them if they could do some tests to find out!
YOU ARE ON
GOD'S MOST
WANTED LIST
Have him contact his doctor's office and they will typically either refer him to a urologist or directly to a lab that does this.
Ask your gyno. Many can either check it themselves or order a lab test for it.How does my husband get checked to see if he can have children?
both go and see a doctor (gp)! tell them your having probloems (if this is the case) and ask them if they could do some tests to find out!
YOU ARE ON
GOD'S MOST
WANTED LIST
Have him contact his doctor's office and they will typically either refer him to a urologist or directly to a lab that does this.
Why is my husband always so horny first thing in the morning?
As soon as he wakes in the morning he has a raging hard on and wants sex straight away!! Does anyone else have this and why does it happen?Why is my husband always so horny first thing in the morning?
Maybe he dreamt Carmen Electra naked last nite ?!Why is my husband always so horny first thing in the morning?
Yes
Hahah, yes! its a common man thing called ';morning glory';! When we sleep, our bodies tense up and it is very common for men to wake up with hard-ons!
Lucky you!
Enjoy!
it happens to most men. its a sign that they are fresh and strong
Depends who he has been dreaming about LOL :o)
make the most of it you dont know how lucky you are you go girl it
Night dreams.
Hahaha, yes almost every man experiences this, it is called morning glory...or morning w00d....but it's not because of our bodies tensing up or to avoid bed-wetting.
When we sleep, our blood pressure drops.
Just before we awaken, our blood pressure increases.
The erection in question is caused by this sudden increase in blood pressure.
It can also be a Mega-Morning-Glory if the guy was dreaming about sex just before he woke up.
It's called Nocturnal Erection and he wants to take advantage of it. It happens in most all males including children, I believe it is a built in safe guard to control bladder or keep you from bedwetting, as soon as you pee it goes down.
Who cares why, just enjoy it
yes it happens to me every morning, and it drives my wife crazy too. it's because blood fills the penis in the morning before we wake up, blame it on the caveman. now is the time to get your man to promise you whatever you want while he is horny, then give him what he wants, and he will be happy and do what ever he promised you. it's the best of both worlds
Maybe he dreamt Carmen Electra naked last nite ?!Why is my husband always so horny first thing in the morning?
Yes
Hahah, yes! its a common man thing called ';morning glory';! When we sleep, our bodies tense up and it is very common for men to wake up with hard-ons!
Lucky you!
Enjoy!
it happens to most men. its a sign that they are fresh and strong
Depends who he has been dreaming about LOL :o)
make the most of it you dont know how lucky you are you go girl it
Night dreams.
Hahaha, yes almost every man experiences this, it is called morning glory...or morning w00d....but it's not because of our bodies tensing up or to avoid bed-wetting.
When we sleep, our blood pressure drops.
Just before we awaken, our blood pressure increases.
The erection in question is caused by this sudden increase in blood pressure.
It can also be a Mega-Morning-Glory if the guy was dreaming about sex just before he woke up.
It's called Nocturnal Erection and he wants to take advantage of it. It happens in most all males including children, I believe it is a built in safe guard to control bladder or keep you from bedwetting, as soon as you pee it goes down.
Who cares why, just enjoy it
yes it happens to me every morning, and it drives my wife crazy too. it's because blood fills the penis in the morning before we wake up, blame it on the caveman. now is the time to get your man to promise you whatever you want while he is horny, then give him what he wants, and he will be happy and do what ever he promised you. it's the best of both worlds
What to do if when you ask something to your husband he is always quiet?
We just have seven months of marriage and we have had many issues! I'm always ready to work things out and talking in the best terms. I never shout, or make him feel guilty,but everytime I ask him something like how do you feel about it? or what do you want me to do to improve the situation?..he has nothing to say..What do i do?What to do if when you ask something to your husband he is always quiet?
Well, you can't force him to talk - you have to tell him in no uncertain terms that in order for the issues to be worked out, he has to cooperate by communicating with you. If he doesn't want to, you can suggest that he go see a counselor on his own or, together with you, whatever he is more comfortable with. You have to make it clear to him that his silence is not helping the situation. No matter what, give him the feeling that you love him, that you want to work things out with him but you do need his help. Good luck.What to do if when you ask something to your husband he is always quiet?
dont give up it will get better u keep trying. I started by trying a different approach %26amp; started sending him email on articles i foud were very relevat 2 our situation. http://www.familydynamics.net/鈥?/a> http://www.marriagebuilders.co鈥?/a>
Marriage is very very hard but it is easy if both people balance out the three C's. Consideration, Compromise, and Communication. Give him time if you truly love him and he truly loves you, you will be able to work through anything. Maybe writing him a letter in a journal will help maybe he will be able to write back. Unlike us women men are logic thinkers while we are emotional. A lot of men don't want to open up about what is bothering him. My boyfriend of seven months is just now opening up and talking to me. If he doesn't answer you try moving on from the situation let him know...'; Okay I love you and whenever you are ready to talk about this situation I will be right here for you'; But until then how are you going to know how to change anything without him talking to you. Maybe a counselor or an outside source can help. Someone that he can talk to when you aren't around and you can talk to when he isn't around. Focus on one issue at a time.
He has nothing to say because he's not going to tell you how to be, is like asking him how do you want me to be. baby girl you have to b ur own person. Just know that the first couple of years of your marriage are going to b tough because is like you guys are getting to know each other in another level hold on tight, you're going to learn his ways and he'll be learning yours so be very very patience. Me as well was married 4 a year and well it was a night mare I couldn't take it anymore and left and well he kinda kicked me out too.lol now we're apart and we are going to give it another try, after we weren't leaving together we got along very well. So hopefully this time is not much of a night mare for us. Best of luck I dont know if this will help.
Typically, men hate sharing emotions. It isn't a comfortable place for them to be. During a moment of anxiety, emotional bottlenecks just crop up and a guy may not know how to answer. I would suggest that conversations be non-confrontational and completely at ease. It takes practice, so one baby step at a time.
Im married to a guy like that...lol...and after years of being together he still has a hard time talking...he is getting better though,after these ';conversations'; usually escalated into a full war because of his silence.So i suggest keep talking until yous can reach and acceptable level of communication. It can be trying at times...there are days i still want too scream...lol.
Oh gosh. My hub is the same way. Definitely not a conversationalist.
Just tell him that you need to understand where he's coming from and try to communicate.
Trust me, sometimes I wonder if I should have married a talker cause when I get nothing from his end it annoys the heck out of me!
he thinks you are not his equal; and so doesnt have the right to discuss anything with him; he is the one that makes the decisions you obey!
sorry; but that is what i think, i am guessing arranged marriage
how does he expect to resolve issues if he doesn't talk to you? his non communication would tell me he doesn't really care about it. i guess if there are problems you are going to have to solve them yourself.
My husband is the same way......I've tried talking to him over and over.......It ends up me being so upset I go to bed crying........I really don't have an answer. Good luck......if you find out how to make it better let me know! lol
Say ';I'm talking to you, so please have the maturity and manners to answer, thankyou honey';
Sounds like he may have depression. Maybe you can seek some help for your relationship through a counsellor.
If he won't communicate with you, your marriage is doomed.
I would suggest talking to a counselor.
Pray and consult the sages.
Divorce! Find some one better, go back to school do something besides waste time on a loser......
Suggest counseling if he will attend. Maybe?
divorce his a$$
You're screwed. My wife is like that and it's gone on for 12 years. I'm used to it now but it's pretty stupid. There's no intimacy.
Suggestions:
1. drink heavily
2. get hobbies
3. learn to live with yourself.... don't think about him
Some of the most memorable questions I've asked that she doesn't answer (silence, then leaves the room):
1. Is there anything wrong?
2. What could I do differently to make you happy or make our relationship better?
3. Why don't you ever want to have sex?
4. What do you like about me?
5. Why did you marry me?
Can you imagine how it makes me feel when she doesn't answer those questions??? 12 years...
And some people wonder why other people become alcoholics.
You must be coming off somewhat bitchy, even if you think you are not. When are you asking these questions? When he comes straight home from work? Guys don't like to be confronted when they walk straight into the door. Give him a chance to eat, relax, and then bother him with the questions. And not in a snooty way. Or just take action and deal with the situation yourself and if he doesn't like how you are handling it, tell him then you would appreciate some input on how to go about the situation.id bare minerals eye brush
Well, you can't force him to talk - you have to tell him in no uncertain terms that in order for the issues to be worked out, he has to cooperate by communicating with you. If he doesn't want to, you can suggest that he go see a counselor on his own or, together with you, whatever he is more comfortable with. You have to make it clear to him that his silence is not helping the situation. No matter what, give him the feeling that you love him, that you want to work things out with him but you do need his help. Good luck.What to do if when you ask something to your husband he is always quiet?
dont give up it will get better u keep trying. I started by trying a different approach %26amp; started sending him email on articles i foud were very relevat 2 our situation. http://www.familydynamics.net/鈥?/a> http://www.marriagebuilders.co鈥?/a>
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Marriage is very very hard but it is easy if both people balance out the three C's. Consideration, Compromise, and Communication. Give him time if you truly love him and he truly loves you, you will be able to work through anything. Maybe writing him a letter in a journal will help maybe he will be able to write back. Unlike us women men are logic thinkers while we are emotional. A lot of men don't want to open up about what is bothering him. My boyfriend of seven months is just now opening up and talking to me. If he doesn't answer you try moving on from the situation let him know...'; Okay I love you and whenever you are ready to talk about this situation I will be right here for you'; But until then how are you going to know how to change anything without him talking to you. Maybe a counselor or an outside source can help. Someone that he can talk to when you aren't around and you can talk to when he isn't around. Focus on one issue at a time.
He has nothing to say because he's not going to tell you how to be, is like asking him how do you want me to be. baby girl you have to b ur own person. Just know that the first couple of years of your marriage are going to b tough because is like you guys are getting to know each other in another level hold on tight, you're going to learn his ways and he'll be learning yours so be very very patience. Me as well was married 4 a year and well it was a night mare I couldn't take it anymore and left and well he kinda kicked me out too.lol now we're apart and we are going to give it another try, after we weren't leaving together we got along very well. So hopefully this time is not much of a night mare for us. Best of luck I dont know if this will help.
Typically, men hate sharing emotions. It isn't a comfortable place for them to be. During a moment of anxiety, emotional bottlenecks just crop up and a guy may not know how to answer. I would suggest that conversations be non-confrontational and completely at ease. It takes practice, so one baby step at a time.
Im married to a guy like that...lol...and after years of being together he still has a hard time talking...he is getting better though,after these ';conversations'; usually escalated into a full war because of his silence.So i suggest keep talking until yous can reach and acceptable level of communication. It can be trying at times...there are days i still want too scream...lol.
Oh gosh. My hub is the same way. Definitely not a conversationalist.
Just tell him that you need to understand where he's coming from and try to communicate.
Trust me, sometimes I wonder if I should have married a talker cause when I get nothing from his end it annoys the heck out of me!
he thinks you are not his equal; and so doesnt have the right to discuss anything with him; he is the one that makes the decisions you obey!
sorry; but that is what i think, i am guessing arranged marriage
how does he expect to resolve issues if he doesn't talk to you? his non communication would tell me he doesn't really care about it. i guess if there are problems you are going to have to solve them yourself.
My husband is the same way......I've tried talking to him over and over.......It ends up me being so upset I go to bed crying........I really don't have an answer. Good luck......if you find out how to make it better let me know! lol
Say ';I'm talking to you, so please have the maturity and manners to answer, thankyou honey';
Sounds like he may have depression. Maybe you can seek some help for your relationship through a counsellor.
If he won't communicate with you, your marriage is doomed.
I would suggest talking to a counselor.
Pray and consult the sages.
Divorce! Find some one better, go back to school do something besides waste time on a loser......
Suggest counseling if he will attend. Maybe?
divorce his a$$
You're screwed. My wife is like that and it's gone on for 12 years. I'm used to it now but it's pretty stupid. There's no intimacy.
Suggestions:
1. drink heavily
2. get hobbies
3. learn to live with yourself.... don't think about him
Some of the most memorable questions I've asked that she doesn't answer (silence, then leaves the room):
1. Is there anything wrong?
2. What could I do differently to make you happy or make our relationship better?
3. Why don't you ever want to have sex?
4. What do you like about me?
5. Why did you marry me?
Can you imagine how it makes me feel when she doesn't answer those questions??? 12 years...
And some people wonder why other people become alcoholics.
You must be coming off somewhat bitchy, even if you think you are not. When are you asking these questions? When he comes straight home from work? Guys don't like to be confronted when they walk straight into the door. Give him a chance to eat, relax, and then bother him with the questions. And not in a snooty way. Or just take action and deal with the situation yourself and if he doesn't like how you are handling it, tell him then you would appreciate some input on how to go about the situation.
Me and my husband have just started a small business, what job title do we give ourselves?
We've just started a small business (hiring out a mobile sweet shop for functions and events, less complicated than it sounds), we obviously own and run the business, so what job title should we give ourselves?Me and my husband have just started a small business, what job title do we give ourselves?
Owner.Me and my husband have just started a small business, what job title do we give ourselves?
Co-founder is one alternative. If you run the day-to-day you could also add CEO and if your husband does the Finances he could add CFO.
Together it would be: Co-founder and CEO
executive sweet/treat leasing managers
Owner.Me and my husband have just started a small business, what job title do we give ourselves?
Co-founder is one alternative. If you run the day-to-day you could also add CEO and if your husband does the Finances he could add CFO.
Together it would be: Co-founder and CEO
executive sweet/treat leasing managers
How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
My husband recently got pulled over, and received a ticket for his radar detector being considered ';obstruction of vision';. His radar detector was just below his rearview mirror, with no wires showing.
Why is a rearview mirror not an obstruction? What is the exact rule for obstruction of vision? What if the detector was hung from the ceilling, and not the windsheild, would that be legal? Any input on how we could fight this would help.How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
try this reasoning.. how can a police officer say there is an obstruction of vision when the officer was NOT in the car and did not enter the car to see for him/herself. the obstruction in question is only an opinion to the cop. the driver could have had the seat adjusted to remove any potential obstruction.
Remember, in court, YOU are innocent, the police must prove you to be guilty. sayng the detector was in the way is not fact, but speculation, which is not a factor for determining innocense or guilt.
All your husband needs to do is create doubt. a guilty or innocent charge must be so beyond a shadow of a doubt.
the cop just wanted to make his quota.How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
HE JUST NEEDS TO GO TO COURT AND TELL THEM ALL THIS BUT MOST COPS STOP PPL OUT OF STATE FOR STUPID STUFF BECAUSE THEY NO YOU ARE NOT GONNA DRIVE 500 PLUS MILES TO FIGHT A $200.00 TICKET. SOME OF THESE COPS THINK THEY ARE ABOVE THE LAW.AND TO THE LADY BE FOR ME THE DAMN COPS NEED TO BE STOPPING PPL WHO ARE SPEEDING SHE DID NOT SAY HE WAS SPEEDING WHY DO THEY WAIST THEY TIME ON STUFF LIKE THAT WHEN THEY COULD BE DOING SOMETHING BETTER WITH OUR MONEY. AND SPEEDING DONT KILL PEOPLE STUPID DRIVERS DO!!!!
Hmmmm
I know you won't like what Im telling you
BUT
Throw that damn thing away and DRIVE the way the law says
Why do you have to be speeding..
There are enough accidents caused by speeding drivers these days there should be a hault to this.
It used to be Drunk Drivers killing people NOW it's speeders....
In other words
PLEASE GROW UP
AND this message is for all of you out there,it could be your child next killed by a speeding car,truck or Motorcycle..
Radar detectors are illegal in most states; and in others, the police don't like them so they ticket you so you will get rid of them.
Why is a rearview mirror not an obstruction? What is the exact rule for obstruction of vision? What if the detector was hung from the ceilling, and not the windsheild, would that be legal? Any input on how we could fight this would help.How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
try this reasoning.. how can a police officer say there is an obstruction of vision when the officer was NOT in the car and did not enter the car to see for him/herself. the obstruction in question is only an opinion to the cop. the driver could have had the seat adjusted to remove any potential obstruction.
Remember, in court, YOU are innocent, the police must prove you to be guilty. sayng the detector was in the way is not fact, but speculation, which is not a factor for determining innocense or guilt.
All your husband needs to do is create doubt. a guilty or innocent charge must be so beyond a shadow of a doubt.
the cop just wanted to make his quota.How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
HE JUST NEEDS TO GO TO COURT AND TELL THEM ALL THIS BUT MOST COPS STOP PPL OUT OF STATE FOR STUPID STUFF BECAUSE THEY NO YOU ARE NOT GONNA DRIVE 500 PLUS MILES TO FIGHT A $200.00 TICKET. SOME OF THESE COPS THINK THEY ARE ABOVE THE LAW.AND TO THE LADY BE FOR ME THE DAMN COPS NEED TO BE STOPPING PPL WHO ARE SPEEDING SHE DID NOT SAY HE WAS SPEEDING WHY DO THEY WAIST THEY TIME ON STUFF LIKE THAT WHEN THEY COULD BE DOING SOMETHING BETTER WITH OUR MONEY. AND SPEEDING DONT KILL PEOPLE STUPID DRIVERS DO!!!!
Hmmmm
I know you won't like what Im telling you
BUT
Throw that damn thing away and DRIVE the way the law says
Why do you have to be speeding..
There are enough accidents caused by speeding drivers these days there should be a hault to this.
It used to be Drunk Drivers killing people NOW it's speeders....
In other words
PLEASE GROW UP
AND this message is for all of you out there,it could be your child next killed by a speeding car,truck or Motorcycle..
Radar detectors are illegal in most states; and in others, the police don't like them so they ticket you so you will get rid of them.
Me and my husband are expecting our first in 3 wks?
and neither of us took any newborn care classes or anything, will everything come naturally? Is there anything really important I should know? Like I am confused on why you lay a baby on his back when they spit up all the time, won't they choke on their own vomit?Me and my husband are expecting our first in 3 wks?
I didn't take any classes nor did my husband and we did just fine. At first it was hard and we looked at each other like ';WTF are we doing?'; But, eventually we got the hang of it. Don't expect to be a pro at being a mommy the first few days but it eventually comes natural to you.
My advise, don't mess around when changing a diaper, they can get you at any time! Expect to have all of your shirts with a spit up stain. Sleep when your baby is sleeping because girlfriend, you are going to be exhausted. The chores around the house will eventually get finished. If someone offers you help, take it, don't be ashamed or embarassed. If someone asks you what you need, tell them a load of laundry, nap or a meal. Your baby is going to want to be held constantly, do it. He/she will only be that little for a small amount of time. Next thing you know, they are 6 months and wanting down to crawl around (where i am now lol). Unless you plan on cosleeping, don't put the baby in your bed only because they get too used to it. It's a little hard to break. Take a million pictures because their looks change quickly. You will learn more %26amp; more as time goes on. Don't be afraid to call the pediatrician, they are used to it.
Last but certainly not least, take a breather. Relax the next 3 weeks as much as you can. Sleep like you never slept before because I am telling you, lol, you will be so tired the first few days.Me and my husband are expecting our first in 3 wks?
We never took any classes either. It isn't natural, but a lot of it is common sense. Babies usually spit up right after they eat, so when you finish feeding him/her you need to sit them in an upright position for about 20-30 minutes, like in a swing or bouncy chair, or we would just hold him like that. THEN put him/her on their back to sleep. but if it is the daytime and they are awake, put them on their belly as much as possible!
Also if you have a C-section baby they spit up waaay more because none of the vernix gets squeezed out of them like babies that are born naturally.
We bought the ';What to Expect the First Year';. it is amazing and tells you literally EVERYTHING you need to know
they don't usually choke on their spit up, because they usually spit up only when they burp, and you burp them right after every feeding because they can't burp themselves yet. you lay them on their back because they can't turn their head yet and could suffocate on the mattress.
the nurses at the hospital can help you with newborn care. make sure that before you leave the hospital you are both comfortable with changing diapers, swaddling, and getting the baby in and out of the car-seat. make sure you know how to burp the baby, and ask for tips on how to calm a crying baby. if you are bottle feeding you should both be comfortable with preparing and giving bottles, and if you are breastfeeding you should make sure you have established a good latch. know the signs to look for to tell if your baby is hungry. and how to tell if the baby is getting enough to eat. write everything down so you can look at it once you get home.
also know that you have to sponge bathe the baby until the belly button has healed (and circumcision if it's a boy and you choose to have that done).
and if the baby has jaundice (yellow color) you can put them is sun coming through a window to help it clear up.
Congrats on your little one! I'm also due in 3 weeks, but this is my second child. With my first i was 17 years old when I had him. I never took a newborn care class or anything like that. It all pretty much came to me and if I had any questions I asked my grandma but mostly it came to me. My husband now at the he was my boyfriend is the one who had the trouble because he was terrified to hold little babies and try and feed them, and he still is. And he has 2 brothers and a sister that are a year older than our first child, plus 3 more younger siblings. It just depends on how you feel. Good luck and best wishes!
We didn't take classes either. When we were in the hospital we asked lots of questions. My husband changed his first diaper in the hospital. I had lots of practice with that before with my nieces and nephews. Also my mom was a big help those first few weeks. I called her with like a dozen questions a day . Be prepared for feeling like a zombie when the baby is born. The lack of sleep was one of the hardest adjustments to make.
like everybody said before me, parenting does not come naturally. but you will be fine. even to the most prepared couple, parenting can still hit like a brick.
babies are supposed to sleep on their backs to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome [SIDS. could be caused by being suffocated by pillows, blankets.. babies dont have good control of their neck]
no, baby wont choke on his own spit up. most babies like to sleep with their head to the side anyway, so its no problem.
until your baby has control of his neck, dont put any pillows or blankets with baby in the crib.
dont forget the scratch mittens in your hospital bag. newborns have SHARP nails. my son came home with scratches on his face because i brought these generic mittens with sucky elastic.
you dont have to clean babys umbilical cord with alcohol at every diaper change. studies have shown that alcohol could actually make the cord take longer to fall off. my friend used alcohol to clean her sons cord.. it took more than 2 weeks for it to fall off.
the nurses at the hospital i gave birth at told me to just keep the cord nice and dry. if it gets dirty, then swab it with a wet cotton ball. my sons cord fell off in exactly one week.
are you having a boy? decide now if you want him circumcised or not.
beware of diaper changing time... especially for baby boys. you'll find out just how scary changing a diaper can be.
SLEEP WHEN BABY SLEEPS.
..i mean it.
Me and my husband did not take any classes and in my opinion we are great parents. you will be so surprised how natural everything comes to you. enjoy this wonderful experience it is the best thing that will ever happen to you and your husband and you are going to fall in love with each other and the baby all over again. good luck and everything will be great for you!! enjoy
We never took any classes and our daughter is a happy, healthy 1 year old now. And neither of us had ANY experience with newborns before our daughter.
It does come naturally, even if you take those classes, parenting is something you learn as you go.
And for the sleeping on their back, it's to reduce SIDS and rebreathing. Most babies turn their head to one side while sleeping, so most of the spit up gets drooled out.
You'll do great and you'll be fine. It really does come natural and they honestly do send you home with a packet of information with all kinds of your questions answerd that you can refer to.
Babies need to be slept on their backs becuase it reduces the risk of SIDS.. When they lay on their backs they turn their heads one way or the other so they won't choke on their spit up.. Also keep all blankets, pillows, toys, etc out of their sleeping area %26amp; make sure they are wearing well fitted sleepers.
I didn't take newborn classes either, It really all comes naturally. Kids don't come with directions, because every single child is different. The reason why they tell you to place your children on their back when they sleep is to reduce the risk of sids. (sudden infant death syndrome) No they wont choke on their vomit. They turn their head. Just sit back and enjoy your baby!
There's still time to buy a comprehensive baby book and start flicking through it. You will need it sometimes! I often look through mine when I have a little Q and want to make sure I'm doing the right-ish thing.
My book is Baby Love by Robin Barker. It's got all kind of info in there.
Take a class... now. its not all natural. There is a LOT to learn and its better to learn now than when he/she gets here.
I didn't take any classes nor did my husband and we did just fine. At first it was hard and we looked at each other like ';WTF are we doing?'; But, eventually we got the hang of it. Don't expect to be a pro at being a mommy the first few days but it eventually comes natural to you.
My advise, don't mess around when changing a diaper, they can get you at any time! Expect to have all of your shirts with a spit up stain. Sleep when your baby is sleeping because girlfriend, you are going to be exhausted. The chores around the house will eventually get finished. If someone offers you help, take it, don't be ashamed or embarassed. If someone asks you what you need, tell them a load of laundry, nap or a meal. Your baby is going to want to be held constantly, do it. He/she will only be that little for a small amount of time. Next thing you know, they are 6 months and wanting down to crawl around (where i am now lol). Unless you plan on cosleeping, don't put the baby in your bed only because they get too used to it. It's a little hard to break. Take a million pictures because their looks change quickly. You will learn more %26amp; more as time goes on. Don't be afraid to call the pediatrician, they are used to it.
Last but certainly not least, take a breather. Relax the next 3 weeks as much as you can. Sleep like you never slept before because I am telling you, lol, you will be so tired the first few days.Me and my husband are expecting our first in 3 wks?
We never took any classes either. It isn't natural, but a lot of it is common sense. Babies usually spit up right after they eat, so when you finish feeding him/her you need to sit them in an upright position for about 20-30 minutes, like in a swing or bouncy chair, or we would just hold him like that. THEN put him/her on their back to sleep. but if it is the daytime and they are awake, put them on their belly as much as possible!
Also if you have a C-section baby they spit up waaay more because none of the vernix gets squeezed out of them like babies that are born naturally.
We bought the ';What to Expect the First Year';. it is amazing and tells you literally EVERYTHING you need to know
they don't usually choke on their spit up, because they usually spit up only when they burp, and you burp them right after every feeding because they can't burp themselves yet. you lay them on their back because they can't turn their head yet and could suffocate on the mattress.
the nurses at the hospital can help you with newborn care. make sure that before you leave the hospital you are both comfortable with changing diapers, swaddling, and getting the baby in and out of the car-seat. make sure you know how to burp the baby, and ask for tips on how to calm a crying baby. if you are bottle feeding you should both be comfortable with preparing and giving bottles, and if you are breastfeeding you should make sure you have established a good latch. know the signs to look for to tell if your baby is hungry. and how to tell if the baby is getting enough to eat. write everything down so you can look at it once you get home.
also know that you have to sponge bathe the baby until the belly button has healed (and circumcision if it's a boy and you choose to have that done).
and if the baby has jaundice (yellow color) you can put them is sun coming through a window to help it clear up.
Congrats on your little one! I'm also due in 3 weeks, but this is my second child. With my first i was 17 years old when I had him. I never took a newborn care class or anything like that. It all pretty much came to me and if I had any questions I asked my grandma but mostly it came to me. My husband now at the he was my boyfriend is the one who had the trouble because he was terrified to hold little babies and try and feed them, and he still is. And he has 2 brothers and a sister that are a year older than our first child, plus 3 more younger siblings. It just depends on how you feel. Good luck and best wishes!
We didn't take classes either. When we were in the hospital we asked lots of questions. My husband changed his first diaper in the hospital. I had lots of practice with that before with my nieces and nephews. Also my mom was a big help those first few weeks. I called her with like a dozen questions a day . Be prepared for feeling like a zombie when the baby is born. The lack of sleep was one of the hardest adjustments to make.
like everybody said before me, parenting does not come naturally. but you will be fine. even to the most prepared couple, parenting can still hit like a brick.
babies are supposed to sleep on their backs to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome [SIDS. could be caused by being suffocated by pillows, blankets.. babies dont have good control of their neck]
no, baby wont choke on his own spit up. most babies like to sleep with their head to the side anyway, so its no problem.
until your baby has control of his neck, dont put any pillows or blankets with baby in the crib.
dont forget the scratch mittens in your hospital bag. newborns have SHARP nails. my son came home with scratches on his face because i brought these generic mittens with sucky elastic.
you dont have to clean babys umbilical cord with alcohol at every diaper change. studies have shown that alcohol could actually make the cord take longer to fall off. my friend used alcohol to clean her sons cord.. it took more than 2 weeks for it to fall off.
the nurses at the hospital i gave birth at told me to just keep the cord nice and dry. if it gets dirty, then swab it with a wet cotton ball. my sons cord fell off in exactly one week.
are you having a boy? decide now if you want him circumcised or not.
beware of diaper changing time... especially for baby boys. you'll find out just how scary changing a diaper can be.
SLEEP WHEN BABY SLEEPS.
..i mean it.
Me and my husband did not take any classes and in my opinion we are great parents. you will be so surprised how natural everything comes to you. enjoy this wonderful experience it is the best thing that will ever happen to you and your husband and you are going to fall in love with each other and the baby all over again. good luck and everything will be great for you!! enjoy
We never took any classes and our daughter is a happy, healthy 1 year old now. And neither of us had ANY experience with newborns before our daughter.
It does come naturally, even if you take those classes, parenting is something you learn as you go.
And for the sleeping on their back, it's to reduce SIDS and rebreathing. Most babies turn their head to one side while sleeping, so most of the spit up gets drooled out.
You'll do great and you'll be fine. It really does come natural and they honestly do send you home with a packet of information with all kinds of your questions answerd that you can refer to.
Babies need to be slept on their backs becuase it reduces the risk of SIDS.. When they lay on their backs they turn their heads one way or the other so they won't choke on their spit up.. Also keep all blankets, pillows, toys, etc out of their sleeping area %26amp; make sure they are wearing well fitted sleepers.
I didn't take newborn classes either, It really all comes naturally. Kids don't come with directions, because every single child is different. The reason why they tell you to place your children on their back when they sleep is to reduce the risk of sids. (sudden infant death syndrome) No they wont choke on their vomit. They turn their head. Just sit back and enjoy your baby!
There's still time to buy a comprehensive baby book and start flicking through it. You will need it sometimes! I often look through mine when I have a little Q and want to make sure I'm doing the right-ish thing.
My book is Baby Love by Robin Barker. It's got all kind of info in there.
Take a class... now. its not all natural. There is a LOT to learn and its better to learn now than when he/she gets here.
Why is my husband always so horny first thing in the morning?
As soon as he wakes in the morning he has a raging hard on and wants sex straight away!! Does anyone else have this and why does it happen?Why is my husband always so horny first thing in the morning?
Maybe he dreamt Carmen Electra naked last nite ?!Why is my husband always so horny first thing in the morning?
Yes
Hahah, yes! its a common man thing called ';morning glory';! When we sleep, our bodies tense up and it is very common for men to wake up with hard-ons!
Lucky you!
Enjoy!
it happens to most men. its a sign that they are fresh and strong
Depends who he has been dreaming about LOL :o)
make the most of it you dont know how lucky you are you go girl it
Night dreams.
Hahaha, yes almost every man experiences this, it is called morning glory...or morning w00d....but it's not because of our bodies tensing up or to avoid bed-wetting.
When we sleep, our blood pressure drops.
Just before we awaken, our blood pressure increases.
The erection in question is caused by this sudden increase in blood pressure.
It can also be a Mega-Morning-Glory if the guy was dreaming about sex just before he woke up.
It's called Nocturnal Erection and he wants to take advantage of it. It happens in most all males including children, I believe it is a built in safe guard to control bladder or keep you from bedwetting, as soon as you pee it goes down.
Who cares why, just enjoy it
yes it happens to me every morning, and it drives my wife crazy too. it's because blood fills the penis in the morning before we wake up, blame it on the caveman. now is the time to get your man to promise you whatever you want while he is horny, then give him what he wants, and he will be happy and do what ever he promised you. it's the best of both worlds
Maybe he dreamt Carmen Electra naked last nite ?!Why is my husband always so horny first thing in the morning?
Yes
Hahah, yes! its a common man thing called ';morning glory';! When we sleep, our bodies tense up and it is very common for men to wake up with hard-ons!
Lucky you!
Enjoy!
it happens to most men. its a sign that they are fresh and strong
Depends who he has been dreaming about LOL :o)
make the most of it you dont know how lucky you are you go girl it
Night dreams.
Hahaha, yes almost every man experiences this, it is called morning glory...or morning w00d....but it's not because of our bodies tensing up or to avoid bed-wetting.
When we sleep, our blood pressure drops.
Just before we awaken, our blood pressure increases.
The erection in question is caused by this sudden increase in blood pressure.
It can also be a Mega-Morning-Glory if the guy was dreaming about sex just before he woke up.
It's called Nocturnal Erection and he wants to take advantage of it. It happens in most all males including children, I believe it is a built in safe guard to control bladder or keep you from bedwetting, as soon as you pee it goes down.
Who cares why, just enjoy it
yes it happens to me every morning, and it drives my wife crazy too. it's because blood fills the penis in the morning before we wake up, blame it on the caveman. now is the time to get your man to promise you whatever you want while he is horny, then give him what he wants, and he will be happy and do what ever he promised you. it's the best of both worlds
What to do if when you ask something to your husband he is always quiet?
We just have seven months of marriage and we have had many issues! I'm always ready to work things out and talking in the best terms. I never shout, or make him feel guilty,but everytime I ask him something like how do you feel about it? or what do you want me to do to improve the situation?..he has nothing to say..What do i do?What to do if when you ask something to your husband he is always quiet?
Well, you can't force him to talk - you have to tell him in no uncertain terms that in order for the issues to be worked out, he has to cooperate by communicating with you. If he doesn't want to, you can suggest that he go see a counselor on his own or, together with you, whatever he is more comfortable with. You have to make it clear to him that his silence is not helping the situation. No matter what, give him the feeling that you love him, that you want to work things out with him but you do need his help. Good luck.What to do if when you ask something to your husband he is always quiet?
dont give up it will get better u keep trying. I started by trying a different approach %26amp; started sending him email on articles i foud were very relevat 2 our situation. http://www.familydynamics.net/鈥?/a> http://www.marriagebuilders.co鈥?/a>
Marriage is very very hard but it is easy if both people balance out the three C's. Consideration, Compromise, and Communication. Give him time if you truly love him and he truly loves you, you will be able to work through anything. Maybe writing him a letter in a journal will help maybe he will be able to write back. Unlike us women men are logic thinkers while we are emotional. A lot of men don't want to open up about what is bothering him. My boyfriend of seven months is just now opening up and talking to me. If he doesn't answer you try moving on from the situation let him know...'; Okay I love you and whenever you are ready to talk about this situation I will be right here for you'; But until then how are you going to know how to change anything without him talking to you. Maybe a counselor or an outside source can help. Someone that he can talk to when you aren't around and you can talk to when he isn't around. Focus on one issue at a time.
He has nothing to say because he's not going to tell you how to be, is like asking him how do you want me to be. baby girl you have to b ur own person. Just know that the first couple of years of your marriage are going to b tough because is like you guys are getting to know each other in another level hold on tight, you're going to learn his ways and he'll be learning yours so be very very patience. Me as well was married 4 a year and well it was a night mare I couldn't take it anymore and left and well he kinda kicked me out too.lol now we're apart and we are going to give it another try, after we weren't leaving together we got along very well. So hopefully this time is not much of a night mare for us. Best of luck I dont know if this will help.
Typically, men hate sharing emotions. It isn't a comfortable place for them to be. During a moment of anxiety, emotional bottlenecks just crop up and a guy may not know how to answer. I would suggest that conversations be non-confrontational and completely at ease. It takes practice, so one baby step at a time.
Im married to a guy like that...lol...and after years of being together he still has a hard time talking...he is getting better though,after these ';conversations'; usually escalated into a full war because of his silence.So i suggest keep talking until yous can reach and acceptable level of communication. It can be trying at times...there are days i still want too scream...lol.
Oh gosh. My hub is the same way. Definitely not a conversationalist.
Just tell him that you need to understand where he's coming from and try to communicate.
Trust me, sometimes I wonder if I should have married a talker cause when I get nothing from his end it annoys the heck out of me!
he thinks you are not his equal; and so doesnt have the right to discuss anything with him; he is the one that makes the decisions you obey!
sorry; but that is what i think, i am guessing arranged marriage
how does he expect to resolve issues if he doesn't talk to you? his non communication would tell me he doesn't really care about it. i guess if there are problems you are going to have to solve them yourself.
My husband is the same way......I've tried talking to him over and over.......It ends up me being so upset I go to bed crying........I really don't have an answer. Good luck......if you find out how to make it better let me know! lol
Say ';I'm talking to you, so please have the maturity and manners to answer, thankyou honey';
Sounds like he may have depression. Maybe you can seek some help for your relationship through a counsellor.
If he won't communicate with you, your marriage is doomed.
I would suggest talking to a counselor.
Pray and consult the sages.
Divorce! Find some one better, go back to school do something besides waste time on a loser......
Suggest counseling if he will attend. Maybe?
divorce his a$$
You're screwed. My wife is like that and it's gone on for 12 years. I'm used to it now but it's pretty stupid. There's no intimacy.
Suggestions:
1. drink heavily
2. get hobbies
3. learn to live with yourself.... don't think about him
Some of the most memorable questions I've asked that she doesn't answer (silence, then leaves the room):
1. Is there anything wrong?
2. What could I do differently to make you happy or make our relationship better?
3. Why don't you ever want to have sex?
4. What do you like about me?
5. Why did you marry me?
Can you imagine how it makes me feel when she doesn't answer those questions??? 12 years...
And some people wonder why other people become alcoholics.
You must be coming off somewhat bitchy, even if you think you are not. When are you asking these questions? When he comes straight home from work? Guys don't like to be confronted when they walk straight into the door. Give him a chance to eat, relax, and then bother him with the questions. And not in a snooty way. Or just take action and deal with the situation yourself and if he doesn't like how you are handling it, tell him then you would appreciate some input on how to go about the situation.
Well, you can't force him to talk - you have to tell him in no uncertain terms that in order for the issues to be worked out, he has to cooperate by communicating with you. If he doesn't want to, you can suggest that he go see a counselor on his own or, together with you, whatever he is more comfortable with. You have to make it clear to him that his silence is not helping the situation. No matter what, give him the feeling that you love him, that you want to work things out with him but you do need his help. Good luck.What to do if when you ask something to your husband he is always quiet?
dont give up it will get better u keep trying. I started by trying a different approach %26amp; started sending him email on articles i foud were very relevat 2 our situation. http://www.familydynamics.net/鈥?/a> http://www.marriagebuilders.co鈥?/a>
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Marriage is very very hard but it is easy if both people balance out the three C's. Consideration, Compromise, and Communication. Give him time if you truly love him and he truly loves you, you will be able to work through anything. Maybe writing him a letter in a journal will help maybe he will be able to write back. Unlike us women men are logic thinkers while we are emotional. A lot of men don't want to open up about what is bothering him. My boyfriend of seven months is just now opening up and talking to me. If he doesn't answer you try moving on from the situation let him know...'; Okay I love you and whenever you are ready to talk about this situation I will be right here for you'; But until then how are you going to know how to change anything without him talking to you. Maybe a counselor or an outside source can help. Someone that he can talk to when you aren't around and you can talk to when he isn't around. Focus on one issue at a time.
He has nothing to say because he's not going to tell you how to be, is like asking him how do you want me to be. baby girl you have to b ur own person. Just know that the first couple of years of your marriage are going to b tough because is like you guys are getting to know each other in another level hold on tight, you're going to learn his ways and he'll be learning yours so be very very patience. Me as well was married 4 a year and well it was a night mare I couldn't take it anymore and left and well he kinda kicked me out too.lol now we're apart and we are going to give it another try, after we weren't leaving together we got along very well. So hopefully this time is not much of a night mare for us. Best of luck I dont know if this will help.
Typically, men hate sharing emotions. It isn't a comfortable place for them to be. During a moment of anxiety, emotional bottlenecks just crop up and a guy may not know how to answer. I would suggest that conversations be non-confrontational and completely at ease. It takes practice, so one baby step at a time.
Im married to a guy like that...lol...and after years of being together he still has a hard time talking...he is getting better though,after these ';conversations'; usually escalated into a full war because of his silence.So i suggest keep talking until yous can reach and acceptable level of communication. It can be trying at times...there are days i still want too scream...lol.
Oh gosh. My hub is the same way. Definitely not a conversationalist.
Just tell him that you need to understand where he's coming from and try to communicate.
Trust me, sometimes I wonder if I should have married a talker cause when I get nothing from his end it annoys the heck out of me!
he thinks you are not his equal; and so doesnt have the right to discuss anything with him; he is the one that makes the decisions you obey!
sorry; but that is what i think, i am guessing arranged marriage
how does he expect to resolve issues if he doesn't talk to you? his non communication would tell me he doesn't really care about it. i guess if there are problems you are going to have to solve them yourself.
My husband is the same way......I've tried talking to him over and over.......It ends up me being so upset I go to bed crying........I really don't have an answer. Good luck......if you find out how to make it better let me know! lol
Say ';I'm talking to you, so please have the maturity and manners to answer, thankyou honey';
Sounds like he may have depression. Maybe you can seek some help for your relationship through a counsellor.
If he won't communicate with you, your marriage is doomed.
I would suggest talking to a counselor.
Pray and consult the sages.
Divorce! Find some one better, go back to school do something besides waste time on a loser......
Suggest counseling if he will attend. Maybe?
divorce his a$$
You're screwed. My wife is like that and it's gone on for 12 years. I'm used to it now but it's pretty stupid. There's no intimacy.
Suggestions:
1. drink heavily
2. get hobbies
3. learn to live with yourself.... don't think about him
Some of the most memorable questions I've asked that she doesn't answer (silence, then leaves the room):
1. Is there anything wrong?
2. What could I do differently to make you happy or make our relationship better?
3. Why don't you ever want to have sex?
4. What do you like about me?
5. Why did you marry me?
Can you imagine how it makes me feel when she doesn't answer those questions??? 12 years...
And some people wonder why other people become alcoholics.
You must be coming off somewhat bitchy, even if you think you are not. When are you asking these questions? When he comes straight home from work? Guys don't like to be confronted when they walk straight into the door. Give him a chance to eat, relax, and then bother him with the questions. And not in a snooty way. Or just take action and deal with the situation yourself and if he doesn't like how you are handling it, tell him then you would appreciate some input on how to go about the situation.
Me and my husband have just started a small business, what job title do we give ourselves?
We've just started a small business (hiring out a mobile sweet shop for functions and events, less complicated than it sounds), we obviously own and run the business, so what job title should we give ourselves?Me and my husband have just started a small business, what job title do we give ourselves?
Owner.Me and my husband have just started a small business, what job title do we give ourselves?
Co-founder is one alternative. If you run the day-to-day you could also add CEO and if your husband does the Finances he could add CFO.
Together it would be: Co-founder and CEO
executive sweet/treat leasing managersid bare minerals eye brush
Owner.Me and my husband have just started a small business, what job title do we give ourselves?
Co-founder is one alternative. If you run the day-to-day you could also add CEO and if your husband does the Finances he could add CFO.
Together it would be: Co-founder and CEO
executive sweet/treat leasing managers
How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
My husband recently got pulled over, and received a ticket for his radar detector being considered ';obstruction of vision';. His radar detector was just below his rearview mirror, with no wires showing.
Why is a rearview mirror not an obstruction? What is the exact rule for obstruction of vision? What if the detector was hung from the ceilling, and not the windsheild, would that be legal? Any input on how we could fight this would help.How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
try this reasoning.. how can a police officer say there is an obstruction of vision when the officer was NOT in the car and did not enter the car to see for him/herself. the obstruction in question is only an opinion to the cop. the driver could have had the seat adjusted to remove any potential obstruction.
Remember, in court, YOU are innocent, the police must prove you to be guilty. sayng the detector was in the way is not fact, but speculation, which is not a factor for determining innocense or guilt.
All your husband needs to do is create doubt. a guilty or innocent charge must be so beyond a shadow of a doubt.
the cop just wanted to make his quota.How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
HE JUST NEEDS TO GO TO COURT AND TELL THEM ALL THIS BUT MOST COPS STOP PPL OUT OF STATE FOR STUPID STUFF BECAUSE THEY NO YOU ARE NOT GONNA DRIVE 500 PLUS MILES TO FIGHT A $200.00 TICKET. SOME OF THESE COPS THINK THEY ARE ABOVE THE LAW.AND TO THE LADY BE FOR ME THE DAMN COPS NEED TO BE STOPPING PPL WHO ARE SPEEDING SHE DID NOT SAY HE WAS SPEEDING WHY DO THEY WAIST THEY TIME ON STUFF LIKE THAT WHEN THEY COULD BE DOING SOMETHING BETTER WITH OUR MONEY. AND SPEEDING DONT KILL PEOPLE STUPID DRIVERS DO!!!!
Hmmmm
I know you won't like what Im telling you
BUT
Throw that damn thing away and DRIVE the way the law says
Why do you have to be speeding..
There are enough accidents caused by speeding drivers these days there should be a hault to this.
It used to be Drunk Drivers killing people NOW it's speeders....
In other words
PLEASE GROW UP
AND this message is for all of you out there,it could be your child next killed by a speeding car,truck or Motorcycle..
Radar detectors are illegal in most states; and in others, the police don't like them so they ticket you so you will get rid of them.
Why is a rearview mirror not an obstruction? What is the exact rule for obstruction of vision? What if the detector was hung from the ceilling, and not the windsheild, would that be legal? Any input on how we could fight this would help.How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
try this reasoning.. how can a police officer say there is an obstruction of vision when the officer was NOT in the car and did not enter the car to see for him/herself. the obstruction in question is only an opinion to the cop. the driver could have had the seat adjusted to remove any potential obstruction.
Remember, in court, YOU are innocent, the police must prove you to be guilty. sayng the detector was in the way is not fact, but speculation, which is not a factor for determining innocense or guilt.
All your husband needs to do is create doubt. a guilty or innocent charge must be so beyond a shadow of a doubt.
the cop just wanted to make his quota.How would my husband fight a traffic ticket in MI for obstruction of vision?
HE JUST NEEDS TO GO TO COURT AND TELL THEM ALL THIS BUT MOST COPS STOP PPL OUT OF STATE FOR STUPID STUFF BECAUSE THEY NO YOU ARE NOT GONNA DRIVE 500 PLUS MILES TO FIGHT A $200.00 TICKET. SOME OF THESE COPS THINK THEY ARE ABOVE THE LAW.AND TO THE LADY BE FOR ME THE DAMN COPS NEED TO BE STOPPING PPL WHO ARE SPEEDING SHE DID NOT SAY HE WAS SPEEDING WHY DO THEY WAIST THEY TIME ON STUFF LIKE THAT WHEN THEY COULD BE DOING SOMETHING BETTER WITH OUR MONEY. AND SPEEDING DONT KILL PEOPLE STUPID DRIVERS DO!!!!
Hmmmm
I know you won't like what Im telling you
BUT
Throw that damn thing away and DRIVE the way the law says
Why do you have to be speeding..
There are enough accidents caused by speeding drivers these days there should be a hault to this.
It used to be Drunk Drivers killing people NOW it's speeders....
In other words
PLEASE GROW UP
AND this message is for all of you out there,it could be your child next killed by a speeding car,truck or Motorcycle..
Radar detectors are illegal in most states; and in others, the police don't like them so they ticket you so you will get rid of them.
Me and my husband are expecting our first in 3 wks?
and neither of us took any newborn care classes or anything, will everything come naturally? Is there anything really important I should know? Like I am confused on why you lay a baby on his back when they spit up all the time, won't they choke on their own vomit?Me and my husband are expecting our first in 3 wks?
I didn't take any classes nor did my husband and we did just fine. At first it was hard and we looked at each other like ';WTF are we doing?'; But, eventually we got the hang of it. Don't expect to be a pro at being a mommy the first few days but it eventually comes natural to you.
My advise, don't mess around when changing a diaper, they can get you at any time! Expect to have all of your shirts with a spit up stain. Sleep when your baby is sleeping because girlfriend, you are going to be exhausted. The chores around the house will eventually get finished. If someone offers you help, take it, don't be ashamed or embarassed. If someone asks you what you need, tell them a load of laundry, nap or a meal. Your baby is going to want to be held constantly, do it. He/she will only be that little for a small amount of time. Next thing you know, they are 6 months and wanting down to crawl around (where i am now lol). Unless you plan on cosleeping, don't put the baby in your bed only because they get too used to it. It's a little hard to break. Take a million pictures because their looks change quickly. You will learn more %26amp; more as time goes on. Don't be afraid to call the pediatrician, they are used to it.
Last but certainly not least, take a breather. Relax the next 3 weeks as much as you can. Sleep like you never slept before because I am telling you, lol, you will be so tired the first few days.Me and my husband are expecting our first in 3 wks?
We never took any classes either. It isn't natural, but a lot of it is common sense. Babies usually spit up right after they eat, so when you finish feeding him/her you need to sit them in an upright position for about 20-30 minutes, like in a swing or bouncy chair, or we would just hold him like that. THEN put him/her on their back to sleep. but if it is the daytime and they are awake, put them on their belly as much as possible!
Also if you have a C-section baby they spit up waaay more because none of the vernix gets squeezed out of them like babies that are born naturally.
We bought the ';What to Expect the First Year';. it is amazing and tells you literally EVERYTHING you need to know
they don't usually choke on their spit up, because they usually spit up only when they burp, and you burp them right after every feeding because they can't burp themselves yet. you lay them on their back because they can't turn their head yet and could suffocate on the mattress.
the nurses at the hospital can help you with newborn care. make sure that before you leave the hospital you are both comfortable with changing diapers, swaddling, and getting the baby in and out of the car-seat. make sure you know how to burp the baby, and ask for tips on how to calm a crying baby. if you are bottle feeding you should both be comfortable with preparing and giving bottles, and if you are breastfeeding you should make sure you have established a good latch. know the signs to look for to tell if your baby is hungry. and how to tell if the baby is getting enough to eat. write everything down so you can look at it once you get home.
also know that you have to sponge bathe the baby until the belly button has healed (and circumcision if it's a boy and you choose to have that done).
and if the baby has jaundice (yellow color) you can put them is sun coming through a window to help it clear up.
Congrats on your little one! I'm also due in 3 weeks, but this is my second child. With my first i was 17 years old when I had him. I never took a newborn care class or anything like that. It all pretty much came to me and if I had any questions I asked my grandma but mostly it came to me. My husband now at the he was my boyfriend is the one who had the trouble because he was terrified to hold little babies and try and feed them, and he still is. And he has 2 brothers and a sister that are a year older than our first child, plus 3 more younger siblings. It just depends on how you feel. Good luck and best wishes!
We didn't take classes either. When we were in the hospital we asked lots of questions. My husband changed his first diaper in the hospital. I had lots of practice with that before with my nieces and nephews. Also my mom was a big help those first few weeks. I called her with like a dozen questions a day . Be prepared for feeling like a zombie when the baby is born. The lack of sleep was one of the hardest adjustments to make.
like everybody said before me, parenting does not come naturally. but you will be fine. even to the most prepared couple, parenting can still hit like a brick.
babies are supposed to sleep on their backs to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome [SIDS. could be caused by being suffocated by pillows, blankets.. babies dont have good control of their neck]
no, baby wont choke on his own spit up. most babies like to sleep with their head to the side anyway, so its no problem.
until your baby has control of his neck, dont put any pillows or blankets with baby in the crib.
dont forget the scratch mittens in your hospital bag. newborns have SHARP nails. my son came home with scratches on his face because i brought these generic mittens with sucky elastic.
you dont have to clean babys umbilical cord with alcohol at every diaper change. studies have shown that alcohol could actually make the cord take longer to fall off. my friend used alcohol to clean her sons cord.. it took more than 2 weeks for it to fall off.
the nurses at the hospital i gave birth at told me to just keep the cord nice and dry. if it gets dirty, then swab it with a wet cotton ball. my sons cord fell off in exactly one week.
are you having a boy? decide now if you want him circumcised or not.
beware of diaper changing time... especially for baby boys. you'll find out just how scary changing a diaper can be.
SLEEP WHEN BABY SLEEPS.
..i mean it.
Me and my husband did not take any classes and in my opinion we are great parents. you will be so surprised how natural everything comes to you. enjoy this wonderful experience it is the best thing that will ever happen to you and your husband and you are going to fall in love with each other and the baby all over again. good luck and everything will be great for you!! enjoy
We never took any classes and our daughter is a happy, healthy 1 year old now. And neither of us had ANY experience with newborns before our daughter.
It does come naturally, even if you take those classes, parenting is something you learn as you go.
And for the sleeping on their back, it's to reduce SIDS and rebreathing. Most babies turn their head to one side while sleeping, so most of the spit up gets drooled out.
You'll do great and you'll be fine. It really does come natural and they honestly do send you home with a packet of information with all kinds of your questions answerd that you can refer to.
Babies need to be slept on their backs becuase it reduces the risk of SIDS.. When they lay on their backs they turn their heads one way or the other so they won't choke on their spit up.. Also keep all blankets, pillows, toys, etc out of their sleeping area %26amp; make sure they are wearing well fitted sleepers.
I didn't take newborn classes either, It really all comes naturally. Kids don't come with directions, because every single child is different. The reason why they tell you to place your children on their back when they sleep is to reduce the risk of sids. (sudden infant death syndrome) No they wont choke on their vomit. They turn their head. Just sit back and enjoy your baby!
There's still time to buy a comprehensive baby book and start flicking through it. You will need it sometimes! I often look through mine when I have a little Q and want to make sure I'm doing the right-ish thing.
My book is Baby Love by Robin Barker. It's got all kind of info in there.
Take a class... now. its not all natural. There is a LOT to learn and its better to learn now than when he/she gets here.
I didn't take any classes nor did my husband and we did just fine. At first it was hard and we looked at each other like ';WTF are we doing?'; But, eventually we got the hang of it. Don't expect to be a pro at being a mommy the first few days but it eventually comes natural to you.
My advise, don't mess around when changing a diaper, they can get you at any time! Expect to have all of your shirts with a spit up stain. Sleep when your baby is sleeping because girlfriend, you are going to be exhausted. The chores around the house will eventually get finished. If someone offers you help, take it, don't be ashamed or embarassed. If someone asks you what you need, tell them a load of laundry, nap or a meal. Your baby is going to want to be held constantly, do it. He/she will only be that little for a small amount of time. Next thing you know, they are 6 months and wanting down to crawl around (where i am now lol). Unless you plan on cosleeping, don't put the baby in your bed only because they get too used to it. It's a little hard to break. Take a million pictures because their looks change quickly. You will learn more %26amp; more as time goes on. Don't be afraid to call the pediatrician, they are used to it.
Last but certainly not least, take a breather. Relax the next 3 weeks as much as you can. Sleep like you never slept before because I am telling you, lol, you will be so tired the first few days.Me and my husband are expecting our first in 3 wks?
We never took any classes either. It isn't natural, but a lot of it is common sense. Babies usually spit up right after they eat, so when you finish feeding him/her you need to sit them in an upright position for about 20-30 minutes, like in a swing or bouncy chair, or we would just hold him like that. THEN put him/her on their back to sleep. but if it is the daytime and they are awake, put them on their belly as much as possible!
Also if you have a C-section baby they spit up waaay more because none of the vernix gets squeezed out of them like babies that are born naturally.
We bought the ';What to Expect the First Year';. it is amazing and tells you literally EVERYTHING you need to know
they don't usually choke on their spit up, because they usually spit up only when they burp, and you burp them right after every feeding because they can't burp themselves yet. you lay them on their back because they can't turn their head yet and could suffocate on the mattress.
the nurses at the hospital can help you with newborn care. make sure that before you leave the hospital you are both comfortable with changing diapers, swaddling, and getting the baby in and out of the car-seat. make sure you know how to burp the baby, and ask for tips on how to calm a crying baby. if you are bottle feeding you should both be comfortable with preparing and giving bottles, and if you are breastfeeding you should make sure you have established a good latch. know the signs to look for to tell if your baby is hungry. and how to tell if the baby is getting enough to eat. write everything down so you can look at it once you get home.
also know that you have to sponge bathe the baby until the belly button has healed (and circumcision if it's a boy and you choose to have that done).
and if the baby has jaundice (yellow color) you can put them is sun coming through a window to help it clear up.
Congrats on your little one! I'm also due in 3 weeks, but this is my second child. With my first i was 17 years old when I had him. I never took a newborn care class or anything like that. It all pretty much came to me and if I had any questions I asked my grandma but mostly it came to me. My husband now at the he was my boyfriend is the one who had the trouble because he was terrified to hold little babies and try and feed them, and he still is. And he has 2 brothers and a sister that are a year older than our first child, plus 3 more younger siblings. It just depends on how you feel. Good luck and best wishes!
We didn't take classes either. When we were in the hospital we asked lots of questions. My husband changed his first diaper in the hospital. I had lots of practice with that before with my nieces and nephews. Also my mom was a big help those first few weeks. I called her with like a dozen questions a day . Be prepared for feeling like a zombie when the baby is born. The lack of sleep was one of the hardest adjustments to make.
like everybody said before me, parenting does not come naturally. but you will be fine. even to the most prepared couple, parenting can still hit like a brick.
babies are supposed to sleep on their backs to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome [SIDS. could be caused by being suffocated by pillows, blankets.. babies dont have good control of their neck]
no, baby wont choke on his own spit up. most babies like to sleep with their head to the side anyway, so its no problem.
until your baby has control of his neck, dont put any pillows or blankets with baby in the crib.
dont forget the scratch mittens in your hospital bag. newborns have SHARP nails. my son came home with scratches on his face because i brought these generic mittens with sucky elastic.
you dont have to clean babys umbilical cord with alcohol at every diaper change. studies have shown that alcohol could actually make the cord take longer to fall off. my friend used alcohol to clean her sons cord.. it took more than 2 weeks for it to fall off.
the nurses at the hospital i gave birth at told me to just keep the cord nice and dry. if it gets dirty, then swab it with a wet cotton ball. my sons cord fell off in exactly one week.
are you having a boy? decide now if you want him circumcised or not.
beware of diaper changing time... especially for baby boys. you'll find out just how scary changing a diaper can be.
SLEEP WHEN BABY SLEEPS.
..i mean it.
Me and my husband did not take any classes and in my opinion we are great parents. you will be so surprised how natural everything comes to you. enjoy this wonderful experience it is the best thing that will ever happen to you and your husband and you are going to fall in love with each other and the baby all over again. good luck and everything will be great for you!! enjoy
We never took any classes and our daughter is a happy, healthy 1 year old now. And neither of us had ANY experience with newborns before our daughter.
It does come naturally, even if you take those classes, parenting is something you learn as you go.
And for the sleeping on their back, it's to reduce SIDS and rebreathing. Most babies turn their head to one side while sleeping, so most of the spit up gets drooled out.
You'll do great and you'll be fine. It really does come natural and they honestly do send you home with a packet of information with all kinds of your questions answerd that you can refer to.
Babies need to be slept on their backs becuase it reduces the risk of SIDS.. When they lay on their backs they turn their heads one way or the other so they won't choke on their spit up.. Also keep all blankets, pillows, toys, etc out of their sleeping area %26amp; make sure they are wearing well fitted sleepers.
I didn't take newborn classes either, It really all comes naturally. Kids don't come with directions, because every single child is different. The reason why they tell you to place your children on their back when they sleep is to reduce the risk of sids. (sudden infant death syndrome) No they wont choke on their vomit. They turn their head. Just sit back and enjoy your baby!
There's still time to buy a comprehensive baby book and start flicking through it. You will need it sometimes! I often look through mine when I have a little Q and want to make sure I'm doing the right-ish thing.
My book is Baby Love by Robin Barker. It's got all kind of info in there.
Take a class... now. its not all natural. There is a LOT to learn and its better to learn now than when he/she gets here.
Did'nt Palins husband belong to a group that wanted to secede from the US?
She's throwing dirt at Obama maybe Biden should be throwing dirt at her!Did'nt Palins husband belong to a group that wanted to secede from the US?
i find it sad when people talk **** about others and expect nothing to be brought up in return. Did'nt Palins husband belong to a group that wanted to secede from the US?
Yes, and palin gave a speech to the organization
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bh7EtOCZv鈥?/a>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBj8_xWO7鈥?/a>
Guess they don't like theUnited States very much!
Her husband registered with a party that wanted all of Alaskan national park lands returned to Alaska, not to secede
And Michelle Obama is not a proud American unless her husband is president, oh that's right, we just need to let that go.
yes
what is he running for?
i find it sad when people talk **** about others and expect nothing to be brought up in return. Did'nt Palins husband belong to a group that wanted to secede from the US?
Yes, and palin gave a speech to the organization
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bh7EtOCZv鈥?/a>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBj8_xWO7鈥?/a>
Guess they don't like theUnited States very much!
Her husband registered with a party that wanted all of Alaskan national park lands returned to Alaska, not to secede
And Michelle Obama is not a proud American unless her husband is president, oh that's right, we just need to let that go.
yes
what is he running for?
Will i ever be able to have children since my husband is diabetic and never has an erection or ejaculate?
He also tested HIV+ and was put on some ARV's that caused led to diabetis.Will i ever be able to have children since my husband is diabetic and never has an erection or ejaculate?
You can go to a fertility specialist. You could go to a sperm bank. You may have a relative, on your husbands side of the family, who can donate sperm at the sperm bank. You have ethical options, and you can have children if you are determined to do so. Good luck.Will i ever be able to have children since my husband is diabetic and never has an erection or ejaculate?
You may or may not be able to have children with your husband because of his health condition. He could still impregnant you if he pre-ejaculates. I know men with sexual dysfunction that have reproduced.
You should speak with a medical practitioner about your options and protecting your own health.
Good Luck
Well, the fact that he has HIV is also an issue, since that can be passed to you and and unborn child. You could use artificial insemination, which would not be his biological child, but it's surely an option if his health issues prevent him from getting you pregnant.
your ability to have children has nothing to do with your husbands inability to have children. It merely makes it unlikely you will have your husbands children
You can go to a fertility specialist. You could go to a sperm bank. You may have a relative, on your husbands side of the family, who can donate sperm at the sperm bank. You have ethical options, and you can have children if you are determined to do so. Good luck.Will i ever be able to have children since my husband is diabetic and never has an erection or ejaculate?
You may or may not be able to have children with your husband because of his health condition. He could still impregnant you if he pre-ejaculates. I know men with sexual dysfunction that have reproduced.
You should speak with a medical practitioner about your options and protecting your own health.
Good Luck
Well, the fact that he has HIV is also an issue, since that can be passed to you and and unborn child. You could use artificial insemination, which would not be his biological child, but it's surely an option if his health issues prevent him from getting you pregnant.
your ability to have children has nothing to do with your husbands inability to have children. It merely makes it unlikely you will have your husbands children
What is the most hurtful thing to say to your husband when he is being a jerk to you?
He is so good at making really hurtful, sarcastic, smart ***, etc. remarks and comments to me and everyone who actually loves him. And he makes himself believe that other people loves him and think that he is just a wonderful guy, but the matter of fact is people hates him cos of his rotten attitude. Why do u think he do this to me? I haven't done anything to deserve this.What is the most hurtful thing to say to your husband when he is being a jerk to you?
Love does not get provoked.
When your husband says hurtful things to you, tell him in a very kind and respectful way: ';Sweetheart, I love you very much, but, when you say things like (repeat whatever it is that he said) this is how I feel (then explain how you feel; hurt, sad, upset, angry, disrespected, unloved..whatever the feeling is) and I wish that you wouldn't say hurtful words like that to me because I love you.';
After that smile and walk away peacefully and allow his mind and heart to reflect on what you just said and what he just said.
';I am a firm believer in killing or healing someone with kindness!';
Plus, it makes you that much more of a stronger person......What is the most hurtful thing to say to your husband when he is being a jerk to you?
Because when he is alone with his thoughts or looks into the mirror he does not like who he is. He is probably more painfully aware of his own shortcomings as a man than any of the people that mistreats could ever understand.
I suspect that he hides his own insecurities behind a wall of one-liner's, put-downs, and off comments. Your man is not happy and he does not address the source of his feelings, he patches them up by being a jerk... I doubt he has changed much since you first met him.
Your man tries to make himself seem better by treating others poorly... I hope for your sake that you are strong and don't let his fear grind you down.
Get him to talk or to open up or get used to him being a jerk... it is his defense mechanism.
He's an abuser. He is abusing you. You don't say intentionally hurtful things to the ones you love. If you really love them and you say something hurtful, it will hurt you so bad that you'll never do it again.
I did that to my abusive X, he just pushed me and pushed me so far that I finally told him he was just like his psychotic father. I immediately regretted it and apologized. And I never opened my mouth again. His behavior, no matter how wrong, wasn't justified by me being ugly back to him. And it didn't make it better, 2 wrongs don't make a right. From that point on I held my tongue and was a bigger person. So when I finally gathered the strength to leave him, I could do so knowing I wasn't at fault and that I did it with grace. I could hold my head up high, even through the verbal and emotional beat downs that I endured.
And trust me, living everyday with pain of abuse even after 3 years of being away. The one thing that helps me on a daily basis with the process of healing, is knowing that I never stooped to his level except that one time which I regretted and apologized for. And for that I'm Thankful, because if I had developed a defense of being ugly back and then felt guilty for it, that low feeling would have probably kept me with him longer, perpetuating the cycle over and over.
Depends on whether you want to be done with him.
But think about what you are asking here. He makes you feel like shiit and you want to find a way to make him feel the same way. So, what do you get out of it?
It's a stupid game and no one wins. Ask him to go to counseling for his insecurities and divorce him if he won't.
Some people just don't care. It's not in their nature to be thoughtful, or nice. If you want to be hurtful, then the next time you have sex with him ask him ';Is it in yet?';
People will only treat you bad if you let him. Don't allow him to hurt you emotionally and verbally.
Anything to question his manhood will get him right where it hurts, but you are better off not resorting to this.
tell him he is a big headed, n has nuthin in the ***... tell him to go **** himself girl
Just be up front. When my husband is being a pr!ck, I tell him.
your pregnant by his dad.
•Excerpts from: WHY DOES HE DO THAT?
INSIDE THE MINDS of ANGRY and CONTROLLING MEN
BY: LUNDY BANCROFT
15 Signs That Point to a Potential Abuser
1. A push for quick involvement: comes on very strong, claiming, “I’ve never felt loved like this by anyone.” An abuser pressures the woman for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
2. Jealousy: excessively possessive, calls you constantly or visits unexpectedly, prevents you from going to work because “you might meet someone”, checks the mileage on your car.
3. Controlling: interrogates you intensely (especially if you’re late), about whom you talked to, and where you were, keeps all the money, insists that you ask permission to go anywhere or do anything.
4. Unrealistic expectations: expects you to be the perfect woman and meet his every need.
5. Isolation: tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of “causing trouble”; the abuser may take away your phone or car and try to prevent you from keeping a job.
6. Blames others for problems and mistakes; the boss, you – it’s always someone else’s fault if anything goes wrong.
7. Makes everyone else responsible for his feelings: the abusers says, “You make me angry”, instead of “I am angry” or “You hurt me by not listening or doing what I tell you to do”, also, “Why do you make me hit you?”
8. Hypersensitivity: he is easily insulted, claims that his feelings are hurt when he is really just mad.
9. Cruelty to children and animals; kills or punishes animals brutally. May expect children to do things far beyond their ability. For example: may whip a 2 year old for wetting a diaper, or may tease a child till they cry. 65% of abusers who beat their partner will also abuse children.
10. “Playful” use of force during sex; he enjoys throwing you down or holding you against your will during sex; says he finds the idea of rape exciting.
11. Verbal abuse: constantly picking at you, or says cruel, hateful things, degrades, curses, calls you ugly things, then says you’re too sensitive. May include sleep deprivation – waking you to curse at you, won’t let you sleep until “this is taken care of”.
12. Rigid sex rules: expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.
13. Sudden mood swings – switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a matter of minutes.
14. Admits to hitting women in the past, but says they made him do it, or it wasn’t his fault. Uses threats of violence. “I’ll break your neck!” “I’ll kill you if…” then says “Everybody talks that way”, or “I didn’t really mean it.” If he has come this far it’s time to get help to get out.
The Abuser’s Most Common Control Tactics:
• Sarcasm
• Ridicule
• Distorting what you say
• Distorting what happened before
• Sulking
• Accusing you of doing what HE does, or thinking the way HE thinks
• Interrupting
• Not listening, refusing to respond
• Laughing out loud at your opinion
• Turning your complaints against you
• Changing the subject to HIS complaints
• Criticism that is harsh, undeserved or frequent
• Provoking guilt
• Making HIMSELF the victim
• Smirking, rolling his eyes, making faces
• Yelling, shouting
• Swearing
• Name-calling, insulting you or putting you down
• Walking out
• Towering over you
• Walking toward you with his fist raised
• Blocking a doorway
• Getting too close when he is angry
• Threatening to leave you
• Threatening to harm you
How Can I Tell If A Man I Am Seeing Will Become Abusive?
• He speaks badly about his former partners.
• He is disrespectful towards you.
• He does favors for you that you don’t want or puts on a show of generosity that makes you uncomfortable
• He is controlling
• He is possessive
• Nothing is ever his fault
• He is self-centered
• He abuses drugs and/or alcohol
• He pressures you for sex
• He gets serious too quickly about the relationship
• He intimidates you when he is angry
• He has double standards
• He has negative attitudes about women
• He treats you differently around other people
• He appears to be attracted to vulnerability
• You show signs of being abused
Is What He Doing Abuse?
• He gets you back if you complain about his behavior
• He tells you that your complaints about his treatment of you are your problem
• He gives apologies that are insincere or angry and demands that you accept them
• He blames you for his behavior
• It’s never the right time, or the right way to bring things up
• He undermines your life
• He denied what he did
• Anything he does that is hurtful or angry was because “You made him” do it
• He touches you in anger or puts you in fear
• He pushes you for sex or sexually assaults you
• His behavior is a pattern
The Abusive Mentality
• He is controlling
• He feels entitled
• He twists things into their opposites
• He disrespects his partner and says he is superior to her
• He confuses love and abuse
• He is manipulative
• He feels
Love does not get provoked.
When your husband says hurtful things to you, tell him in a very kind and respectful way: ';Sweetheart, I love you very much, but, when you say things like (repeat whatever it is that he said) this is how I feel (then explain how you feel; hurt, sad, upset, angry, disrespected, unloved..whatever the feeling is) and I wish that you wouldn't say hurtful words like that to me because I love you.';
After that smile and walk away peacefully and allow his mind and heart to reflect on what you just said and what he just said.
';I am a firm believer in killing or healing someone with kindness!';
Plus, it makes you that much more of a stronger person......What is the most hurtful thing to say to your husband when he is being a jerk to you?
Because when he is alone with his thoughts or looks into the mirror he does not like who he is. He is probably more painfully aware of his own shortcomings as a man than any of the people that mistreats could ever understand.
I suspect that he hides his own insecurities behind a wall of one-liner's, put-downs, and off comments. Your man is not happy and he does not address the source of his feelings, he patches them up by being a jerk... I doubt he has changed much since you first met him.
Your man tries to make himself seem better by treating others poorly... I hope for your sake that you are strong and don't let his fear grind you down.
Get him to talk or to open up or get used to him being a jerk... it is his defense mechanism.
He's an abuser. He is abusing you. You don't say intentionally hurtful things to the ones you love. If you really love them and you say something hurtful, it will hurt you so bad that you'll never do it again.
I did that to my abusive X, he just pushed me and pushed me so far that I finally told him he was just like his psychotic father. I immediately regretted it and apologized. And I never opened my mouth again. His behavior, no matter how wrong, wasn't justified by me being ugly back to him. And it didn't make it better, 2 wrongs don't make a right. From that point on I held my tongue and was a bigger person. So when I finally gathered the strength to leave him, I could do so knowing I wasn't at fault and that I did it with grace. I could hold my head up high, even through the verbal and emotional beat downs that I endured.
And trust me, living everyday with pain of abuse even after 3 years of being away. The one thing that helps me on a daily basis with the process of healing, is knowing that I never stooped to his level except that one time which I regretted and apologized for. And for that I'm Thankful, because if I had developed a defense of being ugly back and then felt guilty for it, that low feeling would have probably kept me with him longer, perpetuating the cycle over and over.
Depends on whether you want to be done with him.
But think about what you are asking here. He makes you feel like shiit and you want to find a way to make him feel the same way. So, what do you get out of it?
It's a stupid game and no one wins. Ask him to go to counseling for his insecurities and divorce him if he won't.
Some people just don't care. It's not in their nature to be thoughtful, or nice. If you want to be hurtful, then the next time you have sex with him ask him ';Is it in yet?';
People will only treat you bad if you let him. Don't allow him to hurt you emotionally and verbally.
Anything to question his manhood will get him right where it hurts, but you are better off not resorting to this.
tell him he is a big headed, n has nuthin in the ***... tell him to go **** himself girl
Just be up front. When my husband is being a pr!ck, I tell him.
your pregnant by his dad.
•Excerpts from: WHY DOES HE DO THAT?
INSIDE THE MINDS of ANGRY and CONTROLLING MEN
BY: LUNDY BANCROFT
15 Signs That Point to a Potential Abuser
1. A push for quick involvement: comes on very strong, claiming, “I’ve never felt loved like this by anyone.” An abuser pressures the woman for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
2. Jealousy: excessively possessive, calls you constantly or visits unexpectedly, prevents you from going to work because “you might meet someone”, checks the mileage on your car.
3. Controlling: interrogates you intensely (especially if you’re late), about whom you talked to, and where you were, keeps all the money, insists that you ask permission to go anywhere or do anything.
4. Unrealistic expectations: expects you to be the perfect woman and meet his every need.
5. Isolation: tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of “causing trouble”; the abuser may take away your phone or car and try to prevent you from keeping a job.
6. Blames others for problems and mistakes; the boss, you – it’s always someone else’s fault if anything goes wrong.
7. Makes everyone else responsible for his feelings: the abusers says, “You make me angry”, instead of “I am angry” or “You hurt me by not listening or doing what I tell you to do”, also, “Why do you make me hit you?”
8. Hypersensitivity: he is easily insulted, claims that his feelings are hurt when he is really just mad.
9. Cruelty to children and animals; kills or punishes animals brutally. May expect children to do things far beyond their ability. For example: may whip a 2 year old for wetting a diaper, or may tease a child till they cry. 65% of abusers who beat their partner will also abuse children.
10. “Playful” use of force during sex; he enjoys throwing you down or holding you against your will during sex; says he finds the idea of rape exciting.
11. Verbal abuse: constantly picking at you, or says cruel, hateful things, degrades, curses, calls you ugly things, then says you’re too sensitive. May include sleep deprivation – waking you to curse at you, won’t let you sleep until “this is taken care of”.
12. Rigid sex rules: expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.
13. Sudden mood swings – switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a matter of minutes.
14. Admits to hitting women in the past, but says they made him do it, or it wasn’t his fault. Uses threats of violence. “I’ll break your neck!” “I’ll kill you if…” then says “Everybody talks that way”, or “I didn’t really mean it.” If he has come this far it’s time to get help to get out.
The Abuser’s Most Common Control Tactics:
• Sarcasm
• Ridicule
• Distorting what you say
• Distorting what happened before
• Sulking
• Accusing you of doing what HE does, or thinking the way HE thinks
• Interrupting
• Not listening, refusing to respond
• Laughing out loud at your opinion
• Turning your complaints against you
• Changing the subject to HIS complaints
• Criticism that is harsh, undeserved or frequent
• Provoking guilt
• Making HIMSELF the victim
• Smirking, rolling his eyes, making faces
• Yelling, shouting
• Swearing
• Name-calling, insulting you or putting you down
• Walking out
• Towering over you
• Walking toward you with his fist raised
• Blocking a doorway
• Getting too close when he is angry
• Threatening to leave you
• Threatening to harm you
How Can I Tell If A Man I Am Seeing Will Become Abusive?
• He speaks badly about his former partners.
• He is disrespectful towards you.
• He does favors for you that you don’t want or puts on a show of generosity that makes you uncomfortable
• He is controlling
• He is possessive
• Nothing is ever his fault
• He is self-centered
• He abuses drugs and/or alcohol
• He pressures you for sex
• He gets serious too quickly about the relationship
• He intimidates you when he is angry
• He has double standards
• He has negative attitudes about women
• He treats you differently around other people
• He appears to be attracted to vulnerability
• You show signs of being abused
Is What He Doing Abuse?
• He gets you back if you complain about his behavior
• He tells you that your complaints about his treatment of you are your problem
• He gives apologies that are insincere or angry and demands that you accept them
• He blames you for his behavior
• It’s never the right time, or the right way to bring things up
• He undermines your life
• He denied what he did
• Anything he does that is hurtful or angry was because “You made him” do it
• He touches you in anger or puts you in fear
• He pushes you for sex or sexually assaults you
• His behavior is a pattern
The Abusive Mentality
• He is controlling
• He feels entitled
• He twists things into their opposites
• He disrespects his partner and says he is superior to her
• He confuses love and abuse
• He is manipulative
• He feels
Me and my husband opened a C corp and r the only 2 employees. Can we open a SEP ira in our names ?
We need to know if we can open a SEP ira in our names and contribute in the same from our Business account?
What are implications if we hire employees in later years?Me and my husband opened a C corp and r the only 2 employees. Can we open a SEP ira in our names ?
You are getting into a pretty complicated area of ERISA. I would contact your accountant or financial advisor to see how to best go about it. If you write the plan document that anyone who works over a certain amount of hours you would be responsible for making contributions for the employees as well.
They are going to need more specific information regarding your company to help you pcik the best type of plan for you and your company.id bare minerals eye brush
What are implications if we hire employees in later years?Me and my husband opened a C corp and r the only 2 employees. Can we open a SEP ira in our names ?
You are getting into a pretty complicated area of ERISA. I would contact your accountant or financial advisor to see how to best go about it. If you write the plan document that anyone who works over a certain amount of hours you would be responsible for making contributions for the employees as well.
They are going to need more specific information regarding your company to help you pcik the best type of plan for you and your company.
Need to make a basket of different beers for my husband for christmas.any ideas on some cool beers to include?
when it comes to all the beers out there i just wouldn't know where to start. but im getting him a home bar and id like to be able to stock it (for now) with about three really nice (cheap) wines, and a six pack of different beers he'd like to try. i'd also like recommendations on the the wine. i don't care about the differences between ales and lagers or pinots or anything. we really have no preference.
and he'll drink anything. Need to make a basket of different beers for my husband for christmas.any ideas on some cool beers to include?
I would look for a local beer store, not the grocery store, but a beer store. Most of them will carry several beers for all over the US and the world. They also now offer where you can buy 1 bottle at a time and not have to buy a 6-pack. So with that you could get him 6 from the US and 6 from other countries, or really treat him right get him 12 of each. As far as the wines if you want something cheap but decent I prefer red's and if you want cheap look to Yellow Tail, they have several flavors for you. Enjoy.Need to make a basket of different beers for my husband for christmas.any ideas on some cool beers to include?
It does depend on where you are - what country/state are you in?
In the U.S., most small breweries now put out special Christmas or Holiday ales. You could put together a selection of those as a Christmas gift.
For example -
Harpoon Winter Warmer (flavored with nutmeg + cinnamon)
Sam Adams has Holiday Porter and Old Fezziwig, in addition to Winter Lager.
Gritty MacDuff's Christmas Ale (from Maine, found this in MA last year)
Pete's Winter Brew (TX)
Stoudt's Holiday Reserve (PA)
Wasatch Christmas Ale (UT)
Samuel Smith's Winter Welcome (UK)
Delerium Noel (Belgium)
Ridgeway Lump of Coal Holiday Stout (UK)
This is just a start - I'm including a link to a long list of others. What's available in your area, I don't know, check with a local beer distributor or specialty store...
With the beers there's a few ways to go... In the US, you can go all microbrews - Samuel Adams, Anchor, Seirra Nevada... etc
Or you can go with beers from different countries... Jamica = Red Stripe, Ireland = Guiness, Belguim = Stella Artios... etc
For the wines, look for something in the $10 range from California...
get a beer from several countries. Belgium has really nice ones. Hoegaarden is a nice blonde, Leffe a nice dark, Kriek is a cherry based dark beer. Stella is a popular choice as well.
wine wise.. Merlot is a fruity red. Pinot Grigio a relatively fruity white, Chardonnay an oaky white. Just to get a good mix of all tastes.
I will not name specific beer labels but I will suggest an assortment. You want a selection of beers from a bunch or brewers. Get a selection with a variety of styles such as Pale Ale (Bitter), Brown Ales, Porter, Winter Seasonal and such beers like this.
Have you looked here?
http://www.amazingclubs.com/
They have different beers, BBQ Sauces and other things in one spot.
If nothing else it's great for ideas.
I am not affilliated with it, I just like looking there.
Good luck.
You must include Boddingtons Pub Ale. It is the perfect breakfast beer!
we like beck beer from germany
and he'll drink anything. Need to make a basket of different beers for my husband for christmas.any ideas on some cool beers to include?
I would look for a local beer store, not the grocery store, but a beer store. Most of them will carry several beers for all over the US and the world. They also now offer where you can buy 1 bottle at a time and not have to buy a 6-pack. So with that you could get him 6 from the US and 6 from other countries, or really treat him right get him 12 of each. As far as the wines if you want something cheap but decent I prefer red's and if you want cheap look to Yellow Tail, they have several flavors for you. Enjoy.Need to make a basket of different beers for my husband for christmas.any ideas on some cool beers to include?
It does depend on where you are - what country/state are you in?
In the U.S., most small breweries now put out special Christmas or Holiday ales. You could put together a selection of those as a Christmas gift.
For example -
Harpoon Winter Warmer (flavored with nutmeg + cinnamon)
Sam Adams has Holiday Porter and Old Fezziwig, in addition to Winter Lager.
Gritty MacDuff's Christmas Ale (from Maine, found this in MA last year)
Pete's Winter Brew (TX)
Stoudt's Holiday Reserve (PA)
Wasatch Christmas Ale (UT)
Samuel Smith's Winter Welcome (UK)
Delerium Noel (Belgium)
Ridgeway Lump of Coal Holiday Stout (UK)
This is just a start - I'm including a link to a long list of others. What's available in your area, I don't know, check with a local beer distributor or specialty store...
With the beers there's a few ways to go... In the US, you can go all microbrews - Samuel Adams, Anchor, Seirra Nevada... etc
Or you can go with beers from different countries... Jamica = Red Stripe, Ireland = Guiness, Belguim = Stella Artios... etc
For the wines, look for something in the $10 range from California...
get a beer from several countries. Belgium has really nice ones. Hoegaarden is a nice blonde, Leffe a nice dark, Kriek is a cherry based dark beer. Stella is a popular choice as well.
wine wise.. Merlot is a fruity red. Pinot Grigio a relatively fruity white, Chardonnay an oaky white. Just to get a good mix of all tastes.
I will not name specific beer labels but I will suggest an assortment. You want a selection of beers from a bunch or brewers. Get a selection with a variety of styles such as Pale Ale (Bitter), Brown Ales, Porter, Winter Seasonal and such beers like this.
Have you looked here?
http://www.amazingclubs.com/
They have different beers, BBQ Sauces and other things in one spot.
If nothing else it's great for ideas.
I am not affilliated with it, I just like looking there.
Good luck.
You must include Boddingtons Pub Ale. It is the perfect breakfast beer!
we like beck beer from germany
Militarty air force husband living together while in tech school?
I was wondering if my husband will get to live with me and our school while he is in tech school? He is going for electrical, and school is six months. He will be at Sheppard in TX, just wondering how this all works?Militarty air force husband living together while in tech school?
maybe, maybe not. he will have to get permission form the school to have you join him. If they do NOT give permission, then if you choose to move it will be all out of pocket, you will NOT be eligible for on base housing and he may not be allowed to live with you off base, he may be required to live in the barracks regardless.
If school is exactly six months long or even just a couple of days shorter, you can expect permission to be denied. Generally speaking , school must be in EXCESS of 26 weeks long before the commands will sign off on Accompanied orders.Militarty air force husband living together while in tech school?
His Tech School is not six months.
The AF only has two or three Tech Schools that are 26 weeks or longer.
To have the military pay for a spouse to move, your Tech School must be atleast 26 weeks.
But you can pay to move yourself to his Tech School and rent an apartment off base.
But in the AF, for the first month of Tech School, you are restricted to base. Even if your family is allowed to be moved.
Your best bet, is to just visit your husband after the first month hes at Tech School.
And wait untill he gets to his first duty station to move,
If you edit your question and tell us what his exact AFSC
( job ) is, we can tell you exactly how long his Tech School is.
It's Air Force...two seperate words, just to let you know :)
Your husband can request to live off-base during tech school but it's not always approved. He'll have to ask his MTL's about it and the MTL's will submit a letter for approval to his Commander. If his MTL's are not willing to do the paperwork for him, he can always ask his tech school training instructor.
He has to maintain good test scores and stay out of trouble.
Moving you there will be an out-of-pocket expense but once you are there and if it is approved, he will be recieving BAH for the Sheppard area....if he is denied and you choose to live off-base anyways, he can always see you after training or on the weekends.
maybe, maybe not. he will have to get permission form the school to have you join him. If they do NOT give permission, then if you choose to move it will be all out of pocket, you will NOT be eligible for on base housing and he may not be allowed to live with you off base, he may be required to live in the barracks regardless.
If school is exactly six months long or even just a couple of days shorter, you can expect permission to be denied. Generally speaking , school must be in EXCESS of 26 weeks long before the commands will sign off on Accompanied orders.Militarty air force husband living together while in tech school?
His Tech School is not six months.
The AF only has two or three Tech Schools that are 26 weeks or longer.
To have the military pay for a spouse to move, your Tech School must be atleast 26 weeks.
But you can pay to move yourself to his Tech School and rent an apartment off base.
But in the AF, for the first month of Tech School, you are restricted to base. Even if your family is allowed to be moved.
Your best bet, is to just visit your husband after the first month hes at Tech School.
And wait untill he gets to his first duty station to move,
If you edit your question and tell us what his exact AFSC
( job ) is, we can tell you exactly how long his Tech School is.
It's Air Force...two seperate words, just to let you know :)
Your husband can request to live off-base during tech school but it's not always approved. He'll have to ask his MTL's about it and the MTL's will submit a letter for approval to his Commander. If his MTL's are not willing to do the paperwork for him, he can always ask his tech school training instructor.
He has to maintain good test scores and stay out of trouble.
Moving you there will be an out-of-pocket expense but once you are there and if it is approved, he will be recieving BAH for the Sheppard area....if he is denied and you choose to live off-base anyways, he can always see you after training or on the weekends.
Why is my husband having difficulty swallowing after a larynectomy and radiotherapy ?
He had the voice box removed last october then 6 weeks of radiotherapy which was slow to heal but he seems to manage that now okay its the swallowing nothing goes down just comes back even water is there something stopping food going to the stomachWhy is my husband having difficulty swallowing after a larynectomy and radiotherapy ?
These are the causes of one having difficulty in swallowing after a Laryngectomy and Radiation...
1) Commonest is A STRICTURE across the Oropharynx and the Oesophagus which occurs as a Consequence of Radiation.. This can be treated by manual dilatation with Bogues and sometimes surgery
2) It can be a cancer recurrence and involving a growth which is obstructing the orifice.. This is possible since around 1 year has elapsed after his surgery
3) It can also be a Neuromuscular dysfunction which is causing this..
Whatever the cause may be, it warrants a immediate attention by a ENT specialist... Consult ur Doctor immediately..Why is my husband having difficulty swallowing after a larynectomy and radiotherapy ?
go see the doctor immediatly before he gets dehydrated or starves. this is common after an operation like that so your doctor will know what to do
These are the causes of one having difficulty in swallowing after a Laryngectomy and Radiation...
1) Commonest is A STRICTURE across the Oropharynx and the Oesophagus which occurs as a Consequence of Radiation.. This can be treated by manual dilatation with Bogues and sometimes surgery
2) It can be a cancer recurrence and involving a growth which is obstructing the orifice.. This is possible since around 1 year has elapsed after his surgery
3) It can also be a Neuromuscular dysfunction which is causing this..
Whatever the cause may be, it warrants a immediate attention by a ENT specialist... Consult ur Doctor immediately..Why is my husband having difficulty swallowing after a larynectomy and radiotherapy ?
go see the doctor immediatly before he gets dehydrated or starves. this is common after an operation like that so your doctor will know what to do
What goddess plotted with her youngest son to overthrow her husband?
I searched and couldn't find it. grrr!What goddess plotted with her youngest son to overthrow her husband?
Zeus and his mother, Rhea, plotted to overthrow Zeus's father, Cronus. Yes, Zeus was the youngest son.
Zeus and his mother, Rhea, plotted to overthrow Zeus's father, Cronus. Yes, Zeus was the youngest son.
Mature answers only. How do i deal with a ';toxic'; step mom who trys to play my ex husband against me
My ex and i have joint custody of our son so we need to discuss issues regarding our son which his new wife hates. She thinks the only time we should talk(ex and me) is if my son is on the way to the hospital.When i need to discuss something with my ex she allways wants to be involved.She even comes with him when he drops my son off at my house then makes my exhusband stay in the car with her and just sends my 6 yr old in .She even had my ex call my sons school to have them mail school info to their house becuase it was pissing her off that i would make copies of my sons school stuff for my exhusband.Because of her 7/10 times the only way i comunicate with my ex is by mail or sending a note with my son.Mature answers only. How do i deal with a ';toxic'; step mom who trys to play my ex husband against me
That is really a shame. Have you tried talking to her? It is not fair at all that she is trying to put these limitations out there. It might be more effective to talk to her than him though to start with. You can explain to her (and eventually to him) that right now the lack of communication might not seem to be impacting your son, but that sooner or later it will. You guys are not a couple anymore, but you are still parents to your child and I pray she will step back and let you guys be the best parents you can be. Good luck!Mature answers only. How do i deal with a ';toxic'; step mom who trys to play my ex husband against me
Nothing you can say will stop her from being like this. Your ex needs to step up and be a man about it and let her know that your son is his number one priority and that the two of you will have to talk to each other until he turns 18, and she just needs to except that fact period.
Where is your ex husband spine?Its probably shoved up his wife's @$$.Now that i said that i feel so much better.Why is she acting like that?Does she think when you guys are alone something might happen?Is she that insecure?She probably doesn't realize that you guys are divorce and it is final,everybody is saying talk to her but if i was in your situation i would of feel like slapping the b!tch and why is your son's school giving her the authority to make changes like that?Was she there when you guys were making your son?Tell your ex husband he needs to grow some balls in my opinion.And the best thing to do is play fire with fire,push your for your son's needs because while she's being a b!tch and your ex is being spineless your son is the only one getting affected
I would definitely stop putting your child in the middle, and not pass anything through him on your end. I would let them know that you will not except anything through your son also. You are going to have to be the grown up here, since he can't. She sounds threatened by you, and a control freak. Just go with the flow because by you making a big deal about anything makes her think you want him back. I know it sounds weird, but it's true.
Your EX is a total joke, as for her, it is his problem.
My mom isn't allowed to contact my dad at all, unless it's through mail, cause my stepmom doesn't like my mom. The only time she can call is in a dire emergency, like, I'm already dead or something. It's a horrible situation for a kid to be in.
This is kind of a hard situation, but you've got to find some way to compromise. If it keeps on like this, your little kid will start thinking its all his fault, because he's stuck in the middle.
You need to tell HER what you think, and that if it is going to be a harm to your son, than you don't give a care if she doesn't like that you are talking to your ex. It sounds like she is jealous and defensive, and doesn't trust her husband.
Well, obviously she is jealous. If I were you, in all seriousness I would try to get a court order to keep her away from your son. She is damaging him. He will not know how top properly handle his own adults relationships when he is older because of her actions. I know for a fact a judge would agree. I have seen 1 case just like this with friends of ours.
Why can't your husband be a man and tel her this is one thing that does NOT involve her and to keep out of it!
Your ex husband needs to be part of your parenting team....He`s a parent, and then a husband. That child did not ask for your divorce...
That is really a shame. Have you tried talking to her? It is not fair at all that she is trying to put these limitations out there. It might be more effective to talk to her than him though to start with. You can explain to her (and eventually to him) that right now the lack of communication might not seem to be impacting your son, but that sooner or later it will. You guys are not a couple anymore, but you are still parents to your child and I pray she will step back and let you guys be the best parents you can be. Good luck!Mature answers only. How do i deal with a ';toxic'; step mom who trys to play my ex husband against me
Nothing you can say will stop her from being like this. Your ex needs to step up and be a man about it and let her know that your son is his number one priority and that the two of you will have to talk to each other until he turns 18, and she just needs to except that fact period.
Where is your ex husband spine?Its probably shoved up his wife's @$$.Now that i said that i feel so much better.Why is she acting like that?Does she think when you guys are alone something might happen?Is she that insecure?She probably doesn't realize that you guys are divorce and it is final,everybody is saying talk to her but if i was in your situation i would of feel like slapping the b!tch and why is your son's school giving her the authority to make changes like that?Was she there when you guys were making your son?Tell your ex husband he needs to grow some balls in my opinion.And the best thing to do is play fire with fire,push your for your son's needs because while she's being a b!tch and your ex is being spineless your son is the only one getting affected
I would definitely stop putting your child in the middle, and not pass anything through him on your end. I would let them know that you will not except anything through your son also. You are going to have to be the grown up here, since he can't. She sounds threatened by you, and a control freak. Just go with the flow because by you making a big deal about anything makes her think you want him back. I know it sounds weird, but it's true.
Your EX is a total joke, as for her, it is his problem.
My mom isn't allowed to contact my dad at all, unless it's through mail, cause my stepmom doesn't like my mom. The only time she can call is in a dire emergency, like, I'm already dead or something. It's a horrible situation for a kid to be in.
This is kind of a hard situation, but you've got to find some way to compromise. If it keeps on like this, your little kid will start thinking its all his fault, because he's stuck in the middle.
You need to tell HER what you think, and that if it is going to be a harm to your son, than you don't give a care if she doesn't like that you are talking to your ex. It sounds like she is jealous and defensive, and doesn't trust her husband.
Well, obviously she is jealous. If I were you, in all seriousness I would try to get a court order to keep her away from your son. She is damaging him. He will not know how top properly handle his own adults relationships when he is older because of her actions. I know for a fact a judge would agree. I have seen 1 case just like this with friends of ours.
Why can't your husband be a man and tel her this is one thing that does NOT involve her and to keep out of it!
Your ex husband needs to be part of your parenting team....He`s a parent, and then a husband. That child did not ask for your divorce...
Am I eligible to join the airforce even though my husband is already enlisted and we have two infant children?
When my husband joined we only had one child but while he was in tech school i gave birth to our second child. Am i eligible to join active duty?Am I eligible to join the airforce even though my husband is already enlisted and we have two infant children?
Ask your husband he has every Air Force instruction (AFI) at his finger tips. To answer your question. Yes. as long as you meet all Air Force enlistement elgibility requirements and have a family care plan.Am I eligible to join the airforce even though my husband is already enlisted and we have two infant children?
Talk to a recruiter.
I would say yes, however you need to know that you must have someone who at a moments notice can care for both of your children for an extended amount of tiem if you were both deployed.
no, they don't have to leave one of you at home because of the children.
no. the reserves MIGHT grant a waiver. you will NOT get one to go Active Duty
if you can get some to sign a paper stating that if your both deployed they will take care of the kids
yes but u have to get a ';family care plan'; thats what the army calls it. well i think
Talk to the recruiter. Usually, your children should be old enough to leave them.
Yeah I wouldnt see why not... Id start talking with a recruiter they will have all the answers you need... And all the stuff that you will have to figure out with both you and your husband both going to be in... And Im not sure if you know this... But both you and your husband could deploy at the same time even if you have kids... Hope this helps and good luck with everything!!!
Join the Army, then mock him for his sissy service choice...just kidding airmen
Of course you are eligible . . .
YOU WOULD BE ELIGIBLE IF OTHER CIRCUMSTANCES WOULDN'T PREVENT YOU FROM DOING SO. WHAT OTHER OPTIONS DO YOU HAVE AND DO YOU THINK THIS IS A WISE CHOICE?
I don't see why not. If you are prepared to basically give your children to someone who can care for them while you are both away.id bare minerals eye brush
Ask your husband he has every Air Force instruction (AFI) at his finger tips. To answer your question. Yes. as long as you meet all Air Force enlistement elgibility requirements and have a family care plan.Am I eligible to join the airforce even though my husband is already enlisted and we have two infant children?
Talk to a recruiter.
I would say yes, however you need to know that you must have someone who at a moments notice can care for both of your children for an extended amount of tiem if you were both deployed.
no, they don't have to leave one of you at home because of the children.
no. the reserves MIGHT grant a waiver. you will NOT get one to go Active Duty
if you can get some to sign a paper stating that if your both deployed they will take care of the kids
yes but u have to get a ';family care plan'; thats what the army calls it. well i think
Talk to the recruiter. Usually, your children should be old enough to leave them.
Yeah I wouldnt see why not... Id start talking with a recruiter they will have all the answers you need... And all the stuff that you will have to figure out with both you and your husband both going to be in... And Im not sure if you know this... But both you and your husband could deploy at the same time even if you have kids... Hope this helps and good luck with everything!!!
Join the Army, then mock him for his sissy service choice...just kidding airmen
Of course you are eligible . . .
YOU WOULD BE ELIGIBLE IF OTHER CIRCUMSTANCES WOULDN'T PREVENT YOU FROM DOING SO. WHAT OTHER OPTIONS DO YOU HAVE AND DO YOU THINK THIS IS A WISE CHOICE?
I don't see why not. If you are prepared to basically give your children to someone who can care for them while you are both away.
How do I kill mold in my shower if I cannot see it? Something is there bc my husband sneezes like crazy? ?
Will bleach kill the mold spores bc I used scrubbing bubbles and it's still there i'm sure cuz he keeps sneezing. He is super-sensitive when it comes to allergy causing things. How do I kill mold in my shower if I cannot see it? Something is there bc my husband sneezes like crazy? ?
Your husband could be allergic to cleaning chemicals such as scrubbing bubbles, it would be recommended you change your cleaner first to see if this is the problem
Or you can remove Mold/Mildew with Borax, Baking Soda and White Vinegar mixed into a paste and scrub along grout lines and caulking this will remove mold/mildew and will not cause allergies, when using Borax use rubber gloves as it can be harsh on skin Good Luck !How do I kill mold in my shower if I cannot see it? Something is there bc my husband sneezes like crazy? ?
Your Welcome and thank you for choosing my answer as best
If you can't see the mold, there shouldn't be enough to be causing his problem.
He could be allergic to the Scubbing Bubbles that you're using (or to some other product that you use in there -- perhaps even the smell of a new cologne/perfume or shampoo/conditioner).
If you want to ';go green'; in your cleaning needs, Clorox sells a relatively new GreenWorks product that contains no phosphorus and no bleach (and no smell). Cleans pretty well. If you clean regularly, and ventilate your bathroom after showers, mold shouldn't accumulate.
If you really want to be sure that there's no mold, you could sponge-wipe down your shower with a solution of 1/3 Clorox bleach and 2/3 water and let it sit for a few hours before wiping off. However, the smell of bleach even makes ME sneeze, it's so harsh, and I don't have any allergies.
Try eliminating other potential sneeze-causing materials (i.e. changing shampoos) before bleaching. Certain smells can cause sneezing attacks. Again, I don't have allergies, but I have never been able to tolerate that perfume called ';Giorgio.'; When it was really popular in the 90's and they'd spray it when you walked by in department stores, it always caused me to sneeze :)
The most common allergens are perfumes - five times more people are allergic to perfumes than everything else combined. Since this happens in the shower, I suspect it's some shampoo, conditioner, body wash, etc. Change to unscented where you can, and avoid anything containing ';essential oils'; or ';botanicals'; - those are perfumes with a fancy name.
Unscented is best at all times - fragrances are major skin irritants too.
Great insight, mshonnie!
Is it even possible to truly clean with poisons?
Plus, EPA says DO NOT use bleach against mold...
https://moldrx4u.com/Poisons.asp
And, yes, mold should be taken very seriously...it wreaks much more havoc than simply smelling bad...
https://moldrx4u.com/Symptoms.asp
Is it possible that there is a leak and mold is growing behind the shower in the walls?
Check out the remarkable research on toxic mold removal done by environmental expert Dr Ed Close. Simply diffusing Thieves essential oil regularly will likely result in an environment very hostile to mold.
http://www.secretofthieves.com/mold.cfm
Cost of the Thieves Household Cleaner, a diffuser and a couple bottles of the Thieves oil that Dr Close recommends to his remediation clients: about $250.
If you don't see the mold in your bathroom, it might not be mold. Because if it was mold in your walls, it would be throughout the house and he'd be sneezing everywhere.
However...
Could it be the soap, body wash you guys use? Maybe shampoos, conditioners, or anything else that you might store in the shower space itself?
Maybe even candles that you might have in your bathroom (even when they are not lit). Room fresheners?
Maybe even the cleaners you use in the bathroom...maybe they leave a residue that really bothers him.
I think you might have to put on your Sherlock Holmes hat for this one!
Good luck!
Yes, mold can cause allergies plus cause other breathing problems. Yo must use Tylex gel and spay from up to down. Wear a face mask and do not try to breath any of the chlorine vapor.For touch sports of mildew, use a green plastic scotch bright pad scrub Green in bad area and apply Tylex gel again while scrubbing. finally, use a spray bottle must at 1/4 bleach (Clorex) and 3/4 water. Cover entire moldy area with bleach / water spray let sit with open bathroom window and close bathroom door to rest of house. Let work for hour and rinse entire bathroom with sponge mop.
Mild and mildew free
Hope this helps.
Also install exhaust fan to get rid steam during showers .
Joe
New stuff on the market now called Grot Buster, cleans mold from the grout surrounding the tiles. Best used in conjunction with a tooth brush to scrub the grout clean, keep your window wide open %26amp; use a mask, gloves (goggles too if your eyes start burning ).
I used it on my bathroom tiles last week, it's good, but it might take some time to get the grout clean.
Good Luck.X :-)
yes, either that or a steamer will kill them, use a 50/50 bleach solution, also wear rubber gloves, or put it in a spray bottle....use the scented bleach to help cut down on the bleach order. they are also sprays like lysol or oust surface and air!
A 25% solution of bleach to water should kill the mold. As on all wall surfaces start at the bottom and wash up. Rinse with clear water afterwards. Let the bleach solution stay on for 10 minutes or so to do its job, then rinse.
Use bleach in a spray bottle, being very careful to spay into areas that you cannot readily see, such as under the shower door.
Make sure there are no water leaks behind the walls. if so that is the cause of the mold spores
Your husband could be allergic to cleaning chemicals such as scrubbing bubbles, it would be recommended you change your cleaner first to see if this is the problem
Or you can remove Mold/Mildew with Borax, Baking Soda and White Vinegar mixed into a paste and scrub along grout lines and caulking this will remove mold/mildew and will not cause allergies, when using Borax use rubber gloves as it can be harsh on skin Good Luck !How do I kill mold in my shower if I cannot see it? Something is there bc my husband sneezes like crazy? ?
Your Welcome and thank you for choosing my answer as best
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If you can't see the mold, there shouldn't be enough to be causing his problem.
He could be allergic to the Scubbing Bubbles that you're using (or to some other product that you use in there -- perhaps even the smell of a new cologne/perfume or shampoo/conditioner).
If you want to ';go green'; in your cleaning needs, Clorox sells a relatively new GreenWorks product that contains no phosphorus and no bleach (and no smell). Cleans pretty well. If you clean regularly, and ventilate your bathroom after showers, mold shouldn't accumulate.
If you really want to be sure that there's no mold, you could sponge-wipe down your shower with a solution of 1/3 Clorox bleach and 2/3 water and let it sit for a few hours before wiping off. However, the smell of bleach even makes ME sneeze, it's so harsh, and I don't have any allergies.
Try eliminating other potential sneeze-causing materials (i.e. changing shampoos) before bleaching. Certain smells can cause sneezing attacks. Again, I don't have allergies, but I have never been able to tolerate that perfume called ';Giorgio.'; When it was really popular in the 90's and they'd spray it when you walked by in department stores, it always caused me to sneeze :)
The most common allergens are perfumes - five times more people are allergic to perfumes than everything else combined. Since this happens in the shower, I suspect it's some shampoo, conditioner, body wash, etc. Change to unscented where you can, and avoid anything containing ';essential oils'; or ';botanicals'; - those are perfumes with a fancy name.
Unscented is best at all times - fragrances are major skin irritants too.
Great insight, mshonnie!
Is it even possible to truly clean with poisons?
Plus, EPA says DO NOT use bleach against mold...
https://moldrx4u.com/Poisons.asp
And, yes, mold should be taken very seriously...it wreaks much more havoc than simply smelling bad...
https://moldrx4u.com/Symptoms.asp
Is it possible that there is a leak and mold is growing behind the shower in the walls?
Check out the remarkable research on toxic mold removal done by environmental expert Dr Ed Close. Simply diffusing Thieves essential oil regularly will likely result in an environment very hostile to mold.
http://www.secretofthieves.com/mold.cfm
Cost of the Thieves Household Cleaner, a diffuser and a couple bottles of the Thieves oil that Dr Close recommends to his remediation clients: about $250.
If you don't see the mold in your bathroom, it might not be mold. Because if it was mold in your walls, it would be throughout the house and he'd be sneezing everywhere.
However...
Could it be the soap, body wash you guys use? Maybe shampoos, conditioners, or anything else that you might store in the shower space itself?
Maybe even candles that you might have in your bathroom (even when they are not lit). Room fresheners?
Maybe even the cleaners you use in the bathroom...maybe they leave a residue that really bothers him.
I think you might have to put on your Sherlock Holmes hat for this one!
Good luck!
Yes, mold can cause allergies plus cause other breathing problems. Yo must use Tylex gel and spay from up to down. Wear a face mask and do not try to breath any of the chlorine vapor.For touch sports of mildew, use a green plastic scotch bright pad scrub Green in bad area and apply Tylex gel again while scrubbing. finally, use a spray bottle must at 1/4 bleach (Clorex) and 3/4 water. Cover entire moldy area with bleach / water spray let sit with open bathroom window and close bathroom door to rest of house. Let work for hour and rinse entire bathroom with sponge mop.
Mild and mildew free
Hope this helps.
Also install exhaust fan to get rid steam during showers .
Joe
New stuff on the market now called Grot Buster, cleans mold from the grout surrounding the tiles. Best used in conjunction with a tooth brush to scrub the grout clean, keep your window wide open %26amp; use a mask, gloves (goggles too if your eyes start burning ).
I used it on my bathroom tiles last week, it's good, but it might take some time to get the grout clean.
Good Luck.X :-)
yes, either that or a steamer will kill them, use a 50/50 bleach solution, also wear rubber gloves, or put it in a spray bottle....use the scented bleach to help cut down on the bleach order. they are also sprays like lysol or oust surface and air!
A 25% solution of bleach to water should kill the mold. As on all wall surfaces start at the bottom and wash up. Rinse with clear water afterwards. Let the bleach solution stay on for 10 minutes or so to do its job, then rinse.
Use bleach in a spray bottle, being very careful to spay into areas that you cannot readily see, such as under the shower door.
Make sure there are no water leaks behind the walls. if so that is the cause of the mold spores
Why does my husband prematurely ejaculate and what can we do about it?
The first few weeks that we were having sex, he would last FOREVER, almost too long. But now that he is comfortable with me, he will ';get off'; within 2 minutes sometimes less . I just wondered if there is any supplements he can take that will make him last longer or is it just something i have to deal with?Why does my husband prematurely ejaculate and what can we do about it?
just make him go a second time, most guys won't got that fast twiceWhy does my husband prematurely ejaculate and what can we do about it?
No, you don't have to deal with it. Premature ejaculation is usually a function of conditioning. The best way to overcome it is by training.
When he feels as though he is about to finish he should stop calm down for a few seconds and restart. This is during sex AND masterbation.
Also, varying his intensity early in the act to minimize his stimulation early on will slow things down a bit.
Lastly, foreplay is the enemy of premature ejaculation. Too much foreplay means too eager a participant which can mean hairtrigger disease.
If you don't use condoms this can also decrease the sensation of the act giving him a bit more stamina.
Try these things they should help.
I have a friend who suffers from this (and no it is not me it is actually a friend) what he does is he gets his girlfriend to jerk him off and then they play around for 5 minutes and then have sex. he lasted longer and in his words ';she won for the first time after that';
as well as that if your husband is not comfortable about doing anything serious to help the problem you dont have to tell him your jerking him off to stop the pre ejac
and lastly wear a condom when you have sex. a recent study (and by that i mean me and 6 friends) we found that wearing a condom slowed us down by at least 30 seconds. so try it and have fun
Make sure you are real wet before he enters...the less friction, the more he can slip and slide and last longer
There are also ejaculation control exercises and the male multiple orgasm technique, they have both helped me last much longer...check this out: http://www.mistermanpower.net/Multiple_Male_Orgasms.cfm
Condoms reduce sensitivity of the penis. Alcohol also helps. You can also buy numbing cream that comes with a condom, or seperately
If you need a cost effective alternative, you could try banging a desk drawer closed on it beforehand
just make him go a second time, most guys won't got that fast twiceWhy does my husband prematurely ejaculate and what can we do about it?
No, you don't have to deal with it. Premature ejaculation is usually a function of conditioning. The best way to overcome it is by training.
When he feels as though he is about to finish he should stop calm down for a few seconds and restart. This is during sex AND masterbation.
Also, varying his intensity early in the act to minimize his stimulation early on will slow things down a bit.
Lastly, foreplay is the enemy of premature ejaculation. Too much foreplay means too eager a participant which can mean hairtrigger disease.
If you don't use condoms this can also decrease the sensation of the act giving him a bit more stamina.
Try these things they should help.
I have a friend who suffers from this (and no it is not me it is actually a friend) what he does is he gets his girlfriend to jerk him off and then they play around for 5 minutes and then have sex. he lasted longer and in his words ';she won for the first time after that';
as well as that if your husband is not comfortable about doing anything serious to help the problem you dont have to tell him your jerking him off to stop the pre ejac
and lastly wear a condom when you have sex. a recent study (and by that i mean me and 6 friends) we found that wearing a condom slowed us down by at least 30 seconds. so try it and have fun
Make sure you are real wet before he enters...the less friction, the more he can slip and slide and last longer
There are also ejaculation control exercises and the male multiple orgasm technique, they have both helped me last much longer...check this out: http://www.mistermanpower.net/Multiple_Male_Orgasms.cfm
Condoms reduce sensitivity of the penis. Alcohol also helps. You can also buy numbing cream that comes with a condom, or seperately
If you need a cost effective alternative, you could try banging a desk drawer closed on it beforehand
Will i be granted a tourist visa visiting my husband in the US?
will i be granted a tourist visa on a purpose of visiting my husband? (philippines to usa)....we are married for about a year now... but i wanted to visit him to meet his family. he is going to apply for his citizenship by this year. I am an elected officer here in the philippines and planning to file a leave for 3 months if they grant me a visa.. is there any possibilities that they will grant me a tourist visa? what are the requirements?Will i be granted a tourist visa visiting my husband in the US?
I am guessing that your husband has not yet petitioned you via K-3 visa as he is NOT yet a US citizen. After that, K-3 takes about a year to process. So it is 2 more years for you to wait assuming all goes well.
Your reason for coming to the US in order to visit your husband will raise red flags as the chances of you overstaying on your B2 visa is great. (You have no reason to return back to the Philippines as your husband is here in the US. 'No sufficient family ties in the Philippines' as the consul will put it.)
The normal requirements are proof of funds to finance your trip, i.e. roundtrip plane ticket, funds for the 3 month duration of your stay. Bank statements (in your name) for the past 6 months showing adequate funds. Good reasons to justify that you will return after your trip. Certification of permanent employment and salary.
If your elected position is a city councilor or higher, this may just be good enough reason to make the consul believe that you will return.
I hope you will be able to visit your husband. BTW I heard that they temporarily stopped the scheduling of interviews as they are fully booked until July end. Better check. Good luck in your application.**Will i be granted a tourist visa visiting my husband in the US?
A 21 year old elected officer who can take a three-month vacation? There is a remote possibility that you may be issued a visa, but the fact that your husband is in the US is not in your favor. It is most likely that you will be seen as a potential overstay.
You will have to apply at the embassy like everyone else - make an appointment through the on-line VisaPoint system, pre-pay the US$100 application fee, fill out the application form, and bring all of your documents to your interview.
http://usembassy.state.gov/manila/wwwhni鈥?/a>
I am guessing that your husband has not yet petitioned you via K-3 visa as he is NOT yet a US citizen. After that, K-3 takes about a year to process. So it is 2 more years for you to wait assuming all goes well.
Your reason for coming to the US in order to visit your husband will raise red flags as the chances of you overstaying on your B2 visa is great. (You have no reason to return back to the Philippines as your husband is here in the US. 'No sufficient family ties in the Philippines' as the consul will put it.)
The normal requirements are proof of funds to finance your trip, i.e. roundtrip plane ticket, funds for the 3 month duration of your stay. Bank statements (in your name) for the past 6 months showing adequate funds. Good reasons to justify that you will return after your trip. Certification of permanent employment and salary.
If your elected position is a city councilor or higher, this may just be good enough reason to make the consul believe that you will return.
I hope you will be able to visit your husband. BTW I heard that they temporarily stopped the scheduling of interviews as they are fully booked until July end. Better check. Good luck in your application.**Will i be granted a tourist visa visiting my husband in the US?
A 21 year old elected officer who can take a three-month vacation? There is a remote possibility that you may be issued a visa, but the fact that your husband is in the US is not in your favor. It is most likely that you will be seen as a potential overstay.
You will have to apply at the embassy like everyone else - make an appointment through the on-line VisaPoint system, pre-pay the US$100 application fee, fill out the application form, and bring all of your documents to your interview.
http://usembassy.state.gov/manila/wwwhni鈥?/a>
If my husband was killed in an accident, is it normal for me to fear for my children's lives?
My husband was hit by a train and killed right in front of our house when he was 27 years old. My kids were 3 and 1 years old. Ever since then and even more so when my children became old enough to drive, I have been extremely fearful of something happening to my kids. My kids tell me that I am paranoid. Is this normal after something traumatic like this happens?If my husband was killed in an accident, is it normal for me to fear for my children's lives?
my dad died in a car wreck and ever since then I worry about my kids and my husband, my kids are still small but I know that one day that time will come and I am going to be very paranoid. I think it is because when something like that happens you never forget how it made you feel, and with them driving it brings back the same sort of feelings.If my husband was killed in an accident, is it normal for me to fear for my children's lives?
How long has it been since you lost your husband?? I think yes, it is normal to worry about them, its called being a mother. Most Mothers are paranoid to a certain extent, when it comes to their offspring. I understand that it had to be devastating to lose someone you love in such a horrible way and I also understand you couldn't bear to have something happen to them. Just as long as you still let your children have their own space. Even though we want to keep them as close to us as possible, its not really possible. Your little birds will have to fly and try their own wings. If you try to stop them, they will only resent you for it. Just put your trust and faith in God that he will take care of them. Thats about all you can do for now. May God bless you today and always...
It's normal and predictable but you don't have to stay in that mentality. Get some counseling or therapy to get your mind balanced again. It's separation anxiety. It's always been there since you lost your husband, and now that the kids are becoming more independent (and getting closer to the age your husband was when the accident occurred) the separation anxiety is becoming more acute. Get help with this! You can be much happier than this.
It's completely normal. You went through something extremely tragic. You already lost one of your loved ones and now you are worried you are going to lose another. Therapy might help, or time. But it is normal.
i'm paranoid of my daughter driving without tragedy like that!!!
it's a parent's worst fear
i tell her Never to drive drunk, i will cover the Cab bill, no questions asked
%26amp; every time she leaves ';Buckle Up';
It's normal to be worried about your kids even if you didn't experience the trauma of your husband being killed in an accident.
You said that you are extremely fearful though, if these fears are making it difficult for you to function or hampering your allowing your children to have the freedom and space that they need, then you should speak to a therapist or some type of mental health professional. There is no reason you, or your children, should have to live with unwarranted fears.
In the meantime explain your fears to your kids and set some rules that will help a little, like giving a quick call when they reach their destination and always calling if they are going to be late. In trade you have to agree to no lecturing or nagging when these calls are made, or they are not going to comply.
Best of luck to you.
Yes. You are afraid you will relive the pain of the loss of your husband.
Yes you are being paranoid. Remember, you cant control fate and misfortune. Every single human being is vulnerable to bad luck and nothing anyone can do can change that. The more you just let go and live life instead of trying to control it the more your spirit will be free.
Happiness is all in the mind/imagination, so is pain, misery, fear and suffering.
I would certainly think that such a traumatic experience could affect how you feel now.
I think it is quite normal to worry about your kids safety when they are out driving especially when they are teenagers.
But if they are adults, there is nothing you can do that worrying will change.
http://themeaningisyou.com
You are fine and no you are not a worry wart. I have not been thru that but I can imagine that if I were then I would not want my son to leave my sight. This is something that you have to work with your kids about, when they are old enough to have there own children, only then will they understand. For us parents, we will always worry about the sake of our children and when something so dramatic happens you cant help be be this way. Just remember that they will understand one day, and that you are going to make it just fine.
Yes, it is normal, but it can also be both debhilitating, and bothersome to your kids. I would suggest that you talk to a counselor about what happened. They will be able to help you come to accept what happened, and let go of the fear you have now. I think every parent fears for their kids safety, but if you are so worried that it is affecting you negatively, you should really do something to help yourself. I like to remind myself that everything is just the way it is supposed to be, and I have no control of what happens to others. I can only pray for the best, and have faith that everything is going to happen exactly as it is supposed to. My condolences for the loss of your husband. My prayers are with you all.
Initially I think it's normal. Some people, even if they don't actively believe this, have anxiety over the ';things happen in threes'; theory. But so much later in time? Counseling would benefit, and probably you'd be quickly reassured. I was taking flying lessons at the time my Dad died in a car accident. My family immediately demanded I stop. And I did, to honor my families wishes, but also because the training planes at my new location were in poor condition. But my family eventually got over it and my nephew took flying lessons. But I never went back, as it is a costly little hobby.
Good luck Sweetie! Blessings! - Bunny
Yes, but no it's normal to want to make sure that they're ok and every once in awhile check up on them, but don't be over protective, I'm only 16 and I'm some time worried about my family and friends, and that has only happened to me since my uncle Terry died in a car wreck, now like i said i want to make sure my friends and family are ok, but some time i do catch myself being over protective and they tell me to back off and give them some air, and i do but i still worry about them alot.. so tell your kids you love them and care about their safety if they say sumthing again about you being paraniod, I'm a teen and I'd understand if you told me that.
my dad died in a car wreck and ever since then I worry about my kids and my husband, my kids are still small but I know that one day that time will come and I am going to be very paranoid. I think it is because when something like that happens you never forget how it made you feel, and with them driving it brings back the same sort of feelings.If my husband was killed in an accident, is it normal for me to fear for my children's lives?
How long has it been since you lost your husband?? I think yes, it is normal to worry about them, its called being a mother. Most Mothers are paranoid to a certain extent, when it comes to their offspring. I understand that it had to be devastating to lose someone you love in such a horrible way and I also understand you couldn't bear to have something happen to them. Just as long as you still let your children have their own space. Even though we want to keep them as close to us as possible, its not really possible. Your little birds will have to fly and try their own wings. If you try to stop them, they will only resent you for it. Just put your trust and faith in God that he will take care of them. Thats about all you can do for now. May God bless you today and always...
It's normal and predictable but you don't have to stay in that mentality. Get some counseling or therapy to get your mind balanced again. It's separation anxiety. It's always been there since you lost your husband, and now that the kids are becoming more independent (and getting closer to the age your husband was when the accident occurred) the separation anxiety is becoming more acute. Get help with this! You can be much happier than this.
It's completely normal. You went through something extremely tragic. You already lost one of your loved ones and now you are worried you are going to lose another. Therapy might help, or time. But it is normal.
i'm paranoid of my daughter driving without tragedy like that!!!
it's a parent's worst fear
i tell her Never to drive drunk, i will cover the Cab bill, no questions asked
%26amp; every time she leaves ';Buckle Up';
It's normal to be worried about your kids even if you didn't experience the trauma of your husband being killed in an accident.
You said that you are extremely fearful though, if these fears are making it difficult for you to function or hampering your allowing your children to have the freedom and space that they need, then you should speak to a therapist or some type of mental health professional. There is no reason you, or your children, should have to live with unwarranted fears.
In the meantime explain your fears to your kids and set some rules that will help a little, like giving a quick call when they reach their destination and always calling if they are going to be late. In trade you have to agree to no lecturing or nagging when these calls are made, or they are not going to comply.
Best of luck to you.
Yes. You are afraid you will relive the pain of the loss of your husband.
Yes you are being paranoid. Remember, you cant control fate and misfortune. Every single human being is vulnerable to bad luck and nothing anyone can do can change that. The more you just let go and live life instead of trying to control it the more your spirit will be free.
Happiness is all in the mind/imagination, so is pain, misery, fear and suffering.
I would certainly think that such a traumatic experience could affect how you feel now.
I think it is quite normal to worry about your kids safety when they are out driving especially when they are teenagers.
But if they are adults, there is nothing you can do that worrying will change.
http://themeaningisyou.com
You are fine and no you are not a worry wart. I have not been thru that but I can imagine that if I were then I would not want my son to leave my sight. This is something that you have to work with your kids about, when they are old enough to have there own children, only then will they understand. For us parents, we will always worry about the sake of our children and when something so dramatic happens you cant help be be this way. Just remember that they will understand one day, and that you are going to make it just fine.
Yes, it is normal, but it can also be both debhilitating, and bothersome to your kids. I would suggest that you talk to a counselor about what happened. They will be able to help you come to accept what happened, and let go of the fear you have now. I think every parent fears for their kids safety, but if you are so worried that it is affecting you negatively, you should really do something to help yourself. I like to remind myself that everything is just the way it is supposed to be, and I have no control of what happens to others. I can only pray for the best, and have faith that everything is going to happen exactly as it is supposed to. My condolences for the loss of your husband. My prayers are with you all.
Initially I think it's normal. Some people, even if they don't actively believe this, have anxiety over the ';things happen in threes'; theory. But so much later in time? Counseling would benefit, and probably you'd be quickly reassured. I was taking flying lessons at the time my Dad died in a car accident. My family immediately demanded I stop. And I did, to honor my families wishes, but also because the training planes at my new location were in poor condition. But my family eventually got over it and my nephew took flying lessons. But I never went back, as it is a costly little hobby.
Good luck Sweetie! Blessings! - Bunny
Yes, but no it's normal to want to make sure that they're ok and every once in awhile check up on them, but don't be over protective, I'm only 16 and I'm some time worried about my family and friends, and that has only happened to me since my uncle Terry died in a car wreck, now like i said i want to make sure my friends and family are ok, but some time i do catch myself being over protective and they tell me to back off and give them some air, and i do but i still worry about them alot.. so tell your kids you love them and care about their safety if they say sumthing again about you being paraniod, I'm a teen and I'd understand if you told me that.
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