Why isn't my new husband treating my eight year boy the way I want him to?

My son is from my first marriage and at the beginning my husband was trying to convince me to bring my son to live with us. I was reluctant but I did it because I missed my son. However, seems like he is not exactly what I envisioned a stepdad to be. He is not abusive to him but he doesn't do much for him like he is my only responsibility which doesn't fly with me. What is your opinion on stepdad's treatment and if it's commmon.Why isn't my new husband treating my eight year boy the way I want him to?
Yes, it is common, so you might try to teach your new husband how you want him to interact with your son.





Does he have children of his own? If not, then he may just not know how to be a parent.





This really should have been discussed before you married him, but it still isn't too late.Why isn't my new husband treating my eight year boy the way I want him to?
Why were you so reluctant to have your son live with you? It may not change because that may just be who he is. He may be trying to feel the waters and see how much of a father he is supposed to be to him. Who knows. Your only way to tell is to talk to him. He is your husband, you should feel like you should be able to talk to him about anything. My stepdad was like a dad from the beginning and he never changed. In fact I call him dad and he's the best dad that I could have ever asked for. On the other hand, my husbands step dad kind of ignored him and his brother from day one but expected his mom to bond with his kids. He never changed and him and my husband do not have a good relationship. Just always remember that he is your son and his needs come first.
Well, you should have had a conversation with your new husband about how he feels about becoming a father and how much of role he'd feel comfortable doing BEFORE getting married. Time to have that talk now and ask him what is wrong because your son will pick up on the lack of affection and attention that stepdad is showing and will internalize the negative feelings which will forever affect him.
I think it is common. He may not know exactly what is expected of him so it's up to you to let him know. How do you feel about him discipling your son? Would it upset you? Maybe he thinks it would. You need to lay out what you want him to do/not do. Maybe they should have some father/son bonding time alone while you go to the spa or shopping.
a stepdad is supposed to be just like a dad.. deffinatley not abbusive.. but he may be a little scared to act like the dad person because it is not his biological child and thats totally normal.. they should get along and make sure that your son always comes first
kids come 1st ..if anyone abused my child the cops would be there.


A realtionship with you doesnt mean jurisdiction over your child. When my (ex) husband became abusive with our daughter ..I threw him through a door and down a flight of stairs
Im sorry but





Stepdads are total assholes





Put the son back with his dad





Don't ruin his life...