Issue with him taking a co-worker to dinner. States it was business. Yet, she is the same level as him. I told him any business is to be discussed at work, not dinner. This was an arguement. He now has told her no. But, states that he didn't see anything wrong with it. I told him this is how things get started either physically or emotionally.
He states wouldn't happen, he knows himself. Yet, he can't love me the way christ loved the church, but he can avoid an emotional attachment to another women?????? How can this be??????How can a husband state to love his wife like God loved the church is a tall order, but?
He seems to believe that 'giving space' to another woman is no big deal, becuase it's not actually 'doing anything wrong.'
However, most adultury begins with the baby steps of 'giving space' (ie talking to someone of the opposite sex on the phone, letting themselvs think of someone else, just spending time with them at all), becuase it is easy for them to rationalize to themselvs that they are not doing anything wrong (';I'ts just talking!';) however these actions become bigger, and the person allows themselvs to do more, and they rationalize more and more things as ';well, we talked on the phone, what difference is it if we have a coffee together and talk?'; then ';well, we had a coffee together, how is it any different really if we have a coffee alone at their house?'; and they just keep lying to themselvs and taken one step closer to the edge.
Before they know it they have maken a grave mistake and destroyed all trust in their relationship, which even they actually regret, but thus is the steep, steep price of compramise.
Jesus helps prevent this when he says ';If you look upon a woman lustfully you have already commited adultary in your heart';, for even looking upon a woman to lust is already 'giving that space' and is a betrayl! You already have that intention in your heart to betray.
If you see these early signs in your relationship I suggest OPEN AND HONEST communication, ie TELL HIM EXACTLY how you feel.... It might be vulnrable and scary and you will worry that you will look bad, but if he is a true husband and man of God he will act only EVER to make his wife happy and take her insecuirtys away and do ANYTHING IT TAKES to ensure he is faithful FOREVER.
God is faithful...How can a husband state to love his wife like God loved the church is a tall order, but?
Is your husband a church goer, is he as devoted to this man christ as much as you think he is, or is he full of s*it like I suspect he really is?
Whether or not you want to believe it, christianity won't save your husband from being a cheat, only he can do that.
I don't believe in god, and I have no respect for religion, so do yourself a favour and put your faith in you gut and common sense!
If you think he's up to no good then he probably is, so use your head and get a bloody good lawyer, I'm sure your god wouldn't want you ro stay with a liar.
Matt. 19: 5
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
A friend of mine tried the same thing. He had a ';jogging friend'; that was female. He is now divorced, he has lost his family, his wife, and even his ';jogging friend.'; We strongly counseled him that he was playing with fire but he believed that this ';would never happen to him';. His wife ignorantly thought, ';I'll just trust him.'; She was also not wise.
Set boundaries together and help each other to keep them. All have a moment of weakness and fall however if you are never in a compromising situation then there will be no opportunity.
Wisdom: One that does not wish to fall from a cliff stays far away from the edge.
Perhaps if it truly was just business he bring you along??? If I have a meeting out of work with another man I'd bring my hubby. But let it be known he doesn't have to go to dinner with her to grow attached, this can all very easily happen in the hours at work. Maybe you guys shold pray together, or seek a little counseling, for those trust issues.
The situation you described is how things get started in adultery. If it is just a business dinner, tell him you would like to go along. Or if it were unavoidable that he must go, he should wait until you could go.
Women know when their husband is cheating. If you don't know it, don't accuse him of it.
If you know it, don't ask us. Just leave him.
God and prayer in the name of Jesus is always the answer to any of our problems or worries. Take this and all things to Christ.
take care.
All that is a little too deep for me.
Friday, April 30, 2010
What can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
New activities are a good way to bring back that connection.
Take a class together, travel, go skydiving, etc. Share new experiences.
After awhile we are so familiar with our partners that it seems there is nothing left to surprise us. Seeing them in a new situation reminds us what attracted us in the first place, and helps us appreciate them as a person, not just our partner.What can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
Love is not a feeling it is a choice
The question is does she still want to be in the marriage or if there is some one else.
My friend is celebrating his 30th something wedding anniversary next month. AMAZING!
And he says,
It is about you and your partner
And how important your vows are, your marriage is
Sometimes happy
Sometimes angry
BUT THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS PEOPLE SHOULD NOT DO
Don't spend the night else where
Don't leave out of anger
It is okay to sleep on the sofa,
It is okay to be angry for a month
But you both need to be committed to the marriage
All those happy pictures are the memories for the times you had to work through problems.
Otherwise people would have quit elementary school by the 3rd gradeWhat can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
Just leave without cheating and taking him to the cleaners. My wife cheated and then ran up a bunch of bills before she left with another guy. I'm stuck paying them off and that kind of thing is a monthly reminder that doesn't go away for a long time.
Counseling.
Or you can stop holding out.
Get drunk and f*ck his brains out and start from there.
Sometimes women think sex isn't a major part of a relationship, but that intimacy says a lot.(And then there is an oppourtunity for dialog..)
Give them a gift..the following book and tell them to read a chapter a night together and discuss it.
';The Five Love Languages'; by Gary Chapman
This book has actually brought 1000's of marriages back from the dead.
There is nothing you can do...Once that love is gone is it hard to recapture..He must have done something to kill that love...you don't just stop for no reason..You probably just need to move on and let it go and start over.
you need to go to a therapist and find out what is wrong with you it is not your husband it is you.you think it is greener on the other side i got news for you wrong.
It comes a time in a marriage where you will no longer experience romantic love, but just love.spots bloom-
Take a class together, travel, go skydiving, etc. Share new experiences.
After awhile we are so familiar with our partners that it seems there is nothing left to surprise us. Seeing them in a new situation reminds us what attracted us in the first place, and helps us appreciate them as a person, not just our partner.What can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
Love is not a feeling it is a choice
The question is does she still want to be in the marriage or if there is some one else.
My friend is celebrating his 30th something wedding anniversary next month. AMAZING!
And he says,
It is about you and your partner
And how important your vows are, your marriage is
Sometimes happy
Sometimes angry
BUT THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS PEOPLE SHOULD NOT DO
Don't spend the night else where
Don't leave out of anger
It is okay to sleep on the sofa,
It is okay to be angry for a month
But you both need to be committed to the marriage
All those happy pictures are the memories for the times you had to work through problems.
Otherwise people would have quit elementary school by the 3rd gradeWhat can a wife do when she stops loving her husband? Any tips for her for loving him again?
Just leave without cheating and taking him to the cleaners. My wife cheated and then ran up a bunch of bills before she left with another guy. I'm stuck paying them off and that kind of thing is a monthly reminder that doesn't go away for a long time.
Counseling.
Or you can stop holding out.
Get drunk and f*ck his brains out and start from there.
Sometimes women think sex isn't a major part of a relationship, but that intimacy says a lot.(And then there is an oppourtunity for dialog..)
Give them a gift..the following book and tell them to read a chapter a night together and discuss it.
';The Five Love Languages'; by Gary Chapman
This book has actually brought 1000's of marriages back from the dead.
There is nothing you can do...Once that love is gone is it hard to recapture..He must have done something to kill that love...you don't just stop for no reason..You probably just need to move on and let it go and start over.
you need to go to a therapist and find out what is wrong with you it is not your husband it is you.you think it is greener on the other side i got news for you wrong.
It comes a time in a marriage where you will no longer experience romantic love, but just love.
Where is the husband/boyfriend of the 66 year old pregnant woman?
On the front page of yahoo,it says pregnant at 66.I just watched the video and it only showed the woman,where is the father of the baby?Where is the husband/boyfriend of the 66 year old pregnant woman?
Of course there's no father silly, that would mean that someone had morals and followed the laws of God. According to popular consensus these days, fathers and marriage are optional... quite frankly this attitude disgusts me as much as a doctor having the lack of morals to give a 66 year old woman IVF!! Hell in a hand basket, that's were this world is headed.Where is the husband/boyfriend of the 66 year old pregnant woman?
Hello?? A 66-year-old woman wouldn't be able to conceive naturally. Most women go through menopause in their 50's, some as early as their 40's. Which is why I believe that nobody should undergo IVF after they have gone through ';the change';. It shouldn't be allowed legally. Which is why this woman went to the Ukraine to do it, since they don't have laws against it as they do in US and UK (age 50 is the limit). She probably is single. On the news story I watched, it said she went through IVF.
Um, does it matter? People here are worried about their own pregnancies, not of some unknown father of a 66 year old pregnant woman.
She is divorced there is no man in her life, she got pregnant from a sperm donor using IVF.
shes single there is no father she concieved the child through IVF using a donor egg and sperm..
She had in vitro fertilization done in the Ukraine I believe. They don't age discriminate there.
does it matter no one will ever know it was a treatment through IVF look it up and do research!
Of course there's no father silly, that would mean that someone had morals and followed the laws of God. According to popular consensus these days, fathers and marriage are optional... quite frankly this attitude disgusts me as much as a doctor having the lack of morals to give a 66 year old woman IVF!! Hell in a hand basket, that's were this world is headed.Where is the husband/boyfriend of the 66 year old pregnant woman?
Hello?? A 66-year-old woman wouldn't be able to conceive naturally. Most women go through menopause in their 50's, some as early as their 40's. Which is why I believe that nobody should undergo IVF after they have gone through ';the change';. It shouldn't be allowed legally. Which is why this woman went to the Ukraine to do it, since they don't have laws against it as they do in US and UK (age 50 is the limit). She probably is single. On the news story I watched, it said she went through IVF.
Um, does it matter? People here are worried about their own pregnancies, not of some unknown father of a 66 year old pregnant woman.
She is divorced there is no man in her life, she got pregnant from a sperm donor using IVF.
shes single there is no father she concieved the child through IVF using a donor egg and sperm..
She had in vitro fertilization done in the Ukraine I believe. They don't age discriminate there.
does it matter no one will ever know it was a treatment through IVF look it up and do research!
What do I have to do to live with my husband in AIT?
My husband graduates from Fort Jackson in July and will be going to AIT for 9 months. (His MOS is EOD) I'm clueless as to who I get ahold of or talk to about living with him until I ship out to basic in October. Help! I wanna be able to spend a little time with him until I go to basic and AIT.What do I have to do to live with my husband in AIT?
Since his AIT is more than 6 months, he just needs to talk to the people in his chain of command. Fairly simple process, but he has to do it, not you.What do I have to do to live with my husband in AIT?
Kinda in the same situation but on a different level. My husband's AIT is over 21 weeks but now with the relocating they are doing with the bases they aren't allowing dependents to move unless it's over a 9 month AIT... Thankfully my husband got moved to another base for AIT and it happens to be one 45 minutes away, but he still isn't allowed to stay off base with us.
But he will have to be the one to contact his SGT and find out if you are on his AIT orders and allowed housing via the Army
you can move in with him when he gets to eglin afb
Since his AIT is more than 6 months, he just needs to talk to the people in his chain of command. Fairly simple process, but he has to do it, not you.What do I have to do to live with my husband in AIT?
Kinda in the same situation but on a different level. My husband's AIT is over 21 weeks but now with the relocating they are doing with the bases they aren't allowing dependents to move unless it's over a 9 month AIT... Thankfully my husband got moved to another base for AIT and it happens to be one 45 minutes away, but he still isn't allowed to stay off base with us.
But he will have to be the one to contact his SGT and find out if you are on his AIT orders and allowed housing via the Army
you can move in with him when he gets to eglin afb
A quiche my husband will like?
My husband in a meat and potatoes guy but I have to get rid of some things in the refrigerator...two of them being eggs and feta cheese. I thought some sort of quiche with feta in it would be great, but I am having trouble finding one that a ';meat and potatoes guy'; will like.
Does anyone have a good recipe or ideas?A quiche my husband will like?
My favorite website is epicurious.com - I believe that you will find some fantastic information on egg recipes and others as well. Peace!A quiche my husband will like?
Mile High Quiche
Pastry to fit bottom and side of a 9-inch springform pan ( I use Pet Ritz 9 inch deep dish pie crust)
1 pound sliced bacon
3 cups natural feta Cheese
6 whole eggs
1 egg yolk (save white to brush on crust)
1-1/4 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon nutmeg
1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
dash of cayenne pepper
3 cups light cream
2 green onions, chopped (optional)
Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Fit the pie crust into the springform pan. Brush the pie crust with the egg white. Fry the bacon until crisp; drain and crumble. Sprinkle the bacon and then the green onions over the bottom of the crust. Sprinkle the grated cheese over the bacon and onions. In a large bowl add the whole eggs, egg yolk, salt, nutmeg, pepper, cayenne, and beat mixture until well combined, but not frothy. Slowly, pour the mixture over the bacon and cheese in the pie shell. Bake 50-55 minutes, or until top is a golden brown and puffy and the center seems firm when it is gently pressed with fingertips. Remove to a wire rack and let cool 15 minutes. With a sharp knife, loosen edge of pastry from the side of the pan, and gently remove side of springform pan. Leave the bottom of pan in place and put on a serving plate to serve. Serve warm.
this isn't quiche but it's darn good! we call it bunch for brunch soufle take like a 6 eggs whip them up cut up a few slices of bread pick a type of breakfast meat or we've even made it with steak %26amp; liked it more! then chop it up into bite sized pieces add whatever cheese you want add some milk some seasonings whatever you normally like on your eggs peel %26amp; chop some poatatoes %26amp; you just mix it all up with the eggs %26amp; put it in a baking dish then put it in the fridge for at least 2 hours then bake it at 375 for like 40 minutes or until it's done i've also gone so far as to puree veggies %26amp; mix them in %26amp; nobody could tell the difference....but if he doesn't mind veggies you can just chop them up too
crumble up about 1/2 lb sausage and fry to remove grease, while the sausage is frying, peel and shred/grate about 3 potatoes. drain sausage. get your eggs beaten. layer potatoes, sausage, cheese and eggs in crust follow rest of your favorite quiche recipe for cooking time
par bake your crust( I use store bought)for 5 mins at 350
remove and let cool...line the bottom of your crust with feta ....top with thinly sliced onions(leeks are great to)...set a side
add 4 eggs%26amp; 3/4 Cup milk 1/2 tsp salt 1/4 tsp pepper to your blender or food pro.blend well...then pour over cheese and onions...bake at 350 for 45 mins or until puffed and brown.
for your quiche, get some artichoke hearts , green olives, and prosciutto for your base mix and add the feta on top before you bake. when i have left over eggs and cheese i like to make popovers. put the cheese in as soon as they are done baking.
Bacon and asparagus quiche.
Superb.
There are none.
Real men don't eat quiche. LOL
bacon and um something else in the fridge
Does anyone have a good recipe or ideas?A quiche my husband will like?
My favorite website is epicurious.com - I believe that you will find some fantastic information on egg recipes and others as well. Peace!A quiche my husband will like?
Mile High Quiche
Pastry to fit bottom and side of a 9-inch springform pan ( I use Pet Ritz 9 inch deep dish pie crust)
1 pound sliced bacon
3 cups natural feta Cheese
6 whole eggs
1 egg yolk (save white to brush on crust)
1-1/4 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon nutmeg
1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
dash of cayenne pepper
3 cups light cream
2 green onions, chopped (optional)
Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Fit the pie crust into the springform pan. Brush the pie crust with the egg white. Fry the bacon until crisp; drain and crumble. Sprinkle the bacon and then the green onions over the bottom of the crust. Sprinkle the grated cheese over the bacon and onions. In a large bowl add the whole eggs, egg yolk, salt, nutmeg, pepper, cayenne, and beat mixture until well combined, but not frothy. Slowly, pour the mixture over the bacon and cheese in the pie shell. Bake 50-55 minutes, or until top is a golden brown and puffy and the center seems firm when it is gently pressed with fingertips. Remove to a wire rack and let cool 15 minutes. With a sharp knife, loosen edge of pastry from the side of the pan, and gently remove side of springform pan. Leave the bottom of pan in place and put on a serving plate to serve. Serve warm.
this isn't quiche but it's darn good! we call it bunch for brunch soufle take like a 6 eggs whip them up cut up a few slices of bread pick a type of breakfast meat or we've even made it with steak %26amp; liked it more! then chop it up into bite sized pieces add whatever cheese you want add some milk some seasonings whatever you normally like on your eggs peel %26amp; chop some poatatoes %26amp; you just mix it all up with the eggs %26amp; put it in a baking dish then put it in the fridge for at least 2 hours then bake it at 375 for like 40 minutes or until it's done i've also gone so far as to puree veggies %26amp; mix them in %26amp; nobody could tell the difference....but if he doesn't mind veggies you can just chop them up too
crumble up about 1/2 lb sausage and fry to remove grease, while the sausage is frying, peel and shred/grate about 3 potatoes. drain sausage. get your eggs beaten. layer potatoes, sausage, cheese and eggs in crust follow rest of your favorite quiche recipe for cooking time
par bake your crust( I use store bought)for 5 mins at 350
remove and let cool...line the bottom of your crust with feta ....top with thinly sliced onions(leeks are great to)...set a side
add 4 eggs%26amp; 3/4 Cup milk 1/2 tsp salt 1/4 tsp pepper to your blender or food pro.blend well...then pour over cheese and onions...bake at 350 for 45 mins or until puffed and brown.
for your quiche, get some artichoke hearts , green olives, and prosciutto for your base mix and add the feta on top before you bake. when i have left over eggs and cheese i like to make popovers. put the cheese in as soon as they are done baking.
Bacon and asparagus quiche.
Superb.
There are none.
Real men don't eat quiche. LOL
bacon and um something else in the fridge
How many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
Although I am not fat, never been fat and I have a nice body, i still notice stretch marks on my hips. I really hate them!
What do your husband/ boyfriend think of your stretch marks?
And what do you do to make them go away?
Now, I am starting to use apple cider vinegar and cocoa butter
hope it helps.
Please share your story lol
And guys also can participate if you have stretch marks like us lolHow many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
I am skinny and have strech marks on my hips. I talked about that to my bf, who is very open about these conversations and he said and I quote: ';Hun, men don't care about cellulite and strech marks, it's the overall picture that matters, not the details';. And he proved me right. He is not the first man to give me this answer.How many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
I'm only thirteen an i have stretch marks, bought i use vitamin E , any moisturizers that have it are a bit of help, apply it when ever you want i guess, but the more often the better its going to work, cocoa butter also works well.
but just because you have stretch marks does not mean your fat, I'm not fat at all.
you can get them from just growing to fast for your boy, like when you hit puberty an your hips widen, if it happens to fast stretch marks will come.
but its also from being fat but if you say your not its probably not that reason.
they are there for the long haul unless you can afford plastic surgery. he loves them because he says they are part of me and the show that i have children.
What do your husband/ boyfriend think of your stretch marks?
And what do you do to make them go away?
Now, I am starting to use apple cider vinegar and cocoa butter
hope it helps.
Please share your story lol
And guys also can participate if you have stretch marks like us lolHow many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
I am skinny and have strech marks on my hips. I talked about that to my bf, who is very open about these conversations and he said and I quote: ';Hun, men don't care about cellulite and strech marks, it's the overall picture that matters, not the details';. And he proved me right. He is not the first man to give me this answer.How many of you have stretch marks? What does you husband/bf think?
I'm only thirteen an i have stretch marks, bought i use vitamin E , any moisturizers that have it are a bit of help, apply it when ever you want i guess, but the more often the better its going to work, cocoa butter also works well.
but just because you have stretch marks does not mean your fat, I'm not fat at all.
you can get them from just growing to fast for your boy, like when you hit puberty an your hips widen, if it happens to fast stretch marks will come.
but its also from being fat but if you say your not its probably not that reason.
they are there for the long haul unless you can afford plastic surgery. he loves them because he says they are part of me and the show that i have children.
Why does my husband say I have a problem?
My husband says I have a problem with my spending, but we have a budget and I stick to it. Generally, I save a couple hundred a month! Anyways he gets all weird when I buy something for myself, usually under $100.00, and complains for days. Is there something wrong with buying something nice for myself every now and again when I manage our finances so well? And no I do not work outside of the home. Am I weird or is he stingy?Why does my husband say I have a problem?
My wife just spends....I do the finances and have to juggle the checkbook. I would be OVERJOYED if she would ONLY spend a couple hundred a month......
He needs a case of reality. It sounds like you're doing a great job!Why does my husband say I have a problem?
We only hear your side of the story; you don't share his viewpoint. So, my response is...it depends.
Do you ever buy him something with the money you save?
Are you you buying lower quality items in one area in order to have money to purchase gifts for yourself?
Do you ever use the money for something you two can enjoy together: a getaway, home improvement, etc.?
Perhaps he feels that just because you have a few extra dollars now, that doesn't mean you should spend it. The economy is in a very unpredictable state. In fact, it's likely to get worse before it gets better. Perhaps these little niceties you buy for yourself aren't the wisest investment these days.
No there is nothing wrong as long as you are not in debt. If you have debt you should pay it off and save as much as you can.
If you dont have much or any debt then there is no problem buying yourself stuff. Clearly you married a penny pincher, a cheapskate, a man who will get upset about any money you spend for no reason. My ex was like that, glad I didnt marry him. My ex would be upset when I would buy 12 dollars worth of yarn to make a blanket!
Next time whenever you buy something nice for you, buy similar thing for him as well. Watch %26amp; enjoy the reaction.
if he is one who make money so he knows better about his job situation. but if in reality you don't need anything necessary for yourself then if he is saying don't buy then you don't.
He's way out of line on this attitude.
Im going to guess at this one!! I bet you dont have a job? He feels like he is being taking advatage of!
My wife just spends....I do the finances and have to juggle the checkbook. I would be OVERJOYED if she would ONLY spend a couple hundred a month......
He needs a case of reality. It sounds like you're doing a great job!Why does my husband say I have a problem?
We only hear your side of the story; you don't share his viewpoint. So, my response is...it depends.
Do you ever buy him something with the money you save?
Are you you buying lower quality items in one area in order to have money to purchase gifts for yourself?
Do you ever use the money for something you two can enjoy together: a getaway, home improvement, etc.?
Perhaps he feels that just because you have a few extra dollars now, that doesn't mean you should spend it. The economy is in a very unpredictable state. In fact, it's likely to get worse before it gets better. Perhaps these little niceties you buy for yourself aren't the wisest investment these days.
No there is nothing wrong as long as you are not in debt. If you have debt you should pay it off and save as much as you can.
If you dont have much or any debt then there is no problem buying yourself stuff. Clearly you married a penny pincher, a cheapskate, a man who will get upset about any money you spend for no reason. My ex was like that, glad I didnt marry him. My ex would be upset when I would buy 12 dollars worth of yarn to make a blanket!
Next time whenever you buy something nice for you, buy similar thing for him as well. Watch %26amp; enjoy the reaction.
if he is one who make money so he knows better about his job situation. but if in reality you don't need anything necessary for yourself then if he is saying don't buy then you don't.
He's way out of line on this attitude.
Im going to guess at this one!! I bet you dont have a job? He feels like he is being taking advatage of!
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